Straight women DUer's over 30, how do you refer to your SO?

[raccoon]

Say you're seeing a guy, or living with him, but you're not engaged. If you were talking to a co-worker/casual acquaintance, how would you refer to him?

"My SO"

"The guy/man I'm seeing"

"My boyfriend"

Other?

(I think the English language needs more words for this, for both sexes.)

Oh, under-30's, you can respond too. Except that "boyfriend" makes somewhat more sense applied to a 20-something, as opposed to a 60-something.

[Lilith Velkor]

1. My best friend

Sometimes, it's "my gentleman friend," and some other times I refer to him as "whatshisname."

[timtom]

12. I know none of this is directed to me, but

how about "gentleman caller"?

[Whoa_Nelly]

2. My Ex :-P

Haven't had a SO in almost 8 years.
Referred to last one as "my boyfriend"...and even though am over 50, would still use the same reference...that's if I had a SO...ya know..just sayin'. ;)

[fizzgig]

3. i wish there were a word for it

i'm 27, my guy is 30 and i feel slightly absurd calling him my boyfriend. if i don't use his name, i usually call him my guy (as you can see) or my sweetie

[Left Is Write]

4. My husband.

I'm living with him, but I'm not engaged, so that counts, right? ;)

I was 30 when we met, and I did refer to him as my boyfriend for a short while, but I guess that does start to sound silly at some point. I don't know what I would say, but I can't see myself saying "SO" in real, actual conversation.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear raccoon...

Well, since we're married, I call him "my husband!"

But I agree with your idea that English needs more words for this...

:hi:

[Kat45]

6. In my '50s, and I say "my boyfriend" for lack of a better choice.

He sometimes refers to me as "my friend," and we ended up having a discussion about it because I didn't like it because I don't think it differentiates me from any friend. He has also referred to me as "my girl," which I find even weirder than the word 'girlfriend'--it makes me think, 'what, are we in the fifties or something' (the decade).

[Breeze54]

7. Which one?

:P

[Lil Missy]

8. Wouldn't the answer be the similar whether you are gay or straight?

:shrug:

[PBS Poll-435]

9. Jack-Rabbit?

:hide:

[Manifestor_of_Light]

10. It depends.

Polite company, my boyfriend.

Impolite company, my shackmate or my studmuffin.

He's far too old to be a boy, and he's far more than my friend.

[mikita]

11. my buddy

I'm in my 60's -- together 16 years...