I really really don't like my daughter's new boyfriend......

[Bennyboy]

They have been going out for a few months but today I finally met him. And I really don't like him. He argued with me constantly about everything, And not in a nice way but laughingly at times.

We were talking about hemp. I told him that hemp takes much less water to grow than cotton and uses much less pestcides. He told me I was full of shit. I told him to give me his e mail ddy and i would send the facts to him and he told me "Don't believe everything you read on the internet". (the idiot's mantra)I told them all the info would be sourced with notations and he told me that college people were stupid.

He works for Clark Pest Control so automatically he knows all there is to know about pesticides, even ones used in agriculture.

then we talked about the golbal food shortage and he laughed. what shortage, there is no shortage.I asked him if he had been paying attention to the news lately and he said no, but he had not heard anything about a global food shortage.

So I am guessing he is the most despicable of all human beings, a Dittohead. the same argument, the same responses. The same feeling of arguing with someone that had their heads up ther asses.

But whatever that is about,I have argued for ever with people and we are still friends. But I really cannot stand this assface. What do I do, I will have to deal with him for a long time? No matter what I will always think he is an assface and nothing will overcome that for me.

[SeattleGirl]

1. I could lend you my dog.

I guarantee you she will piss on his shoe.

My dog has never done that except for with one of the guys my daughter dated in high school. MrSG and I didn't like him, and the first time he came over, the dog went right over to him and pissed all over his shoe.

:rofl:

[Bennyboy]

3. I decided that if there is any pissing going on.....

I will be the one doing it. that is how pissed I am.

[AlCzervik]

2. Wow Benny, now i'm really glad i use Jones Brothers pest control!

[Bennyboy]

4. Good for you......

I use a non toxic pest control company myself.

[tluvstigr]

5. This guy sounds like an idiot

I feel bad for your daughter. Because if he's not paying attention to the big things surrounding him; how well is he paying attention to her needs?
I wish you the best of luck. But unfortunately we do need to put up with the idiots our love ones may take into their lives.
Hopefully he isn't the one for her and it won't be forever!
Good LUCK!

[Truthiness Inspector]

6. The feeing is quite probably mutual

You have no respect for him and he has no respct for you (both understandable positions). You usurped your own authority immediately by engaging like this.

Is your daughter under 18? If so, your word rules. If not, she's an adult and you just drove a wedge between yourself and your daughter.

[sammythecat]

7. Good grief! At least you won't have to spend any time

wondering what to make of the guy. Besides being a dittohead, which is a disqualifier right there, I can't imagine being that aggressive upon meeting my girlfriend's father for the first time.

What on earth does your daughter see in him.

[Bennyboy]

8. I am not sure.......

She is 25 with two kids and he is great with them supposedly (although I just saw him drinking at the party). So I don't know. I didn't even start the convo with him, he kind of interjected his dittoness into it while i was talking with others.

And you are right, had this been the second or third meeting I might be more okay with it. But that first meeting with someone's parents (even at my age)you should not laugh in one's face.

BTW, he also spewed his other notions to others who also resoundly shot him down (my favorite is that PG&E and SMUD are the only energy companies in California).

[sammythecat]

10. I'd bet he rubs a lot of people the wrong way.

Sounds like a real social dope.

This must be really disappointing and troubling, I'm sorry you have to deal with it. Unless he does something spectacularly great, I hope the relationship will soon end.

[AteAlien]

9. kids

ya gotta love'em 'cause ya can't kill'em. I think............

[Rabrrrrrr]

11. He's partly right in that we don't have a food shortage in the world.

The world has an overabundance of food. More than enough to feed everyone in the world at proper nutritional levels.

The problem is that the rich hoard it, and the distribution is utterly fucked up.

But that still doesn't keep him from being an ass, which he certainly seems like he is. But, on the other hand, if your daughter likes him, it could be worth trusting in her, at least for a while, and getting at least a second opinion of the guy.

From a personal standpoint, I'd want my children to shoot higher in a mate than someone who works for a pest control place, and someone who doesn't think that college people are stupid. I'm not sure why your daughter would want to settle for such a low-aimer.

[LeftyFingerPop]

12. Kick his fucking ass. n/t

[GoddessOfGuinness]

13. Was your daughter a witness to this?

It sounds like he's horrifically rude. I never would have stood for any boyfriend being disrespectful to my parents. Of course, I'd have had a problem with my parents if they were disrespectful to any of my boyfriends, too. :hug:

[DarkTirade]

14. I've met people like him. He argues because he enjoys arguing

and yet he's too stupid to even do it right. One of those people who's so stupid that he's incapable of realizing how stupid he is because he isn't smart enough to comprehend what's going on around him vs. what's going on inside his head.

He probably realizes it deep down, hence his resentment of people who know better than him and his need to lash out about it. Which means that his stupidity is mostly WILLFUL stupidity, which makes it even worse IMO.

I'd just be honest with your daughter. Tell her that you can't stand the guy. Tell her she's free to do what she wants, but you don't want to have to deal with Assy McAssface. Might even make her stop and take stock of the situation.

[BeachBaby]

15. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your

daughter, but is it possible that she may have spoken of you in a negative light?

As wrong as it is to allow other people to influence our opinions of people, we all do it to an extent. And if, by any chance, your daughter gave him reason to disrespect you before ever meeting you, his attitude toward you would explain alot.

Or, he's just an asshole.

[Bennyboy]

18. I don't think she would do that....

Other than mention that I am a left leaning, tree hugging enviro, bush hating whacko that is.

really I don't care if he has a different viewpoint than me, but what is still bugging is how rude he was about the whole deal. It was almost like he was aiming for me or something. Seriously, I wanted to punch the guy in the mouth when he told me "that I should find other things to do with my time" after I told him that I live the environment 24 hours a day, have an environmental non profit and am involved in ...(where he cut me off).

That being said, respect is respect.

[BeachBaby]

23. Then "asshole" he is. :-) n/t.

[RainDog]

16. eek

that must be a really annoying situation. I would say that, as hard as it may be, if you let others argue what you already agree with, you'll probably be happier... and hopefully your daughter will move on.

I've wondered about that one, tho. What must it be like if your kid dates/marries someone you just do not like and with whom you have major, major differences of opinion about the world.

my kids are still pretty new at all the dating stuff. I hope they love someone I can also love with all my heart.

[Miss Carly]

17. If he has such an argumentive one sided personality

she will get tired of him soon I'll bet...
Carly

[China_cat]

19. If you can do it without vomiting

pretend you're absolutely thrilled about him. No better way to change your daughter's mind.

[Tektonik]

20. slap the shit out of the jackass

is he a 28%er?

[Burma Jones]

21. Pest Control guy eh? Just like Tom DeLay

It's the chemicals......

[DS1]

22. The second coming of Tom Delay?

I suggest a lot of walking around the house naked, psychotic freakouts, and anything else you can do to utterly humiliate both of them

[quiet.american]

24. Get yourself a copy of, or re-read, "Don't Think of an Elephant" and kick his ass the next time.

Author George Lakoff's book, "Don't Think of an Elephant" gives excellent pointers on conducting verbal ju-jitsu with these types.

Other than that, this guy is a freaking loser, to have addressed the parent of his new girlfriend with such disrespect -- especially on the first meeting! He truly has no respect for himself or anyone else. I sure hope your daughter sees the light and does not keep him around.