hi lounge.....

[lost-in-nj]

just wanted to say HEY..... :hi:


went to go see Hairspray (the play ) today with George Wendt..... it was awesome....

way beyond fun.......
then went to

Patsy's for dinner.... meh

but I found out at dinner that stbx threw a birthday party for himself at one of our
fave restaurants.... the one my cousin works at....

I found out by accident and the people that said something thought I knew....

my "friends", People I thought were family all went, and my daughter (no I do not fault her, she loves her dad) I am pissed at him for putting her in this kind of position.....

oh everyone tonight said "we are on your side lost." fuck em
I am so tired of being left out because everyone thinks it would hurt me....
the whispers and looks i feel fucking dirty.
it hurts me more finding out like this....
I feel betrayed and really do not know what to do with these feelings.
if they are on "my side" why did they go????
oh well.....

oh and our son didn't go... he had NO FUCKING IDEA there was a party, nice huh

thats because he would have smacked his father upside the head after finding out about the howorker.

so I am sad tonight...... to much to post here.... just, we had such plans for this year.....

I know tomorrow I will feel better... well maybe a little....


thanks again for letting me vent

:hug:

going to bed.......



lost

[auntAgonist]

1. I sure hope

I don't kill your thread. You need some huge :hug:'s

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aA

[Haole Girl]

2. Wish there was something I could say...

that could help. :hug:

[deucemagnet]

3. Awww....you missed Jeff Dunham on Comedy Central tonight!

I keel you! :P

[MorningGlow]

4. Oh, Lost...

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Your post really took me back. A number of years ago I was part of a VERY tight-knit group of friends--lots of 'em too. Dated a guy, broke up (long story). I chose not to talk much about it; he, on the other hand, told EVERYbody a sob story, of course painting himself as the victim (which couldn't have been farther from the truth). What happened? Exactly what happened to you--there were parties and all sorts of get togethers that suddenly I wasn't invited to. And I heard later that the folks who went would say to one another, all forlorn, "You know, it just isn't the same without MG here."

But did anybody do anything about it? Nope. Say anything to me? Nope. Invite me to a party instead of the guy? Nope. Why? Because people are sheep. They take the path of least resistance and use the excuse that they don't want to make waves. Or they weren't the ones organizing the party. Or they don't want to take sides.

It's tough, I know. I have SO been there. And almost none of those friendships survived. I have one--ONE--friend from that circle left.

I am so sorry, Lost. It's awful and it hurts and it's not fair in the least. :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

5. lost, that just stinks.

The friends need to figure out how to either keep both friendships separately or choose, and if the former they must be upfront about the fact that they're still socializing with both of you. It's only fair, but a lot of people seem to have trouble facing that fact because no one really wants to acknowledge that the dynamic has changed.

Any hoo, you need these:
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[soleft]

6. Hi, Lost

I'm sorry you were hurt. I hope you wake up tomorrow and its a much better day.

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[SPKrazy]

7. Just gotta say fuck 'em sometimes sweetie

I know this hurts, and I'm sorry it hurts so much.

People don't know how to act I think. I haven't heard word one from people I thought were my (our) friends since I left.

I've even been to church where we went (she still goes) and their was that weird look, and no one from there has said anything to me even the priest.

I walked out on Easter Sunday because my anger hit a peak moment and I just left.

anyway, hang in there

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