DU, I am a little worried...

[Pierre.Suave]

Earlier today I had to call my fiancee and tell her that due to school, I had to change our dinner plans, but that I would be happy to go out for drinks later tonight when I got home. I left a voice mail at around 3pm. I have not heard from her since. I have called and got no reply. I have not received any calls all day either.

I think she may be mad at me for changing plans again, or worse...it is the worse that has me really worried, it is not normal for her to remain out of contact like this.

I have been worrying myself all evening about this. I am home now, it is 11:42pm, and she is not here.

My OCD compelled me to edit my typos...

[KitchenWitch]

1. I don't know what to tell you...

It may be nothing, or it may not.

:hug:

I will hope for the best for you two.

[Pierre.Suave]

6. Thanks

[DearAbby]

2. Go over to her house with nice chilled bottle?

I would have to go over there to check to make sure she was okay. I dont know about you...I hope for the best for both of you

[Pierre.Suave]

4. This is her house

we live together.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

3. jason --

I hope it is nothing more serious.

[Pierre.Suave]

5. Me too

right now, I want it to be that she is mad at me, as fucked up as that is...

[Tuesday Afternoon]

7. and if she is mad at you...

it makes me wonder about her priorities.........

I don't like the sound of this. I know you are in love with her. Does she understand what you have undertaken?

[Pierre.Suave]

10. yes

we had a very long talk about this before hand.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. well...then -- I hope everything is ok.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

15. Me too

thanks.

[merh]

8. have you called her close friends

or folks she works with, to see when they saw her last and if she said anything about going anywhere after work?

[Pierre.Suave]

9. I should do that

I did call her parents, they have not talked to her either.

[merh]

11. check with her friends and the people she works with, see if she

said something about going out or is out with one of them.

[Pierre.Suave]

16. calling some

now.

[Madrone]

13. Not that I advocate disrespecting anyone's privacy ...

but if you are on the same cellphone plan could you look and see if she's made any calls to ANYONE during that time? I am completely 100% against prying into someone else's business (like phonecalls or emails, etc) but if I were you, in this case, I'd probably do it. I'd be worried sick.

[Pierre.Suave]

14. We are on the same plan

I wonder if that is even possible.

[Madrone]

17. On mine it is.

ATT - on the website. You can look at all the phones on the plan, and all of the call records.

[Pierre.Suave]

19. really?

I did not know that. I have AT&T as well.

[Madrone]

27. Oops - replied to myself. See below. n/t

...

[Madrone]

25. Yep -

They keep changing the page so I don't know exactly what it looks like now - and I haven't paid attention since I usually just bop in and pay the bill them I'm OUT - but there's something there that lets you switch between numbers to see incoming and outgoing calls on that line, etc. If memory serves (and the page is still the same) it's likely a dropdown menu with the different numbers in it.

[Pierre.Suave]

28. I am looking

but have not been able to find it yet.

I am logged into my account, which is where I think it would be.

[Madrone]

32. Hang on - I'll log into mine and maybe I'll be able to direct you more efficiently.

...

[Pierre.Suave]

35. thanks

[Madrone]

39. Okay - here's a photo

Now, I know *I* set it up to have the names on the tabs - and I'm not sure what it looked like before that. I would imagine the same - minus the names.

Does this look familiar?




ETA - this is the first page I see when I log in.

[Pierre.Suave]

40. Yeah

do I click the tabs to see the call data?

[Madrone]

41. Click the tab with phone number you want to look at.

...

[Pierre.Suave]

42. Awesome

did not know this.

[Madrone]

43. Oh - then click "View Details" on the "Minutes" screen.

...

[Danger Mouse]

18. hmm...i hope that it's nothing.

good luck.

[Pierre.Suave]

20. me too

[GoddessOfGuinness]

21. Sending hugs...

:hug::hug::hug:
I hope everything's ok...
Have you heard from any of her friends yet?

[Pierre.Suave]

23. I have left a lot of voicemails

Everyone we know is boring and would not usually be out this late...

[GoddessOfGuinness]

34. Well, we're here for you to help you wait...

[RoyGBiv]

22. Ok

So life isn't all champagne and roses.

I broke a date with a woman 14 years ago because my grandmother was in the hospital. Haven't seen her since.

[Pierre.Suave]

26. That sucks

[auntAgonist]

24. I hope all is ok with your fiancee.

best wishes.

aA

[Pierre.Suave]

30. Thank you

[FloridaJudy]

29. Keeping my fingers crossed for you

Hope it's one of those "But I thought I'd told you..." situations.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

31. I wish

but we had definite plans tonight.

[UndertheOcean]

33. Nooooooooooo ooooooooooooo oooooooooooo oooooooooo

[Pierre.Suave]

38. exactly

[CaliforniaPeggy]

36. My dear jasonc...

I've just read your thread, and now I'm worried too...

I think you're doing what you can, though...

Whew.

I hope she walks in the door very soon, sweetie...

I know you two love each other so damn much...

Keep us informed, OK?

You are both in my thoughts...:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

37. Thanks Peggy

[RadiationTherapy]

44. The early part of my marriage was pock marked with these late nights and my wife not calling.

For her it was about independence; I overreacted a few times (I am a hands-off person.) Despite how worried you are, please be gentle when she gets home.

[Madrone]

45. Anything?

Leads? Word? Anything?

[RadiationTherapy]

46. I am hoping she is home and they are fighting.

Wait. no.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

47. Hopefully, if she's made it home safely...

they are no longer fighting.

[Pierre.Suave]

54. No Fighting

we are not fighters.

[RadiationTherapy]

56. I know. I was projecting.

I have serious trust issues, so the many times my wife came home after 3 am resulted in some big bangs...both in fighting and screwing.

[Pierre.Suave]

48. Update to my post from last night

She made it home safe, she was out with friends. Apparently, my phone messages were not getting through so she had no idea I was calling. We checked her missed calls list and my number was not on there...so I have no idea what was going on, but all is well now.

Thank you all for your support and caring.

[Droopy]

49. Here you go

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8076422

[KitchenWitch]

50. I am glad it was just phone glitches.

That happens to me sometimes. I have AT&T cell service as well. My mom has Verizon and it happens to her too.

Weird.

Sometimes I will get a voice mail message a few days after it was sent. :eyes:

Oh well.

Sorry for being rambly.

[Pierre.Suave]

51. "Sometimes I will get a voice mail message a few days after it was sent. :eyes:"

GOD I hate it when that happens... ESPECIALLY when it is IMPORTANT!!! :mad:

[KitchenWitch]

53. No kidding.

So I take it I am not the only person that happens to.

[Pierre.Suave]

55. Nope

I have gotten them up to a WEEK later...

So frustrating.

[marzipanni]

52. When I got up this a.m. I hoped to see post #48!

So glad to hear all is well. :hi:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

57. I'm glad everything's ok...

Now if I could just figure out who left all those messages on my phone, saying they wanted to go out later... ;-)