It's my two year 'dumped' anniversary ...

[badgerpup]

...and I'm feeling kinda blue.

Two years ago today Jason fell for a pic on the internet and kicked me to the curb, and it's been a long hard climb out of depression, inertia and bleakness.

Part of me wants to call Jason and ask "So, how's everything working out for you?" but he'll just lie to me...and I really don't want to talk to him.

I don't miss him so much any more, but I do miss the feeling that I was cared for, cherished...the little stuff, like when you can just meet your partner's eyes and know what s/he's thinking...or the in-jokes, the things people develop over time. The intimacies that having nothing to do with sex.
I miss having backup...both emotional and physical.

The knowing that I was not alone.


:nopity:

[lildreamer316]

1. ....

:hug:

[sammythecat]

2. I've known that feeling too.

We have that in common with lots of people. It can take it's good old time before it leaves too, unless someone else comes into your life. Then it leaves pretty directly and I hope that's what happens to you.

Just one more thing. I know this is the "anniversary" and it would be especially acute now, but if you've felt really bad often, for months, it would be a good idea to see a doctor. There is help available to get you over this.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Broken relationships can hurt for a long time. I really hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Surely it won't be a bad as this one. :hug:

[Krakowiak]

3. I am sorry

I am 2 1/2 years out of my last one, and still think about it everyday.

I wish you well.

[Indi Guy]

4. I miss every woman I've ever cared for...

...they all live in my heart; but I alone control my life.

[mainegreen]

10. This is one of the best posts I've read in the lounge.

:thumbsup:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

5. ~sigh~

No matter how delicately they phrase it or, how long the speech, "dumped" is "dumped." I know how you feel :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

6. i know the feeling. seriously.

:hug:
hang in there.

[hellbound-liberal]

7. I'm sorry for your loss, badgerpup. If it makes you feel any better, I think most of us

have been there. It's a terrible, empty feeling that nothing can fill. One quotation from Ralph Waldo Emerson always helped me get through those times: "Heartily know, When half-gods go, The gods arrive". Just remember, it didn't work out for a reason and, even though you may not feel it or believe it right now, the best days of your life might be right around the corner! :hug:

[Callalily]

8. Hope that you feel

better soon. :hug:

[khashka]

9. Yeah I know, me too

What kinda helped was calling him "the ratfuck bastard", even to myself. I don't want to get back together with him, ever. But I miss the little things - being held in his arms all night while I slept, rubbing his feet when he came home from a hard day at work, arguing over who cooks dinner and who does the dishes. Small things but they mattered.

Khash.

[MissMillie]

11. you're not alone

I've been partnerless for a long time... I mean a really long time.

yeah, I get lonely now and then, but I just try to surround myself w/ the people and things that I love: family, music, politics, working out.

People DO care for you. It may not be a romantic love, but it's caring nonetheless.

And be sure to take good care of yourself.

:hug:

[Deep13]

12. Wow. What a weird holiday.

If I celebrated dumped-anniversaries, I wouldn't have time for anything else.