So my son just called to tell me he is getting married

[TwixVoy]

So my son just called to tell me he is getting married. Completely out of left field.

He is 22 years old. He just broke up with his ex-girl friend five months ago and immediately got in to a new relationship after.

So he has been with this person five months now and all of a sudden is getting married.

Am I right to feel a little uneasy about this?

I haven't even met this person he is with. All he has told me is they are "complete opposites", and she is the love of his life.

[PeaceNikki]

1. Of course you're uneasy.

It'd be crazy if you weren't.

[TwixVoy]

2. I am just trying to guess

at the odds this is going to work out well.

[PeaceNikki]

4. Well, the reailty is that, however uneasy you are, you can't make the decision for him.

All you can do is offer support and guidance.

*I* was a dumbass and got married at 18 despite my parents feeling uneasy. It didn't "work out" and 9 years later, it was over. He's at a point where he has to make his own mistakes... or not. Maybe it'll work? Who knows. Just be there for him.

[TwixVoy]

6. Old enough to make his own mistakes perhaps

but guess who is going to be asked to bail him out if this goes wrong? And I am sadly not the type of person who would be able to say no.

[PeaceNikki]

8. Neither are my parents.

;)

They "bailed me out" from my shitty marriage. And a billion other mistakes, too.

[Lil Missy]

3. Encourage a long engagement.

[mtowngman]

5. yeah...

even though I have no 1st hand advise to give on how to deal with a 22 year old son, I'm sure I'd be uneasy to say the least. Could you suggrst that he might be rushing into this? Good luck and welcome:hi:

[Lyric]

7. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't.

I was nineteen years old when I met my current partner. We fell in love fast and hard online, and when I finally met her in person (after five months of online) I moved in with her two weeks later, and we've been together ever since. It'll be nine years together as of this July 4th, and we're still as much in love as that first day.

It can happen. Be a concerned parent of course, but also an open-minded and supportive one. :hi:

[TwixVoy]

9. The problem is his history

EVERY relationship he has been in the past 3 years (and it has been many) has been "love of his life" then a short time later it's over. IMMEDIATELY he gets back in to a new relationship, and the cycle repeats. He also has a serious problem being monogonous, which is half the reason he is in that cycle.

I don't see how this one is going to be any different, except this time he is trying to bring marriage in to it early on.