Edited.

[crim son]

I'd hate to bother the Lounge with something other than a question about whether or not I'm gay. :eyes:

Jeez, people. When I'm wasted and flirting I'm wonderful. When I'm straight and looking for opinions I am pariah.

Grrrr.

[OffWithTheirHeads]

1. Marraige without sex is redundant

The reason the bride smiles so much walking down the isl is that she knows she will not have to give another blow job till after the divorce.

Man am I gonna get shit for this.

[RadiationTherapy]

2. Dumb. nt

[Danger Mouse]

5. HAHAHAHAHA!

wait, that wasn't funny, that was stupid.

[The Straight Story]

10. 10 years here and still a great and wild sex life with the wife

On a very regular basis.

I don't have to go out looking for it, play the bar scene, etc and so on.

Marriage has been good to me :)

[elshiva]

14. Aww!

:hug: And you still have to ask us if you're straight? :rofl:

[The Straight Story]

17. The way we play I am 'straight' up most the time

:rofl:

She may not be healthy in some ways, but in others she is a damned athlete ;)

[elshiva]

22. TMI

:rofl:

[OffWithTheirHeads]

29. Tell me about it in another 10 years.

I prey that you will be singing the same song but, based on observations of the rest of us, I doubt it. This is not to say that I don't love my wife but, over the years, the thrill is gone.

[Missy Vixen]

16. I hate to buy into it

but in some marriages, things are different.

The wife wants sex. The husband isn't interested.

Julie

[Danger Mouse]

3. Don't do it.

[crim son]

8. I'm thinking about reconciling.

He wants to, but he says we would retain our independence (live separately) if I want. I can't find work and have been living off him for a long time. He's been through two years of counseling and has changed a lot. One thing, though, has doubtless not changed. I'm seriously wondering if it would be better for me, for the kids, for him if I just went back.

[Danger Mouse]

15. Well, what are the pros/cons? You can pm me about it if you like.

[RadiationTherapy]

4. Either way sounds abusive and unteneble.

If a man is drugging a woman to have sex with, then he is not going to go without. End it.

[crim son]

6. Now where did I say anything about the man drugging the woman?

I'm talking about sex so bad that the woman can't bear it unless she's under the influence of something.

[RadiationTherapy]

9. Oops. Sorry.

Why is the sex bad?

[Labors of Hercules]

11. You need a vacation

To North Carolina. immediately. :evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

7. I'm not sure you should be posting this.

The Lounge is not your therapist.

[crim son]

12. Thank you for pointing that out, LeftyMom.

However my therapist is of no use whatsoever. He is interested in what I think. I no longer know what I think because circumstances have changed. I'm sincerely wondering what other would consider acceptable in a marriage.

Having said that, it irritates the hell out of me when somebody tells me I'm being inappropriate. I'll edit and have a fine evening, everybody.

[The Straight Story]

13. Maybe not, but it helps to vent and hear the ideas of others at times

At least, that has been my experience. :)

[supernova]

18. Go. Get. Your. Own. Life. Now.

Staying with a man, even if the sex is so bad you have to be drunk out of your gourd to tolerate it is not an acceptable way to live. Or shouldn't be. For anyone.

[Pierre.Suave]

19. You can always PM me...

if you want to get wasted and flirt...

:P

[LostinVA]

25. Your hot fiance might get angry, though

[Pierre.Suave]

26. probably not

because unlike some here on this board, she actually has a sense of humor and knows when someone is joking...

:eyes:

[LostinVA]

28. I was joking

:eyes:

[Pierre.Suave]

30. Sure...

I believe you too.

[RadiationTherapy]

20. I am willing to discuss this with you on the thread or through PM.

I am married, loyal and not looking to flirt.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

21. Something is missing here.

Something we don't know about and probably shouldn't know about, re bad sex.

Medical/gyno problem? Humiliation? Complete lack of respect/abuse from husband?
Unacceptable kinkiness? Guy with terminal B.O.? :shrug:

This is too personal for the Lounge. The OP needs another opinion and the Net is NOT the place to get it.

[DS1]

23. Missed it

but yeah, the lounge is just GD on a more personal level at times. The wolves are still out there, I know I'm guilty of that myself.

Take care

[Robeson]

24. I'm not qualified to give you advice....

...but I do hope you find peace...:hug:

[leftofthedial]

27. tell me you're not gay . . .

[jonnyblitz]

31. it's too bad you let that ASSHOLE intimidate you to edit your post.

she ain't the moderator of the lounge last time I checked.

[SarahB]

32. There's a LOT of high and mighty bullshit here.

:thumbsup: jonny!

[terrya]

33. I apparently missed it.

I know who you're talking about, though. When I see something like that, I get reluctant about wanting to post about any problems I may have on here. I really don't feel like being told to shut the fuck up and talk to a therapist instead.

[Chan790]

34. I thought the question was legit...

and no I would not be staying in that marriage.

Not because of the sex but because of all the subtlety and nuance of the things being said and unsaid in the original OP. I think that a lot of unhappiness in life comes from people trying to save marriages that are making them unhappy. If your sex life is unfulfilling, then you have cause for unhappiness. If your partner isn't interested in your needs or in telling you what they need, then you have cause for unhappiness.