Loneliness...

[Danger Mouse]

it really sucks.

[Inchworm]

1. Well guess what Elrond...

I love you!

:loveya::hug:

[Danger Mouse]

2. thank you...

:hug:

[redqueen]

3. It does.

It gets to me sometimes... then other times I just think about how many outrageously stupid and annoying assholes there are in the world, and I relax and smile and enjoy my lonerness.

:P

:hug:

[Danger Mouse]

5. sometimes i feel that way...

sometimes i just feel a lot of regret.

[redqueen]

10. Aw...

I wish I knew something to say that would help you feel better... but I just beat myself up till that goes away... so... I don't know what to say...

But know that I do sympathize... and I hope it goes away soon, the suffering what there is to suffer, so that you can enjoy what there is to enjoy.

[Danger Mouse]

12. hopefully misanthropy will prevail

:hi:

[redqueen]

13. And bitterness!

Don't forget to be bitter! :P

And :hug: again.

:hi:

[Danger Mouse]

18. shhhh, we're not sposed to be bitter.

[redqueen]

22. I have to be.

I'm obsessed with balance. So it all has to be even. Equal parts bitter and sweet, that's me.

:crazy:

[Danger Mouse]

23. i'm so bitter i make sugar turn black. or something.

:P

[redqueen]

26. Isn't that caramel?

Oh no wait that's more like brownish.

Um...

Ok I got nothin. :P

[Danger Mouse]

28. kinda...i'm more like the horribly burnt caramel that nobody wants...

and makes everyone fill with sorrow.

[redqueen]

31. There is no such thing as caramel that makes anyone fill with sorrow.

That's just crazy talk.

Why did this make me think of burnt cheese? You know when you bake something, and the cheese burns a little? I love that. Tasty. :9

[BarenakedLady]

4. *big hugs*

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Lil Missy]

6. I was just thinking about you today, and wondered where you've been.

Nice to see you back again. :P

[Danger Mouse]

7. i'm on du most every day, but only in GD:P, for the most part.

[snailly]

50. There's yer trouble

If I might interject. That ain't the real world.

[Midlodemocrat]

8. I'm sorry, Elrond Hubbard.

:hug:

[Danger Mouse]

25. ...

:hug:

[AlCzervik]

9. sorry.

I hope things get better soon.:hi: :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

24. it's all in the mind...

all in what we tell ourselves...

[Shakespeare]

11. I'm sorry.

You're a good guy. I hope the hurt goes away soon. :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

21. that is very meaningful, coming from one i respect a lot.

:hug:

[devilgrrl]

14. It's the story of my life.

Actually, I find it rather normal.

[Danger Mouse]

16. doesn't it ever get to you?

[devilgrrl]

34. Of course it does...

but I'm not sure what it is that gets to me. Is it that I truly need human contact or is it because society insists that I have it?

[Fox Mulder]

15. It does.

I beginning to feel like I'll never enjoy the company of another person. :(

[Danger Mouse]

19. wow...that's harsh...

even i don't feel that lousy about myself. :hug: what makes you feel that way? talk to me about it.

[Fox Mulder]

27. It's a long story.

And I really don't want to talk about it.

But thanks. :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

29. if ever you do...

:hug:
cause it sounds like you have some major league hurt going on.

[Fox Mulder]

32. It's gone beyond hurt.

To feeling nothing at all.

[redqueen]

36. Jeez...

I'm really sorry to hear that.

That took a long time for me to get past. Here's hoping it goes away faster for you.

:hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

35. Oh, honey. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

17. I'm right there with you

:hug:

know it well...... :(



lost

[Danger Mouse]

20. indeed.

:hug:
no words are needed.

[NJmaverick]

30. I know how that feels and I agree

[Blue_Tires]

33. sucks almost as much as unrequited love

both erode the soul until there is nothing left...

[redqueen]

37. Ah no... that's not true...

unrequited love doesn't have to be so miserable... just as long as you can accept what is. Feeling that love is a gift unto itself. Takes a while to realize that, though. The ego is a powerful thing.

[NJmaverick]

39. I think that depends

if you can have a close friendship, and you have the conditions you say, than yeah it could be nice. However more often than not, you don't have the close friendship and then it just plain sucks.

