Love sick

[blue cat]

Tell me stories about how you got over someone who didn't want to see you anymore because they didn't want to commit to you. Having some anxiety today and trouble getting over an ex.

[Bucky]

1. I have no such stories as I always dump them before they can escape & call the cops

But a friend of a friend tells me that staying active and getting involved in different diversions (dance classes, buying local theatre tickets, going to poetry readings, doing church picnics...) helps build the perspective one needs to get over a wrenching break up.

Break ups are hard often because of the false suspicion that the world is small and there are only limited opportunities for happiness in life. The world is big and full of diversity and full of fun and true fulfillment.

But get out, do something new, spoil yourself, and hang out with your buds and don't get really drunk more than once or twice a year.

[blue cat]

2. thanks for your reply.

bought a ticket to go to NY today - $523 at the last minute but it will do me a world of good emotionally.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

3. Time.

It just takes awhile, but you do get over it.

...Although you might find yourself occasionally checking the obituary column to see if the two-timing sonofabitch is dead yet. Not that I'm bitter or anything. ;)

[skygazer]

4. I agree that its good to do things for yourself

Not only does it take your mind off it but it gives you some healthy feelings of self-worth. Perspective is nice, too. Rather than think about what might have been, realize that you're better off not wasting time and energy on someone who isn't prepared to give you that time and energy.

:hug:

[datasuspect]

5. alcohol + time + promiscuity

[Chan790]

7. Or just promiscuity. n/m

[blue cat]

9. like that suggestion

hope i get to use it soon.

[JoePhilly]

6. Find a hotter rebound ... make sure the other knows ... works great.

Then dump the hot rebound (who was too shallow for you anyway), then start over.

[siligut]

8. Lovesick is so miserable.

Sorry. The biggest thing, realize it that it isn’t just you they couldn’t commit to, it is everyone. Heartbreak hurts but it also offers emotional growth. You learn what to look for in prospective partners, it takes time and experience. View this last relationship as experience.

[blue cat]

10. it feels like it was that he didn't want to commit to me

my ego has taken a total blow.