I know I ask for these a lot, but can I please have some patented Lounge hugs?

[Connonym]

I'm having a really hard time right now and my family is not being particularly supportive emotionally and I just got off the phone with my sister who literally yelled at me that it was my fault that my career pays less now than it did when I started. That I should have thought ahead and gone back to school before this got to a crisis point and it's unconscionable that I would now consider asking for child support from my ex when I didn't need it before. I fully realize that I've made some bad choices but there were also a lot of events that were out of my control. I don't understand a world where your own family treats you like that when you're down. This is why I never went to them until my situation got to a huge crisis point. They'd rather point a finger than offer a hug.

And my ex took my cats when I lost my house and today he's taking my favorite one to the pound because he's not reliable in using the litter box. I'm having such a bad day. When I went over to say goodbye to kitty he ran away from me.

I'm very scared and feel so alone.

[malta blue]

1. of course...

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

I hope things start looking up....

Isn't there a rescue that would take the kitty :cry:

[bicentennial_baby]

2. How awful...

:hug: I hope things get better for you soon.

If it's any consolation, my day has been pretty bad too, thus far. x(

[Ellen Forradalom]

3. Oh, of course

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Maestro]

4. Sorry to hear. I hope things turn around soon.

:hug:

[SallyMander]

5. Of course!

Sorry that things are so rough right now :hug: :hug: :hug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

6. Family will be family....

and sometimes they will irresponsibly chastise us and put us down...and they think they have the right to simply because they are "family."

You have to remember that EVERYONE who puts you down for something has also made their own mistakes in life...every single one of us has. We accept them, learn from them, and move on.

Believe in yourself and don't put too much stock in what your sister says. If she is so all knowing, perhaps she could have offered you support instead of criticism. :hug:

[Nickster]

7. I'm so sorry to hear things are looking bleak for you. I hope you have many better days in the very

near future.

[Call Me Wesley]

8. Good vibes coming your way,

and of course, lots of :hug:

[suninvited]

9. You should be getting child support

whether you "need" it or not. The children have the right to be supported by both parents, and even if you were doing financially well enough to have not needed it for survival in the past, the money could have gone into a college fund for the children !

I would go not only for child support, but BACK child support as well.

Hope everything gets better for you !!!!

[Rhiannon12866]

10. My family's not much better, my friend, probably worse.

There are a lot of us on DU with similar problems, as I found out when I made a long ago post about my mother, who sends me over the edge everytime I speak with her. She's just incapable of not giving me a hard time about everything that she feels is wrong with my life, including my political beliefs. She thinks that my brother walks on water and he's been abusive to me and she supports him. I guess it comes with the territory...;(

But hang in there, and know that you have both friends and support here. A lot of us have been where you are. As for your kitty, is there no way you can take him? He must be upset to be acting as he is. My suggestion is to try Feliway. I got it for my rescued cat because the synthetic pheromones in it are supposed to calm cats, but its main use is to correct litter box problems...:-)

http://www.catfaeries.com/feliway.html

Rhiannon:hug:

[PeaceNikki]

11. ,

:hug:

Let me know if you need a real one.

[KSinTX]

12. Do you have friends who could hold onto kitty until you can take it?

:hug: :hi: :hug: :hi: :hug: :hi: :hug: :hi:

[IndianaJones]

13. are you unable to take the cat back that he wants to take to the pound? nt.

[TZ]

14. I'm so sorry...

I'm very isolated from my jerky relatives too... I'm come to feel like the people here are my adopted family..:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

15. Your sister wasn't helpful on the career and wrong on the child support.

Who has a crystal ball on career direction? So you made the wrong call. Most people do, including your sister. A child support agreement should always have been in place but the fact that you chose to do without it is your business, not hers. If your ex can provide support he should be doing so.

Oh yeah: :hug: and sorry about the kitty.

[Haole Girl]

16. Oh no...

Could you catch the cat and take him to a no-kill shelter?

Sending vibes for you!! Just ignore your sister, if she can't be more supportive. Every family seems to have at least one person who can't do anything but criticize. Hold on!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

17. Oh man, so sorry!

:hug:

Forget your sister, you need people who will respect and support you right now.

Kitty ran from you only because he is stressed. Is there any way someone can care for kitty until you find a way to keep him or her? A friend or a person willing to foster for a bit? A no-kill shelter?

Very worried for you and kitty.

:(

[Connonym]

18. Kitty is going to a no kill shelter

There's absolutely no way I can take kitty back because I'm living with my mom and she said absolutely, positively no way and she *did* let me keep both my dogs so I'm lucky in that regard. I'm not sure how much longer I'm going to be in limbo. I'll probably not be able to afford to move until this time next year :(

Thank you all for your hugs and good vibes. It really means a lot.

[stuntcat]

20. OH

I'm glad to read this part, animals' situations are important also.

Do NOT feel alone, please do not!

I am thinking good thoughts and sending *vibes*

[Dangerously Amused]

21. I am relieved to hear that kitty is going to a no kill shelter, at least.

Gives a little breathing room to keep working on a better solution.

If it were me, I would be in touch (frequently!) with the people at the shelter and let them know the situation and that you love the kitty so much and are actively looking for a better situation for him/her. They may have some suggestions, and I know of someone who fostered a kitty for nearly a year in a similar situation, until the owner could take her back again.

Check ypur PM in a sec.

:hug:

[Tikki]

19. Someones here gave me hugs recently....

online hugs and it sure helped so I'm paying forward to you
all the hugs I got and sending you many more.....
:hug:s

Tikki

[Midlodemocrat]

22. I'm sorry you are going through this, Connonym.

:hug: to you and I hope everything works out.

[lost-in-nj]

23. here is a hug

and good vibes.....





:hug:


come and ask anytime....



lost

[NewJeffCT]

24. Sorry to hear about your troubles

:hug:

[sarge43]

25. There's no such thing as too many hugs

:hug: and you're not alone. :hug: