Creepy guy on the bus today.

[lightningandsnow]

There was this guy talking loudly (actually yelling) on his cellphone, which is bad enough. But I heard the conversation he was having, and he was being very verbally and emotionally abusive towards his girlfriend. He started yelling at her, telling her how "fucking dumb" she was, threatening her, and being very controlling - telling her he'd break it off if she didn't cut ties with one of her friends. It was very creepy and very sad. Then, he kept calling her "baby". As he walked off the bus, I realized he had a rose in his hand.

That poor girl, involved with a sick fuck like that. If that's how he acts in public, imagine how he treats her when nobody's looking.

I feel awful for not saying anything. But what was I going to do? He definitely looked like he could beat the crap out of me. Should I have said something?

[lizerdbits]

1. Confronting him could have been dangerous

I think it was a good idea to avoid him. I dated one of those and I don't think they can change, at least not easily.

[Parche]

2. Dont Listen To My Phone Calls

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

:hi:



I see that everyday on the lightrail and bus............

:hi:

[DarkTirade]

3. That's why I find it's easiest for me to be a pessimist.

If I expect people to suck, they can't disappoint me. I can only be pleasantly surprised now and then.

Unfortunately, people really DO suck, so those pleasant surprises are few and far between.

[lightningandsnow]

4. Indeed.

People suck. That's for sure.

[DarkTirade]

6. I try not to most of the time.

But I make no guarantees. :)

[hellbound-liberal]

5. "If humans are the best that Mother Nature could do,

all I can say is, she set her sights low and settled even lower!"- George Carlin. I know we don't all suck but many of us do.;-)

[DarkTirade]

7. Even those of us who don't suck most of the time still will every now and then.

I may not be an ass 99% of the time... but there's always that 1% lurking in the shadows... :)

[lightningandsnow]

10. You're pretty cool, actually.

[DarkTirade]

11. I got my 1% under control pretty well.

It still gets out from time to time though. I just do my best to focus it at the people who need/deserve it. :)

Unfortunately I ain't perfect (practically perfect in every way... but not quite there), so occasionally I'll get some friendly fire or something like that.

[MorningGlow]

8. Best that you didn't

Who knows how he might have reacted.

When I was young and more reserved than I am now (ah, the courage that comes with old age), I was visiting San Francisco. I was on a bus with my SIL, and behind us this creepy looking guy was "sweet talking" a young runaway. He said she could stay at his apartment, and his girlfriend or wife or whatever was cool with it, etc. He never stopped talking the whole time I was on the bus. I still remember how he looked (and this was more than 15 years ago)--dressed all in black, with slicked-back black hair and a devil goatee--in profile, talking low and steady, directly into her ear, while she stared straight ahead, obviously uneasy. I felt AWFUL for the girl--it sounded like she was going to go with him.

I felt even worse for not doing something to help her. It occurred to me later that I could have invited her to come with us and given her enough money for food and maybe a night at a motel away from the guy. But I didn't. And for the longest time I dwelled on that, feeling guilty that I didn't at least try to help her.

When I became a witch, I learned that sometimes it's dangerous to step into a situation, and instead of taking overt action, send white light/positive thoughts/prayers to the person who needs help, and ask the Universe/God to take it from there.

[KamaAina]

9. What was John McCain doing in Toronto?

:shrug:

[Chan790]

12. If you were in the US...

I'd say confront him. Not because it's safe, because it's not. He might hit you or threaten you. However, I can say with some certainty that doing either would get his ass kicked. People tend to not think highly of men who hit women.

No, the reason I'd say confront him is simple, yet strange. Making a threat or acting violently towards the driver or another passenger on any form of public transportation is now, as a result of 9/11, considered an act of terrorism punishable by up to 20 years in federal prison. Strange but true. It's the sort of thing you learn when you're dependent on public transit and tend to read everything within visual range, including small print.

[lightningandsnow]

15. Crazy. I did not know that.

However, I live in Canada, so I'm pretty sure that doesn't apply here.

But still. That's really interesting.

[TK421]

13. Do you carry mace?

you should now

[Lethe]

14. i find the word creepy to be horribly offensive

because it is so subjective.....any woman could declare any man who engaged them in conversation to be "creepy."
It's all in the point of the view of the woman. The deciding factor is if the woman likes the guy or not.

[redqueen]

17. That is quite a stretch there.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

16. Consider this:

You couldn't hear the other side of the conversation. You're making assumptions. It's entirely possible that the other person on the line was giving the guy much worse than he was giving. You don't even know that he was talking to a girl.

And then put it out of your mind. Not your problem.

[Inchworm]

18. Prolly best not to say anything

Most of my barfights began like that, and I wasn't always free to go home in the morning.

The fact that it bothered you says a lot.

:loveya: