malta blue
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:32 AM
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Little MB turned 9 this summer.
I was told that I should start discussing menstruation and sex-ed with her soon. In my head, she is still a little baby and it's hard to divorce myself from that.
What say you DUers? Is it time or can I wait another year or so?
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:35 AM
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1. I certainly don't know when is the appropriate age. I guess |
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it depends on the maturity of the child. My sis-in-law started menstruating at the age of 8. I personally think you can wait a little longer, maybe when she is 10 or 11. I really think this is a personal choice and it all depends on the child. Good luck.
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:40 AM
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How are you feeling these days?
:hi:
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:46 AM
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4. Large and in charge. If she doesn't come this next week, I will |
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get induced on the 15th. That seems like a lifetime away even though it is only a week and a half.
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:52 AM
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:spray:
:rofl::rofl:
Thanks for the laugh....
(((((good vibrations))))) for an easy delivery Shell. I can't wait to see pix.
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:45 AM
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3. she probably knows about menstruation and has some inkling about sex |
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talking to her about it will jsut make her more comfortable discussing these things with you
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:51 AM
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5. wow - you think so huh? |
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I am so out of the loop...
thanks for your input lionness :pals:
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:52 AM
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7. i grew up in a more conservative country and knew about menstruation by 9 |
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:54 AM
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8. perhaps - I will ask try to bring it up this weekend. |
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Thu Sep-04-08 09:59 AM
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9. welcome. its best that she is prepared. girls are gettign their period much earlier |
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best of luck, cant imagine that this is easy for you :hug:
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:05 AM
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:07 AM
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11. considering that she's getting close to getting her period |
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she should know about it.
I think 9 is a perfectly acceptable age to tell her about that.
As far as how far to go w/ it all... let her guide you. Answer what she asks, but you don't have to be really detailed unless she asks for a lot of detail.
She knows what she's ready to hear.
starting the conversation shouldn't be too difficult.. there are a billion commercials on TV.. when one comes on, ask her if she knows what tampons/pads are for... then you're rolling.
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:18 AM
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I will try to bring it up casually.
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:12 AM
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12. I only have boys, but I started dropping in bits of info around then. |
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Bring up the changes that happen in people... ask if she wants to know more. I bring it up kind of cyclically, with a little more detail each time.
Some girls actually do start menstruating in 4th grade, so it would be a real shocker if she had no idea what was going on!
And she's going to start hearing stuff in school, if she hasn't already.
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:22 AM
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14. Well, I had "the class" as a 10 year old, but you are the best judge |
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of your child. FWIW, my mother said not one word to me. I always tell her it's her fault I had a kid at 19. ;)
Seriously thought, BabyG (who would kill me right about now) is just at the brink (at just turned 10) although I haven't said anything except to discuss hygeine and deodorant with him. I'm scared to talk "the talk" with a boy. He's very open and yet I am afraid I will mess it up somehow.
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:29 AM
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15. I dunno... she's probably old enough to start. |
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Better for her to know it's going to happen before it happens.
Good luck. :hug:
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:15 PM
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:34 AM
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16. Hmmm,. every child and every family is going to be different. |
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But I wouldn't put it off for too long. Girls have gotten pregnant at that age before.
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:16 PM
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I know you are right, but holy jeebus, I am so not ready yet.....
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Thu Sep-04-08 10:53 AM
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17. Has she asked any questions on the subject? |
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I've always talked about as much as my kids could absorb whenever they ask. There's a good book by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown (the Arthur series author) called "What's the Big Secret" http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Big-Secret-Talking-about/dp/0316101834/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220543419&sr=1-1I found it really helpful to read with my younger son, who's now 10. It doesn't explain everything, but it covers a lot, and gets them thinking about what questions the need to ask.
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:14 PM
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Thu Sep-04-08 11:21 AM
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You want her to hear about it from you before her friends start giving her possibly scary misinformation. I would not wait.
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:16 PM
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I will try to talk to her a little this weekend.
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Thu Sep-04-08 11:30 AM
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19. She probably knows a lot more than you think |
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My cousin (we grew up like sisters, when she wasn't actually living with us, she was right down the street) explained menstruation to me. She was/is three years older than me.
When I was 8, my mom and aunt were sitting out by the pool playing cards, and my cousin called, I answered the phone, and she wanted to talk to my aunt. My aunt didn't want to be bothered, so Sue told me to tell her mother to get her butt to the phone cuz she just started her period and she didn't have any pads (this was the late 1960s). So I went back and nonchalantly relayed the message to my aunt and my mom. Well, my mom's mouth flew wide open. She asked me if I knew what that meant, and I said sure, it means that a woman bleeds "down there" once a month if she isn't pregnant. Perturbed at getting the 3rd degree, I then asked if I could go back to playing in the pool.
My mom was sooo pissed at my cousin for having robbed her of that "special mother/daughter moment", I don't think she ever got over it.
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:15 PM
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:rofl:
Thanks for the input.
I suppose I am gonna have to suck it up and have the talk.....
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:47 PM
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25. If it makes you feel any better, my younger daughter is 8, and we've had little bits of "the talk." |
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This is what she said just yesterday, noticing me finally flipping the kitchen calendar page to September: "Mom, since it's a new month, did my thingies release an egg?"
(She couldn't remember the word ovaries, and then I had to explain that she wasn't quite old enough to be releasing eggs yet, and that it doesn't go by calendar months. I think I'm going to have to be a little more clear with my explanations!)
:)
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:55 PM
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:pals:
Thanks for the encouragement.
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Thu Sep-04-08 12:55 PM
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26. Mine started asking POINTED questions before age 5. |
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They were reproductive EXPERTS.
My littlest was OBSESSED with reproduction, heading straight for that section in any library or bookstore.
Her favorite pastime as a toddler was pretending to be pregnant.
I never told them anything they did not specifically ASK the answer for, and even then, when I would not give them a thorough answer, they RESEARCHED it.
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Thu Sep-04-08 03:27 PM
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28. My parents answered my questions honestly from the time I was able to talk. |
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I respect them for that. And hey, knowledge of the human body isn't dirty or corrupting, it just is what it is. If you're not open to honest discussion it'll just make her think that it's something secret, or shameful, and you seem like an openminded person, so that's probably the last thing you want.
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Thu Sep-04-08 04:22 PM
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29. I'm too young to give that speech |
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That is why she has a mother. (I'm a coward)
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Thu Sep-04-08 06:49 PM
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30. as others have already said, she probably has some info |
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and would like to know what is accurate and what isn't. All three of my girls started @ age 11. From the time they were little the conversations were always available. Somehow, very early on we agreed that they could get their ears pierced when they had their first period. (weird combo, I know) I worked for us. Whenever they wanted to open the conversation it was "when it's time for me to get my ears pierced....." ymmv,but having a known celebration of some kind was a great door opener around here. :hi:
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