Has anyone else lost a friend because

[lost-in-nj]

they assumed, before asking or talking about what happened???


I have

a few


but no going back this time

just wondering??

:hi: :hug:



lost

[Breeze54]

1. You mean like you made them feel guilty?

I'm not sure, although i know I've jumped to conclusions before.
I'm not sure if I've lost any friends over it. I think we talked
it out and hugged, after awhile and a lot of talk.

I hope you guys can mend your bridges. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

2. no I did not make them feel guilty

I guess its my fault

:shrug:



thanks

lost

[Breeze54]

7. No, it takes two to tango and I wasn't trying to imply that YOU did anything...

I was just trying to get a little more info.

Your post is rather vague, ya know.

:hug:

[MorningGlow]

3. Yes--happened to me last fall, and no going back for me either

I've mentioned this before, I think, here in the Lounge. Left my coven of 15 years and lost my two oldest and best friends in the process. I hadn't planned on cutting them out of my life completely, but the way they handled the situation was abysmal.

As briefly as possible, when I said I was taking a break from the coven and classes for a while, neither my oldest friend and coven sister, nor my second-oldest friend, the high priestess, ASKED me what was going on in my life--they just pfft--let me go. They had been discussing it among themselves and apparently decided they had it all figured out or something, WITHOUT asking me.

To this day they still don't know why I left. But I'm sure they think they don't need to ask.

They'd be dead wrong, of course.

So. Sorry you're going through this kind of thing, Lost. It truly sucks, doesn't it? Hang in there. Stick with the friends who care enough to ask you what's going on in your life--they're the real friends. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

4. oh hon

:hug:



sorry



lost


maybe it was a power play

you might have been liked
but they weren't

[MorningGlow]

6. Thanks for the hug

I won't lie--it gets lonely sometimes. I mean, these folks were my best, best friends for a giant chunk of my life. When I say one was my oldest friend, I'm not kidding--we had been best friends since we were 12--30 years!

But people change...and get weird sometimes!
:rofl:

It was definitely a power play--politics in the extreme, which is what always happens when a group is together too long. High priestess decided her half sister, also a member of the coven, was the antichrist and wanted everyone to hate her too, which I refused to do, so I became SUSPECT, untrustworthy.

What really torques me off is wondering if they think I left because my ex-best friend was made an elder of the coven and I wasn't, because that would be totally off base. I'm not that petty. And if they think I am, and I don't get a chance to explain myself, then... :grr: you know?

So what's your story, Lost? What has life dealt you recently with regard to all this?

[SPKrazy]

5. I've lost one recently

they decided that they weren't willing to talk about what happened and left it hanging there.

It was sad

but they have some problems that make it hard for them to see what's going on.

[crim son]

8. Yes.

We were both dealing with divorce issues and were both extremely sensitive/somewhat nuts at the time. No going back. I did show up at her house with a bottle of wine and a card by way of an apology & she was polite that one time. Then, never again. I tend to be open with people and sometimes it backfires.