Need cheering up. Please tell me that dating is worth it.

[supernova]

Please tell me that all this dating the wrong person is just nature's way of separating the wheat from the chaff.

[Deja Q]

1. Oh, please. Father Time cheated on Mother Nature; his lovechild was Bastard Death.

That's why we all get screwed in the end.

In short, cheaters never win, and winners never cheat.

Sheesh, I sound like a rancid ABC After School Special(tm). Do they still have those?

I'm going to the Olive Garden now.

[supernova]

6. Death is a Bastard?

[flvegan]

2. It doesn't seem worth it until the payoff.

But, when that payoff comes, you look back and say "yeah, that was worth it".

[Deja Q]

3. Quite. Especially with the price of condoms rising all the time...

:yoiks:

[supernova]

5. Thanks,

sorta what Im feeling about now

[loveable liberal]

4. Revel in dating, love the process...

Its all about meeting folks. Dont worry so much!

[supernova]

7. This kind of "process"

is harder on me than I prefer. I'm not very social to start with, so when things don't work out, it hits me harder than maybe it should.

[applegrove]

8. They say you need to date at least 10 people before you truly know

who is best for you. Good news...you just got a little closer to that point after this last event.

Don't you want to find the right person for you? You should be cheering yourself for finding out what "doesn't work" in this last relationship.

It is a good thing!!!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. yes, it is. dont let bitter people tell you otherwise. there are plenty of good people

in this world and you are sure to meet one, assuming you are actually looking and wanting one.

[Guava Jelly]

10. You are just interviewing for a job

And you haven't found a qualified applicant yet.
You will meet someone special I just know it!
It just might take a bit. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

11. either that or

its just dating, and its hard, and I think harder as time goes on because one knows what they want, and one can tell quickly if that is it or not, or sometimes, the heart gets yanked around.

Hope you are okay!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[crim son]

12. Of course that's what it is.

And while you're doing the threshing, you're learning about your own needs and foibles, and what you can and cannot tolerate. :hug: :hug: :hug: Please feel better.

[struggle4progress]

13. Don't take it too seriously: maybe think about it as a way of making some new friends

and having some fun

:shrug:

[DFW]

14. Hell if I know. I never played that game much, and when I did...

It led to nothing. At the tender age of 22, I was playing music in a cabaret
in Berlin when a girl I knew told me casually, "hey you should meet my friend,
here." I took one look at "my friend here," and said, "you're right, I should!"

That was 34 years ago yesterday, on July 25, 1974. We're still together today.
It's not always that simple, but you sometimes do luck out when you think it's
never gonna happen. Just stay open to whatever might happen, and you have at
shot at getting lucky. If someone as ugly as I can, then anyone can!

[Danger Mouse]

15. I'm not going to lie to you.

[redqueen]

16. Heh

Yeah, that's pretty much my answer, too.

[Danger Mouse]

26. A fellow embittered cynic?

:hug:

[Roon]

17. I don't date anymore

if I don't come across a person in my every day life that isn't interested in me, I need to get out more. I have a couple of guys lined up, and we aren't dating. Just guys I know from my circle of friends.

[crimsonblue]

18. Dating isn't worth it...

it only causes pain in the end. I think the celebate monks in Tibet got it right in that respect.

[old mark]

19. Be positive.

You have succeeded in finding X-number of people who are not "it".

Next.....

mark

[Heidi]

20. How's anyone gonna find out what a great person you are

if you don't mingle? :hug: :hug:

[pinstikfartherin]

21. I think that dating

helps you to find what you really want in a person. It also helps you to see what you're doing wrong or they're doing wrong in relationships. The experiences may help you one day when you do find that one special person so you can make it work and not make past mistakes.

From my personal experience, I really think that you'll find the greatest love when you're not even looking for it.

Socialize, HAVE FUN. It doesn't always have to be so serious.

[supernova]

22. Thanks to eveybody who responded

I feel in better spirits to today, just a little washed out and tired.

:grouphug:

[Amerigo Vespucci]

23. It's a process, which includes several elements that many of us don't want to accept

1). "You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you" (Yeah, that's touchy-feely New Age Psych 101, but it's also true).

2). The chances of dating a loser are about 50-50 with the chances of dating a winner...not bad odds considering how many people are in the world.

3). "The Law of Attraction"...sorry, that's another truism, even though it's been pimped to death by the book and DVD of "The Secret" and all of its hellish offspring. What we put out is what we get back, so if we don't like what we're attracting, the first step should be closely examining what we're putting out.

4). When you find the right person, it will be worth it. Of course, it can never get to that point if you call off the search because you don't think it's worth it.

5). Tom Petty, "Walls (Circus)" from the "She's The One" soundtrack (http://www.amazon.com/Shes-One-Tom-Petty-Heartbreakers/dp/B000002N8T/):



"All around your island
Is a barricade
That keeps out the danger
And holds in the pain
But you've got a heart so big
It could crush this town
And I can't hold out forever
Even walls fall down"

Every time I feel sorry for myself because I haven't found the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with yet, I listen to that song and realize that it will happen when it happens, but ONLY...IF...I...CHOOSE...TO...LET...IT.

:toast:

[quakerboy]

24. For me, at least

It was when I said "fuck it" no more hiding anything. Beer gut n' rotted teeth in front, so to speak, and then everything else. Separated the chaff off right quick. So my advise is "Be the worst you can be".

Course... I make no claims that it is good advise.

[HEyHEY]

25. I won't lie to you - dating sucks

[UndertheOcean]

27. I refuse to lie to you , dating is not worth it

Just date your hand instead.

[SPKrazy]

28. must be a lot of chaff

most of the wheat gone?

:shrug:


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