An s-o throwing things at you--would that be a dealbreaker for you?

[raccoon]

For me it sure as hell would.

Yes, I have an abuse issue. No way I would put up with that crap.

(Another thread made me think of this.)

[Forkboy]

1. Not if it was money.

:)

Anything else though, and yes, that would be it for me. I don't expect anyone to be my doormat, and I in turn wont be theirs.

[Deep13]

2. Well, it's violence.

Geez, when my wife and I eat out we often blow our straw wrappers at each other. I hope that doesn't count!

[DS1]

3. Depends what I did to deserve it

but I suspect that at the point of projectiles it would be over regardless of my willingness to overlook thrown objects.

[Fleshdancer]

4. yep, definitely a deal breaker

I want to be in a relationship with an adult, not a petulant child throwing temper tantrums.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

5. well, they could throw me a kiss ...

I would like that :D

anything else...wonder what I have done that would warrant such behavior from them? No. I can't think of anything I would do to deserve such retailiation.

[grannylib]

6. Yes. My first husband was abusive, and that was one of his

favorite things: flinging dishes at me, or wine bottles, or whatever happened to be at hand.
And then faking heart attacks for sympathy and to avoid responsibility for his actions.
He's been through two wives since me and same old, same old...and now he's living with his sister; not sure if he's ever gotten violent with her, but he's still faking heart attacks.

[Chan790]

7. It's a context question...

it doesn't really matter who is throwing stuff, it might matter what they are throwing, context is always key:

My brother threw a lamp at me...I kicked his ass.

My ex-girlfriend threw a handful of ice cream at me and started giggling...um, that story ended differently. :blush:

Another ex threw a plate at me...after I got done with my stitches I pressed charges.

My co-workers and I throw ice cubes all day long...no biggie.

My best co-worker friend heaved the contents of a pitcher of ice tea at me...I sprayed her with whipped cream...she followed with the iced coffee...I poured a 2qt. tub of mocha syrup on her...she punched me in the shoulder hard...I had it coming. (Food fights at work are not uncommon.)

[riderinthestorm]

8. Yup, that would be a dealbreaker for me.

Both my husband and I take off when we've had a fight. And stay away for hours and hours at a time until we cool off.

When the kids were younger, in retrospect I can see this clearly now, the fights were pretty short cause I'd just leave which meant that he had to stay home with the kids and I was free for the day or evening!!! (insert evil laugh here)

He learned pretty quick though. Now he doesn't even argue anymore - HE leaves before we get too revved up, LOL. This is cool since the kids are older and can be left alone and by the time we're back in the same room together anyway, we've usually forgotten what the fight was all about - one happy by-product of getting old. Besides, the fights become redundant after a while - it's usually about the same things and since we both know our lines so well now, it's moot to get too worked up about stuff, and it would take something pretty unusual to get us to the boiling point anymore.

Throwing stuff seems pretty violent to me but, in fairness, if you are referencing the thread I think you are, that couple has just left the US permanently, moved to Canada - huge life-changing stressors. I really can't judge how hard things are right now in their life. Throwing a ring is pretty tame, especially if it wasn't aimed at anyone....

[khashka]

9. Yep

My s.o. and I were in one of our usual "debates" and he kept poking me in the chest. I grabbed his finger and bent it back (not enough to hurt). I told him we could argue all he wanted but if he did that again then next time I'd break his finger. He never did it again. And we've been together 18 years now.

My grandmother told me that a man can hit you. Once. And then you walk out the door and never go back. Wise woman.


Khash.

[BarenakedLady]

10. Yes.

[SOteric]

11. In anger, - sure it's over.

If it's a pillow fight, or he's pitching popcorn at me just to play, then there's some wiggle room available.

[IronLionZion]

12. Abusive behavior is a big dealbreaker for me. I don't care if she's mentally unstable. nt