[Blue_Tires]

59. in a way, i see what you are saying...

i haven't seen her in 4 years (and most likely won't ever again), and she is married and lives a half-world away...Obviously I don't think about her as much as I used to, but I do enjoy the feeling of remembering that supernatural effect she had on me during the short time i knew her...

and I have the endless debate in my head: Do I (or did I) really love her? or was it just a grown-up version of the high school crush (i've felt 'crushes' for other women, so i like to think i know the difference)...I think it was love, but it is not easy to accept the fact that she will never feelthe same...So I try to move on with life and search elsewhere...

[blue cat]

61. my unrequited love

would rather be alone than with me...now that really sucks.

[zingaro]

38. It does.

I'm sorry to say I understand how it feels all too well.

May your feelings of loneliness be fleeting. Mine have moved in and applied for a Social Security numbers and work permits.

[Midlodemocrat]

41. Gosh, I'm so sorry you're hurting.

:hug:

[zingaro]

48. Thank you.

That was a sweet thing to say. I can't express how appreciated the sentiment is. :hug:

[Roon]

40. I was lonely for a good solid year

I was miserable..then, one day I woke up and I wasn't lonely anymore! I don't know what changed or what happened but I was single and not lonely anymore. Do things, go see your friends,go to events..that is all i can offer. I know the pain of loneliness and it's not easy to deal with.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

42. ~

:hug:

tell me about it.

[SPKrazy]

43. I agree

loneliness is sucky as hell

:hug:

[malta blue]

44. Elrond

:loveya:

Loneliness sucks but even worse is feeling alone when you are not.

You are not alone. :hug::hug:

[laylah]

45. ...

:hug:

[Breeze54]

46. Awe, Elron... you aren't alone.

:hug:

Wanna come over for dinner sometime?

[ThomCat]

47. Yes. It does.

:(

Can we be alone together? :hug:

[WildEyedLiberal]

49. I'm really sorry dude

:hug:

I went through a really shitty breakup back in December. Lies, deception, deliberate cruelty, the whole nine yards. I have never been so miserable in my entire life. For about two months I was just miserable. Then I got PISSED OFF and spent tons of energy hating him. Only recently have I truly moved on to the point that I don't waste my time thinking about him much anymore. Oh sure, he's still a completely dishonest scummy piece of shit, but it's truly not my problem any more - he can live his petty self-indulgent life without me. I hate that I thought I'd finally found happiness only to have the rug yanked out from beneath my feet, but it DOES get better. Even if that sounds trite and cliche and unhelpful right about now, trust me - it WILL get better.

[bixente]

51. A part of me agrees with you, another does not

It's been around a decade since I've been able to socialise with those of my own age (the end of primary school :D). As such, I am desperate to meet people and say goodbye to my agoraphobia forever. On the other hand, I also have problems with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) in which the problem is an acute sensitivity to how I'm perceived by others. So sometimes, isolation feels like bliss, and other times, I want to escape from it.

[Lorien]

53. That's one of the few good things about aging. I used to have GAD at

your age. I was always very worried about how I was perceived by others (and of course I always expected the worst). By the time I turned 40 I noticed that I was thinking "I hope that I'll like them" when I went to a social event, instead of the usual "I hope that they will accept me".

Hang in there! :hug:

[Lorien]

52. It sure does

sometimes I can go a whole month and the only other human beings I speak to face to face are the grocery store cashiers. Kind of comes with the territory when you are single, self employed and work at home.

It's not really you, Elrond, it's what our society has become: http://www.amazon.com/Bowling-Alone-Collapse-American-Community/dp/0743203046/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208929473&sr=8-1

But I do wish all of us lonely folk could be lonely together!

:hug:

[Cant trust em]

54. You're the person that I had one of the most honest and open conversations I've ever had on DU with

It was a couple of months back about something having to do with gay rights. I've posted a lot on DU in the last few months, and had few memorable exchanges. That was one of them. I hope things work out for you.

[Rhiannon12866]

55. I agree, it sure does.

But at least you have DU. :hug: I'm not alone, but lose out to the internets...:-(

[Skittles]

56. I can honestly say I have no concept of loneliness

and I have lived alone for decades. LEARN TO REALLY LIKE YOUR OWN COMPANY!!!

[raccoon]

57. I second that emotion. I've been experiencing a lot of that lately.

I'm usually OK being alone, but not recently.

[unpossibles]

58. yes it does

sadly, it can strike even in a room full of people sometimes.

:hug:

[Blue_Tires]

60. ttt n/t

[Ariana Celeste]

62. :(

:hug:

i've been out of state and off the computer the last few days, sorry i haven't been around to chat, hope you feel better :(