is this normal? (A serious topic)

[Pierre.Suave]

I am sure it is no secret how in love I am with my Fiancee around here. I adore her.

But I had an incident yesterday at the doctors office which has me wondering if I am normal or not.

So, there I was on the elevator, it gets to the 1st floor and the doors open. Standing there is one hella cute and FINE young woman. I was on the elevator alone and she was not with anyone, and I had to think for a second before deciding not to hit on her...

My first instinct was to get back on the elevator and put on my best charm offensive before I stopped and realized I had better not. She even gave me one hell of a smile which a while ago would have completely overpowered me.

Why did it take me a good second or two to think about it before realizing I had better not?

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

1. Heh..

Little head thinks faster than big head. You're a guy. I thought you knew that.

[Pierre.Suave]

3. HAHA

yeah I know that.

So I am not completely fucked up?

[GoneOffShore]

2. It is normal -

I've been married a long time and I still flirt and like to be flirted with.

As long as you're "just browsing" and not serious in your intent, there's nothing wrong with it.

[Pierre.Suave]

4. I think my first instinct was to

flirt like hell with intent...

Then I realized I had better not.

[khashka]

5. You're a man

Pretty girl - we get all hot and bothered. Perfectly normal. You'll find this is true all your life. Guys are just like that. But you stayed faithfull and didn't hit on this fine woman! Welcome to being a guy.

Or you could do what I did. I told my lover I was gonna be attracted to other guys and maybe even act on it and so was he, so we had to set some rules about what was OK.

As much as you love her, you will find other women attractive. That's normal. It's what you do that counts. Open relationship, have fun! Exclusive, then lust all you want just don't act on it.

Khash.

[PermanentRevolution]

6. Window-shopping is ok...

Test-drives are a no-no.

[bamademo]

7. Just because you've ordered your selection...

...doesn't mean you can't read the other entrees.

[Pierre.Suave]

8. is thread going to devolve into

who can create the most creative way to say the same thing?

:P

[Critters2]

13. There are a lot of lobsters in the tank,

you've pointed yours out and the waiter has taken it into the kitchen...


Like that, you mean?

[Pierre.Suave]

14. HAHAH

yeah thats what I meant, just like that...

:P

[KitchenWitch]

9. Hey, I have been married for almost 8 years and I am still a lusty wench

I just make up my mind to enjoy the scenery!

:D

[AlCzervik]

12. almost 17 years here and i can't help but see, no touch but i'm not blind.

[Pierre.Suave]

20. A Lusty Wench?

<Insert pirate joke here>

:P

It feels better to know I am normal.

[bigwillq]

10. Yay, you're human!

And it's very normal. No need to worry. :) :hi:

[Pierre.Suave]

22. Thanks

[TZ]

11. That was you?

You look different with your cap off......:rofl:

[Pierre.Suave]

15. damn

I was recognized...

:P

[insanity]

16. Brosef, we have all been there

I love my current woman, but even tonight I was spitting game on some fine women just for the sake of spitting game.

Flirting for flirtings sake is totally legit, as long as you either keep it in your pants or (even better) convince your fiancee to let you bring her into the fold.

I felt like this thread needed at least one solid fraternityesque reply.

[Pierre.Suave]

17. You succeeded

LOL

[insanity]

21. Then my work here is done.

On a quasi serious note, don't worry about it too much. You exercised restraint which means you are decent enough to be more powerful than many of male.

[Pierre.Suave]

30. I think there are those out there

that would not have even considered it.

[bicentennial_baby]

31. Considered...?

The intent part? My husband, for one. We just discussed this. And no, he wasn't lying. He's a craptacular liar. :P

[Pierre.Suave]

32. I am sorry, but you got me a bit confused here

Did he say yes he has considered it, or no he has not considered it for even a second?

edit for snarky and funny reply I just thought of...

Oh sure, get Sniffa all up in my house. (all three)

:P

[Carnea]

18. If the erection lasts more than four hours contact a professional...nt

[Pierre.Suave]

19. Thats an odd reply

seriously.

[Carnea]

25. It's from an ad for eritile disfuntion... oh nevermind.

Anyway getting hot and bothered from someone other than your finance is no big deal. Just follow so common sense rules and remember your girlfriend can read those text messages....

And don't take yourself so seriously. Someday after your married ten years and your getting a massage from your personal assistant. ... (stopping myself before I go into Penthouse Forum land...)

[Pierre.Suave]

29. I know where it came from

I just don't know why it is relevant?

I think getting a massage from my personal assistant means I have already gone too far.

[bicentennial_baby]

23. The only part I would raise an eyebrow at was

In the thread where you said that your first instinct was to flirt "with intent"

Intent to?...Hit it?

If so, yes, that gives me pause. Ymmv.

[AlCzervik]

24. intent to "Hit it".

is that something guys say that have no chance of actually hitting whoever? I don't really understand that one other to say than it bothers me.

[bicentennial_baby]

27. It's slang...Y'know, "I'd hit it"

Where it came from, I have no idea. I can see why it bothers you you, yes.

:)

[Pierre.Suave]

28. yeah, I dont use that slang too often either

it is kind of creepy.

[Pierre.Suave]

26. yes, to "hit it"

that was my very first instinctual response.

I was just talking to a good friend of mine and his reply was. "Whats the big deal about that, you have wanted to F@#& every good looking woman you have ever met, this time you chose not to try."

It almost came automatically.

Then I realized I should not, and moved on.