Something terrible happened

[khashka]

or perhaps merciful. My cousin's son died. 8 months old. He was born with a fast growing tumour on his head. Within a couple days it was bigger than his head. They cut it off along with his ear and part of his face. Chemo... Radiation... Then the cancer came back all through his body. Yesterday they put him in a drug induced coma to stop the pain, told his mother to take him home (he'd never left the hospital) and said 24 hours at most. And he died this afternoon.

What a fucked up world this is. Where decent men get gay bashed (me a few days ago) and babies die.

I don't like this game and I don't want to play.

Khash.

P.S. Thank the Goddess there are so many good, kind, funny, decent people here to remind me that the world isn't totally fucked.

[applegrove]

1. So sorryabout the baby. That is very sad. And sorry you got bashed.

I apologize for all of humanity.

[Lil Missy]

2. I'm so sorry :-(

:-(

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Khash...

That is dreadful...

I remember your telling me about this baby, some time ago...

There is no justice, sweetie...

That poor little babe...Safe passage to him...

Hugs to his parents, and to you, of course...:hug: :hug: :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

4. I am at a loss for words

I am so sorry.....
I just read about your gay bashing


and now this......
you have to wonder of its
a blessing or not....

oh...

:hug:
to you
your cousin
your family......


not everyone is like those men

promise....
and I believe there is a special place in the cosmos
for babies



lost

[Fox Mulder]

5. Oh that is horrible.

I'm so sorry.

:(

:hug:

[FloridaJudy]

6. I'm so sorry.

For the pain both of you went through. Life just sucks sometimes. It's up to us to help each other get through it the best we can.

[Inchworm]

7. I'm so sorry

You and your cousin's family are in my thoughts :cry:

:hug:

[otherlander]

8. I'm so sorry.

:cry:

:hug::hug::hug:
:hug::grouphug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug:

[stuntcat]

9. :hug:

:hug:

[Shine]

10. What a tragedy. I'm sooo sorry, khaska.

Prayers for Peace and Comfort to your entire family during this most difficult time. :hug:

It's good to see you posting here again, even if it is under such sad circumstances.

I wish you well, today and always. :loveya:

[bigwillq]

11. That is just awful.

I am very sorry for your loss. :hug:

[flvegan]

12. I'm sorry for the boy, his family and for you.

If you posted your story about getting gay bashed, I missed it.

[friendly_iconoclast]

13. Khash, I'm so sorry...

...for you and yours. I don't even know you, but the line from John Adams was right-
some things can only be healed by peace and silence.

Kind thoughts your way

[mainegreen]

14. I'm so sorry for your cousins loss.

Thats every parents worst nightmare come true.
I hope they find a way to work through their loss.
:(

[Mezzo]

I am sorry to hear of your loss, and hope your baby cousin can watch over his mommy and daddy now

and for the gay bashing, there is just no fucking excuse.

EVER.

[Ellen Forradalom]

15. Khaska, I'm sorry for your loss.

What a wrenching experience to go through.

:hug:

[livetohike]

16. My sympathy to you and your family khashka

:hug:

[BuelahWitch]

17. So sorry about your tiny cousin!

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

18. Oh khash, that is just heartbreaking.

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

19. What agony for that poor baby...

and for all his family. Nothing could be more heartbreaking than to watch your child suffer and be unable to help.

When my stepson's baby died from SIDS at 5 months, they found some small comfort in knowing he didn't suffer.

I'm sorry someone was rude to you, Khash. I hope and pray for a day when people will stop being assholes.

:hug::hug::hug:

[khashka]

20. Thank you to everyone

I'll let his mother know how many people feel for her loss.

I knew I could depend on you guys when I was hurting. And so good to see so many of the old gang and so many new people I don't know but look forward to getting to know.

Thanks,
Khash.

[OmahaBlueDog]

21. Let us pray your cousin's son is in a better place, and AS FOR YOU

Let us hope that you sign up for some self defense lessons. I'm a married straight man with two daughters, and I view bashing gay men as no different than the crap that girls endure from jerks that pass for men -- which is why my older daughter has studied martial arts since age 6.

Any martial art works, but I'd recommend either Okinawan Karate (invented by a small man who used to put 6'2" Marines on the floor back in the 50s), American Kenpo (a really effective hybrid of Chinese striking arts), or Kaju Ryu Jujutsu (a lot of pressure point action; you'd be amazed what happens when you have a finger on someone's carotid while you turn his earlobe like a key in an ignition). It's great exercise in addition to a great skill.

[khashka]

31. That is so cool

I've always said a good parent should make sure their kids can defend themselves.

I can usually, or defuse the situation so it doesn't come to that. But I got suckerpunched in the dark and went down fast. I wasn't expecting it.

Khash.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

22. I want to take my bat and ball and go home, too. So very sorry

for all that has happened.

[newmajority]

23. Sorry to hear that.

It's hard for anyone fighting cancer, much less a baby who can't even understand what the hell is happening. :(

[UndertheOcean]

24. Sorry for your loss Kashka

may you and the babies family find peace.

What happened is for the best , better than having that innocent and pure being suffer.

[WildEyedLiberal]

25. I'll say a prayer for your sweet little cousin tonight

:cry:

Sometimes there is no justice in this world.

