A little personal venting: STBE shirking responsibilities

[YankeyMCC]

I just need to vent a bit.

There's been a consistent pattern of behavior with my STBE, I ask her to take care of something and 8 out of 10 times it just doesn't get done and the 9th time she comes to me to actually get whatever task it was done.

She's always been like this, but when she was my wife (still is legally but she moved out several months ago) I just accepted it as one of the aspects of who she was.

But now I just have no tolerance for it.

So as I mentioned she moved out in November and has since been able to essentially move on with her life in her new place. Finally I got the house sold and and in the middle of moving, everything packed up at the house lots of stuff to take care of while still working full time (because I took a job with less vacation, based on certain assurances from her, and used a lot to deal with divorce stuff) and I gave her a lot of notice that during this time I would need her to have our son at her place more than just the regular custody schedule.

So during this month leading up to the move he's ended up with me more than her even with travel I've had to do for work. It's been manageable but now the very week of the move with literally everything packed he's here again.

She had her mother come up to stay with her so that our son who's been shuttled around to other relatives and summer camps because we now both work full time and because of my move could have a week here his home town with his friends. But now her mother has back problems and he has to stay with me.

I know, this seems petty, after all her mother really does have back problems, that isn't her fault and we didn't see it coming but somehow something always happens. And it's just really really getting on my nerves.

And he has to sit here in a packed up house while I work from home (what she would've done if I happened to be working with a client that needed me on site I don't know).

:banghead:

[malta blue]

1. I'm sorry.

:hug:

It is such a messy business :hug::hug: