Is it possible to learn to be more decisive?

[RevolutionaryActs]

Honestly, I am the most indecisive person ever (I blame it on the fact that I'm a Pisces ;))

So I'm bored, right? So I figure I'll watch a movie.. but which movie do I watch? I can't decide. Hmm ok.. maybe I'll read! Oh, but I just finished my last book and now I need to pick a new one to read.. can't decide. I know! I'll give myself a much need pedicure.. wait which color do I pick!?...

It's horrible. :o

[LeftyFingerPop]

1. I'm not sure. n/t

[RevolutionaryActs]

2. You're not helping.

:rofl:

[LeftyFingerPop]

3. ...

:rofl:

[bluecrush]

4. And I thought Libra folks were undecisive!

We're too busy balancing stuff.

[RevolutionaryActs]

8. Hey, there's a reason Pisces is represented by two fish

swimming in opposite directions! :P

[bluesbassman]

5. Well, the first thing you need to do is...

no wait, that won't work. How about... no my brother tried that, total disaster. You coulsd always... shoot that never works. Ah hell, I dont know!

[RevolutionaryActs]

9. You're as bad as philboy

:rofl:

[bluesbassman]

11. Two peas in a pod!

:evilgrin:

[RevolutionaryActs]

13. In that case you can both go sit in the corner.

No, on second thought, you can both sit in separate corners. Or else bad things might happen. :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. yes. by building confidence

[RevolutionaryActs]

12. Hey, you're weren't supposed to give me a serious answer.

And I don't think it's so much lack on confidence, as much as I like lots of things and I'm happy with most all out comes. So it's hard to think which one to pick over the others. Or maybe you're right? :shrug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. i think its both. i love a lot of foods/colors etc .. so in those areas its hard for me to make a

decision because my palate is just larger

however for bigger decision, the possibility of failure is why i hate making decision. thats very likely a confidence issue :)

[RevolutionaryActs]

18. I think you hit the nail on the head.

:)

[lost-in-nj]

7. EASY!!!!

Put the names of the movies and the titles of the books or a mani/pedi

and the colors of your polish...


in a hat....



shake it up

and


PICK!!!!!!!!!!!

there decision made

:hug:

:hi:


lost

[RevolutionaryActs]

10. Or I can fall back on my other horrible personality trait

and procrastinate by posting on DU. :rofl:

[Oeditpus Rex]

15. I suppose this means

you'll also never be able to decide which post-pedicure pics to post.



:eyes:









Stupid alliteration. Now I got spit on my monitor.

[RevolutionaryActs]

19. Yup, that's about it.

:rofl:

[NJmaverick]

16. Like anything, practice makes perfect

Give yourself artificial deadlines. Get a book on decision making. Part of learning to be more decisive is learning how to evaluate your choices.

For example, I use a modified version of the engineering model I was taught many years ago.

Say you need to find a solution or choose something. First I list my critical criteria (these are things any choice or solution has to have).

If we take your movie choice, the criteria would be a movie you are able to watch.

Then you think about deal breakers.

In your movie case, you eliminate the types of movies you don't want to watch.

Finally you develop quick criteria to judge your choices.

Again in your example. That could be a genre you are in the mood to watch. Others could be you are looking for a short movie or a light hearted movie or an intense movie or whatever. Then you go over you choices and decide which best meet the criteria.

With time and practice, this sort of mental exercise becomes quick and second nature.

[RevolutionaryActs]

20. Well that makes a lot of sense.

I like it. :hi:

[dropkickpa]

17. Yep

None of the given choices are irreversible things. Throw a movie in, if you aren't into it, put in another. Same with nails, same with the book. I used to dither constantly over inconsequential things, but decided I was tired of wasting time and just went the "what the hell" route. I can't decide what book to read? I just grab one and if I'm not into it 2 chapters in, I put it down and pick another.

[RevolutionaryActs]

21. Bwhahahahahaha

I like the way you think. :rofl:

[Orrex]

22. Yes. I mean no. Uh.

Gosh, can I get back to you on that?

[RevolutionaryActs]

26. You sound like me.

:o

[AlCzervik]

23. try limiting your choices to 3 (all three) you can pick from 3 movies/books/nail polish.

see how that works.

[RevolutionaryActs]

25. you just wanted to say (all three)

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

[AlCzervik]

28. Maybe (eyespy all three) but try it anyhow, let me know how it works.

then maybe i'll try it!

[RevolutionaryActs]

29. Of course you do realize this means I'll have to somehow narrow my

choices down to three, right? :P

[AlCzervik]

30. Just do it!

your life is now about 3's, that's it, 3, not 4 or 5 or 12, it's 3.

[RevolutionaryActs]

33. Gawd, you're a bossy bit of goods*

*I read that in a book, and I loved it so much. It's right up there with "saucy wench." :rofl:

[AlCzervik]

35. shut your freaking gob!

:rofl:

[RevolutionaryActs]

36. No! Now I shall dispose of you forthwith.

Or some such thing, you saucy wench! :P

:rofl:

[From The Ashes]

24. Gee I don't know...

...maybe there is...no wait a minute, I don't think so.

'I used to be indecisive, now I'm not so sure.'

[RevolutionaryActs]

27. LOL

:P

[alarimer]

31. Indecision may or may not be your problem.

As for me, is it ignorance or apathy? I don't know and I don't care.

[RevolutionaryActs]

34. Best answer all day!

:rofl:

[rug]

32. Perhaps.

[sasquatch]

37. That because you need a role model

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=7855980&mesg_id=7855980
Like this cop, was she indecisive, no she popped her boobs out and got to work. You need to take a page out of her book.
:P

























:spank:

[Connonym]

38. acquire a Magic 8 ball

works for me

[Lethe]

39. nope you just need a man to help you out

we're good at that kind of stuff

[KitchenWitch]

40. What do YOU wanna do?

I don't know what do YOU wanna do?

:P

I am not sure how you get over it.

[CreekDog]

41. you need to give yourself more choices

:rofl: :hide:

okay but here's some actual advice:

when you are being indecisive, stop for a moment and decide how important a decision this is, then based on that, decide how much time and effort you are going to spend making it.

thus, what movie to watch during the next 2 hours of a quiet night? spend 5 minutes deciding.

for more important decisions give yourself more time, but break up the decision into steps and singularly go through those steps without worrying about the others until you get to them.