And as for you... hang in there, man. :hug: That asshole who hurt you will get what's his. I know that's not much solace now, but I hope at least you know that a lot of people know what a stand-up guy you are.

[Midlodemocrat]

26. Oh, Khash. I am so very, very sorry.

I'm sorry you got hurt and I'm so sorry for that precious little soul. :hug:

[ThomCat]

27. I am very sorry for what your family is going through.

:(

:hug:

I hope you are not hurt from the gay bashing, and you have my condolences over the loss of your young cousin.

[Jamastiene]

28. Oh, khashka

:hug:

The world can sometimes be such a horrible place.

Please just try to surround yourself by positive people and don't take any shit from anybody if you can possibly avoid it.

Let the love of good, supportive friends encircle you and heal you. :hug: :loveya:

[laylah]

29. Khashka...I am so sorry

about the baby, and your experience. May the baby be in a better place and may those that harrassed you get their karma, in spades! :hug:

edited to spell your name correctly :silly: :blush:

[MissMillie]

30. Khash, there's no rhyme or reason to it

It's one of the mysteries of life.

I'm so sorry about your cousin's son, and their whole family. And I'm sorry people were bashing you. For sure the world can be cruel at times.

But it can also be sweet, and pure and warm.

Maybe it's the cold and cruel that makes us appreciate the sweet and pure all the more.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jReLRxrCJqU

a man is placed upon the steps, a baby cries
and high above the church bells start to ring
and as the heaviness the body oh the heaviness settles in
somewhere you can hear a mother sing

then it's one foot then the other as you step out onto the road
how much weight? how much weight?
then it's how long? and how far?
and how many times before it's too late?

calling all angels
calling all angels
walk me through this one
don't leave me alone
calling all angels
calling all angels
we're cryin' and we're hurtin'
and we're not sure why...

and every day you gaze upon the sunset
with such love and intensity
it's almost...it's almost as if
if you could only crack the code
then you'd finally understand what this all means

but if you could...do you think you would
trade in all the pain and suffering?
ah, but then you'd miss
the beauty of the light upon this earth
and the sweetness of the leaving

calling all angels
calling all angels
walk me through this one
don't leave me alone
callin' all angels
callin' all angels
we're tryin'
we're hopin'
we're hurtin'
we're lovin'
we're cryin'
we're callin'
'cause we're not sure how this goes

[KSinTX]

32. Horribly sad but, as you say, merciful on some level. God bless. nt

[BarenakedLady]

33. I'm so sorry

It doesn't seem fair at all.

:hug:

[fight4my3sons]

34. I'm so sorry.

Peace to you all. :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

35. please forgive me for not addressing this tragedy, but

you got bashed? oh, god, khash. :hug:

[miss_american_pie]

36. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[AngryOldDem]

37. Sometimes there is no justice or sense in the world.

And it pisses me off.

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

[driver8]

38. Oh no...I am so sorry for your family's loss.

Life really sucks, sometimes.

I am a parent, and I cannot imagine the pain your cousin is feeling right now.

Damn...I am so, so sorry.

[Phillycat]

39. Oh my god, I am so sorry.

That is just horrible, horrible. :cry:

[lukasahero]

40. My deepest condolences

:hug:

[Cabcere]

41. Oh Khashka - I am really sorry to hear that.

:( That poor child...and I can't imagine how difficult this must be for your cousin. :hug: And I'm really sorry to hear about the gay bashing as well - it saddens and disgusts me that people can be so horrible to each other. :pals: I know this won't take the pain away, but for what it's worth, I always enjoy reading your posts - you come across as a very thoughtful, kind, and intelligent person, and I hope things get better soon. :pals: Thoughts/prayers/good vibes to you and your cousin. :grouphug:

[Kajsa]

42. I'm so sorry, Khashka!

You, your cousin and your famliy
are in my prayers.

also--
I'm so sorry you got bashed.

:hug: :grouphug:

[av8rdave]

43. I am so sorry....

There are some things that are just beyond understanding.

[BobMorr]

44. I am so sorry

I am so sorry about your cousin. Iwill say a prayer for him and all his family. He's not suffering anymore and is in a better place now. God bless.:hug:

[sammythecat]

45. What a terrible story.

When I hear things like that I tend to get in a very black mood and it seems everything is futile.

I've sometimes thought that if I had a button that would blow up the world, I'd push it. Not as an act of anger, or revenge, but as an act of mercy. There is joy in this world, no doubt about it, but the joy is heavily outweighed by the sorrow.

I would have thought that if "mother nature" was truly random and indifferent there would be an even balance of joy and sorrow, but that doesn't seem to be the case. We're always looking for joy. Most only find it occasionally and even then it doesn't seem to last long before it fades. Sorrow, on the other hand, is common as gravel and robust as an oak tree. Somehow we keep muddling along, like old prospectors, convinced we're going to find a little more gold any day now. We usually do, and if we're careful, it'll be enough to last till the next time.

Sorry about all this stuff that's happened to you lately Khashka. I'm glad you shared this. It seems to help when you know others feel the same. Maybe that's the best we can do. It's good to know we're all in the same boat.