On boyfriends and girlfriends and what is normal?

[Tropics_Dude83]

If you are involved with someone in a long distance relationship, phone calls are a key part of keeping the spark alive. Some people just need to be able to make that phone call to feel secure. I was in a long-distance relationship last year where my girlfriend seemed to freak out if I called her. Like, on 5 seperate occasions, early evening on a Saturday, or mid-mornings on a Sunday, I would call my now ex-girlfriend and say "how, are you?". Her response to me would be to yell very harshly "I'm doing just great. I'll call you right back!" and then not call or on another occasion very harshly say "I'm fine" "I'll CALL YOU BACK" and then not. One time, I called and got the words "hey" out, when she screamed out her cell phone number "FIVE FIVE FIVE-FIVE FIVE FIVE FIVE FIVE" and then hung up on me and didn't answer when I called her cell. Then there was one occasion where I called, literally said "hey is now a good time to talk" and she screamed "probably not so much" and hung up immediately. Is this normal?

Like, sometimes since this was my first serious relationship, I wonder is this how things work?

Now, she would call me at 5:30 a.m. a lot or at 1:30 a.m. in the morning. I'd always take her calls even though I shouldn't have. It's not normal to call at 1:30, 2:30 or 5:30 in the mornings only is it? I know that some young people chat on the phone at 2:30 in the mornings so...I'm not sure. It's just that it was the only time we talked. It's not normal to hang up on me and treat me the way she did when I called is it?

I guess, is it wrong to call your girl? Like was she justified in treating me the way she did? This never happened because I had ticked her off beforehand. How could I. We were 8 hours apart.

As much as I don't want to believe it, this girl was probably not all there right? I'm still trying to recover from this as best as I can. That's why I ask.

Plus DU is a place where I can talk about this unlike other message boards where my threads would turn into flamewars.

Thanks for your time.

[GOPisEvil]

1. What? You are better off without her.

I am in an LDR now, and we talk almost daily. Sometimes I call when it isn't convenient, so she tells me she'd rather I call later, or she calls later. The key is we communicate. Some days we don't get a chance to talk and neither one of us freaks out. We're solid about where we stand and have total trust in one another.

Trust me, this woman was stringing you along. Anyone that treats you like an afterthought doesn't deserve to be a part of your life.

[regnaD kciN]

3. No kidding...

Trust me, this woman was stringing you along. Anyone that treats you like an afterthought doesn't deserve to be a part of your life.

To be brutally honest, the fact that she wouldn't take your calls on Saturday evenings or Sunday mid-mornings strongly suggests she was with someone else at the time. Good riddance!

[XemaSab]

2. That's bizarre, and you shouldn't have to put up with it

I mean, if cost is the consideration she could say "Hey, I can only chat for a minute right now, and I'll talk to you for a longer time this weekend" (or whenever is cheaper) but to be like that all the time? Freakish.

[Lil Missy]

4. Sounds like she only wants to talk when she is drunk or up all night.

Run! In the opposite direction, and quickly! Dump her immediately! She's bad news already, and probably still has another boyfriend on the side.

[shanine]

5. I was on Germany time

and took calls any hour . . .
happily . .
you do that when you love someone.
No more calls . . r.i.p ehz 12/17/07

[Haole Girl]

6. Sounds very strange to me...

I would guess she is emotionally out-of-sorts, or rude, or both! But there are always two sides to a story...so they say. Wow.

[leeroysphitz]

7. Did this girl know that you two were in a long distance relationship? n/t