Anyone know a word for a person who is overly 'nice'?

[Beam Me Up]

Have you ever met a person who was overly contrary but did it in a very 'nice' way. Always with a smile. The kind of response you get that can't be criticized directly for how it is delivered. Usually it is passive aggressive in some way. Always covered with sugar and a smiley face but always contradictory and not truly forthcoming. I don't know if I'm describing what I mean very well. Lets put it this way: Although I'm a relatively patient person and 'nice enough' most of the time, there are some people that just drive me up a wall. Worse, there are some I suspect employ this 'nice' facade to deliberately drive one mad. When engaged in a discussion they aren't sincere, they don't actually have an interest in a back-and-forth discussion but want to use it as an opportunity to further their agenda. At the same time the do it with a smiley. I view it as a tactic. Anyone else know what I mean? Anyone have a good word -- I mean something other than 'jerk' or 'ass hat', which may be correct but as soon as you fall into the trap of reacting to their overly 'nice' behavior or let them get your goat in this way, they use THAT against you?

Thanks in advance.

[greenbriar]

1. Eddie from Leave it to Beaver

Eddie Haskel

[mopinko]

4. that's what we call my daughter's BF

an amazingly durable persona. i guess because everybody knows one. smarmy.

[Beam Me Up]

24. Oooh, almost missed that one: SMARMY -- yes that is very close

I could use that. Thanks! :hi:

[Beam Me Up]

6. Yeah, EH embodies those qualities

but that doesn't really help.

[KitchenWitch]

2. Passive Aggressive works.

I know the type...

The phrase "Nice girls can be the worst bitches" describes it to a tee.

[Beam Me Up]

8. Yeah, I know but I'm looking for one word, not a phrase and besides

"passive aggressive," though accurate perhaps, sounds too analytical, specifically psychological.

Surely there is a word for this?

[KitchenWitch]

13. insincere?

[Beam Me Up]

22. That is definitely close to what I'm looking for.

Dripping with _____________ insincerity.

[CatholicEdHead]

42. Sounds like a couple of my ex-girlfriends

[Inchworm]

3. fastidious?

:shrug:

[Beam Me Up]

14. That isn't quite it. Fastidious means difficult to please.

True, the kind of behavior I'm trying to describe doesn't please easily but it is specifically the disagreement that is all smiles -- and, I think, knowing it is going to be irritating.

[Madrone]

5. I call that "Saccharin".

As in - "She is saccharin sweet."

As in - sugary fake.

[NMDemDist2]

11. that's a good one n/t

[Beam Me Up]

18. That word may work but it doesn't specifically suggest a tactic

and that is what I'm looking for. Someone who uses that kind of 'nicey nicey' as an argumentative form.

[Madrone]

19. Or - if you're saying more deceitful than fake nice....

that person I'd say is a beguiler.

[The Straight Story]

7. Well, I think your post is really sweet and sincere

and i hope with all my heart you find a response which makes you happy.

:hug:

;)

[KitchenWitch]

9. Bless your heart.

[NMDemDist2]

10. dood, you need a CoDependents Anonymous meeting

and I mean NOW

:rofl:

:evilgrin:

[The Straight Story]

15. I already have enough dependents

I don't need any codependents :)

[NMDemDist2]

27. ....

:spank:

:rofl:

:loveya:

[The Straight Story]

29. I see you are in NM now

Lucky you (well, unless you are in a NM jail or something)!

[NMDemDist2]

32. nope, not in jail, but I did get to hear Joe Wilson, shake his hand and

thank him for being a patriot

:patriot:

[The Straight Story]

34. You anywhere near Albuquerque?

That town is my old nemesis. Love/hate relationship with it.

[NMDemDist2]

38. nope, nowhere near it

I'm in the Pecos Valley, 22 miles north of Texas and technically, 70 miles west of the Panhandle. I like to say I live in west West TX

:rofl:

[The Straight Story]

39. You need to head over to Amarillo and eat at the Big Texan

try to eat that 72oz steak they got :)

[NMDemDist2]

41. no thanks, I can buy one like that at the local butcher shop

why spend half the day in the car for something I can cook at home?

:evilgrin:

seriously, my local butcher shop totally rawks!!

[Beam Me Up]

16. LoL!

Me 2! ;)

[Pierre.Suave]

12. Oh bless your dear little heart...

you mean like that?

:rofl:

[Beam Me Up]

21. I'm sure you know what I mean . . .

Like on a forum where you have the option of selecting a smiley to represent your post, it is ALWAYS the " :) " one.

[EFerrari]

17. Manipulative @sshole? Mom? Honey?

Neighbor?

lol

[Beam Me Up]

20. Troll, more like

:hi: good to see you!

[Lethe]

23. fatuous?

maybe?

foolish or mocking in a smug way

[Beam Me Up]

26. That's another good one: FATUOUS & SMARMY so far. n/t

[Inchworm]

25. How about patronizing?

?

[Beam Me Up]

28. Another good one: PATRONIZING • FATOUS • SMARMY these are all good. n/t

[mopinko]

30. obsequious

i love that word.

[Inchworm]

33. obstreperous is my favorite "O" word

:D

[mopinko]

40. i just have this vague recollection of a song

a sort of folky comedy type thing that had the line- be obsequious and have you knees removed. odd little memory fragment.

[Critters2]

31. "Usually it is passive aggressive in some way"

Usually?!! This is the definition of "passive aggressive".

[Madrone]

35. hmmm.......sycophant?

n/t

[Dangerously Amused]

36. Finagler?

Phony? Poseur? Charlatan? Manipulator? Schemer? Beguiler? Exploiter? Conniver?

Me, I would go with "manipulative perky two-faced bitch." But that's more than one word.

[NMDemDist2]

37. cloying? ingratiating? cutesy? syrupy? obsequious? inveigling?

i like that last one

in·vei·gle Audio Help /ɪnˈveɪgəl, -ˈvi-/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–verb (used with object), -gled, -gling.
1. to entice, lure, or ensnare by flattery or artful talk or inducements (usually fol. by into): to inveigle a person into playing bridge.
2. to acquire, win, or obtain by beguiling talk or methods (usually fol. by from or away): to inveigle a theater pass from a person.

[Beam Me Up]

43. Wow, a lot of great words! PATRONIZING • FATOUS • SMARMY • OBSEQUIOUS

INGRATIATING • INVEIGLING ---


Thank you to everyone for your help and playing this little word game. I think one of these will surely do and if not another.

I now feel well armed!

:hi:

[Inchworm]

44. Patronizing rolls off the tongue

the other words are smarmy :rofl:

I kid!

:hide:

[Political Heretic]

45. YOU! Awwwww I so sweeet what do I win???!

:woohoo:

[1]

46. yes. where i come from we call that person casualwatcher9...

i'm just saying...

[Raven]

47. Obsequious

showing too great a willingness to serve or obey; fawning

[philosophie_en_rose]

48. Fake

I really dislike people that act like that. They're creepy.

[FloridaJudy]

49. Two-faced

The kind that will be nice to your face, then turn around and stab you in the back.

Obsequious works well, too.