Update on the girl that took pills on top of alcohol --

[Madrone]

For those that don't know - I got a call in the middle of the night from someone I don't really know well that told me another person I don't know very well was in serious condition after taking pills on top of a LOT of alcohol. LOOOOOOOOONG story - it's in the archives somewhere.

Anyway - I still don't want to mention what happened that led her to that (not her fault - terrible story - short version = boyfriend is in jail for something horrific, it was a shock to everyone, and she's alone with a baby and a 4 year old, no money, no nothing. She doesn't work.)

I took her with me to a doctor appointment in a town 1.5 hours away, then took her to dinner at a chinese buffet. She's still having a hard time but is hanging in there. She has NO money. The parents of the boyfriend took the $1000 she managed to get out of his bank account and refused to give it back. (more lengthy, horrible stories there)

I gave her the only cash I had on me yesterday - $17 which ain't shit. But I have AMAZING friends - friends that back me up and take over where I cannot. #1 friend had me give his phone number to the girl so she can call him if something happens again like happened last week. He used to be a paramedic and I trust him implicitly. He also wants her to call him if she just needs to TALK (he used to work a crisis line and is very well trained) - any time, day or night. He doesn't work and I do - so that offer is a blessing to her AND me. #2 friend went to the bank and deposited $1000 in my account today to give to her. When I called her to tell her I had money for her and how much she started crying. Now she doesn't have to worry about the rent (due NOW) or gas for the car (it's on "E") or food for her kids. She can (probably) get her driver's license now and can start driving around to put in job applications.

I am so relieved for her - I know how much stress she's been under, and this is just one small part of her burden lifted. I am continually amazed at how the special people in MY life rise above and beyond to help people they don't even know. That I know the person is enough for them. And that's incredible.

It just makes my heart happy to know there are truly selfless people out there - and there's one scared young lady that will sleep better tonight because of them.

[UndertheOcean]

1. It is very heart warming that someone can give away $1000 in this bad economy

There is still hope in this world.

Sorry I snapped at you previously , hit a nerve , a soar one.

[Madrone]

2. It's okay -

And I can definitely see how you could misunderstand me by what was written - especially if you don't KNOW me, which of course you do not. :)

Yes, my friend is a very FRUGAL person - lives well below his means and as a result can do this. He's good people - very, very kind hearted. I appreciate him and his generosity a great deal - and I'm thankful to call him "friend". To the girl his generosity means EVERYTHING - she's in a really bad position right now and his gift gives her a chance. She's completely destitute - and emotionally destroyed. :(

[Writer]

3. That's so rare.

Not only will this young woman realize that there is support out there, but she'll also realize that there's HOPE for the future.

That's so rare. She is so very blessed. As are you.

[Richard Steele]

4. If our Creator actually JUDGES us, I suspect he does it on the basis of how we treat each other.

Even if he doesn't, I suspect you and your unnamed friends
put a smile on his face.

Y'all done good. :thumbsup:

Richard

[lildreamer316]

5. Does she need clothes for the four year old?

If he's not that big (my four year old is really in 5T's) I can probably send a bunch of outgrown clothes. I'll take a look and see what I've got.
For the baby, tell her to go to Goodwill; also see if there's a store like Once Upon A Child around - consignment/resale baby stuff that's checked before it's sold.

[Madrone]

6. No - and she's a SHE. ;)

I think the woman has plenty of clothes and such for the girls - so I'm pretty sure she's in okay shape as far as that goes - for the moment. But thank you SO much for asking and bringing that up - what a kind thing to offer!

I'm not sure what will end up happening - she was with the guy for 3 years and he didn't want her to work so EVERYTHING they have he purchased, and he's not put ANYTHING in her name whatsoever. His family is turning on her - HE called from jail wanting her to sell EVERYTHING to get him out (she's not that stupid) ... so she very well may walk out of this with nothing, by the time all's said and done.

[lildreamer316]

7. Posession is nine-tenths of the law..NOT that

I'm advocating she "steal" anything..but if he bought it with cash (without traceable proof such as cc records or check recipts) she could very well store some things somewhere else and claim that she had to sell those things to pay for bail/lawyers/things he incurred while in jail (use your imaginations..)
In this case, whatever it takes. The welfare of the children and her is paramount.

OH! and no matter what, she should have 30 days to vacate from the time that someone requests that she do so (if they are trying to kick her out of wherever it is that they are living).

[Madrone]

10. I don't think she'll be kicked out.

The house she lives in is owned by the company he worked for (past-tense as he no longer has a job after what he did) and they said they wouldn't but her out in the street. She will have the rent money though - as soon as I get to the bank and get it out for her.

I suspect most of the belongings were not bought with cash - so there is probably some sort of trail. The fact that they aren't married is both a blessing AND a curse at the moment. A blessing for a multitude of reasons, and a curse because she has no legal rights to anything (I think).

God - last Wed. morning she woke up, kissed this asshole goodbye when he left for work and he was arrested an hour after he got there. Her whole life has been turned upside down - through no fault of her own. She trusted the wrong person, obviously. At least she's smart enough not to be defending him - nor does she want him back. She's incredibly strong - and she's had to be unfortunately, her whole life has been tragic.

[lizziegrace]

8. People are remarkable

we've both found that out. :hug:

PM the name of grocery stores in the area, also gas stations. I have reward points on my debit card and while it may take a few weeks, I can get gift cards sent paid with my reward points...

:hug:

I know you're just being you and doing the right thing, but I admire you and have all the respect in the world for you. You're amazing. Truly amazing...

:hug:

[Madrone]

11. I'm just the corner some strangers are converging on -

That's it! PM in a minute ...

[malta blue]

9. what a great story

Madrone, you surely do have great friends. And you are no so bad yourself :hug:

[Madrone]

12. What *I* am is T-I-R-E-D.

Haha! But yeah, I DO have some really great friends. I appreciate them greatly.