Thanks, and an update on my situation

[malta blue]

Mr MB was at the house last night, much to my chagrin.

He asked if I had plans for dinner, I said no. He asked if I wanted him to cook something, I said no.

He made something for himself and went up to his office, only coming downstairs after I went up to sleep.

I am hoping that he makes his move and leaves the house by the end of the week.

Thank you ALL so much for your words of kindness and support. I never would have made it through the work day yesterday without you.

:grouphug::grouphug:

[Haole Girl]

1. That sounds confusing

I wonder if he was told by his attorney to try to "play nice"? Sorry, that sounds so cynical. Either way, I hope he moves out soon too. I hate the state of limbo.

Thank you for the update.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[raccoon]

5. Yeah, thanks for the update.

" that sounds so cynical." But realistic.


:hug:

[TZ]

2. Good luck to you, MB

We will be here for you during this rough patch....:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

3. What the????

is he that ignorant or what was he trying to accomplish by the dinner issue?????

Stay strong :hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

4. May he do what is best for you both, and if that is to move out,

may it happen quickly.

What a shock, MB. I'm so sorry. Again, you're in my thoughts.

[Orsino]

6. Are you taking steps to secure yourself?

Are you preparing to separate your finances from his? Are you looking for a lawyer, even if no one's actually filed papers yet? I hate even to bring these things up, but might it be worth your while (and money) to hire a private detective?

I wouldn't wish divorce--or even separation--on my worst enemy, but there are many possible positive outcomes to be had.

[WinkyDink]

7. We're still here! :)

[mnhtnbb]

8. We're here for you, MB. Hope he moves out quickly.

[malta blue]

9. ***** I just spoke to him *****

I just spoke to him and told him since I was going to tell Little MB tonight, that he needed to just NOT BE THERE anymore. He asked what he was supposed to do and I said a hotel might be a start. he said fine and hung up. Now I know he is out until Friday evening, when he was scheduled to return from NYC. I suppose I will ask him to get a hotel room until he finds a place to live. He will not be happy, but this is what HE asked for.

Since our finances were never co-mingled, that part should be relatively simple. There is the matter of the mortgage - and I have been reaching out to legal eagles. I would like to think this can be resolved in an amicable way, so I am trying not to be too bitchy (although it is part of my charm :P )

[supernova]

11. I'm glad you are protecting your interests

MB.

It's so unromantic to talk about money and finances, but it has to be done in any relationship. The fact that you have separate finances already is a good start.

FWIW, try to get all the big things resolved in a separation agreement. YMMV with the divorce laws in your state. When you do that, the actual official divorce is somewhat anticlimactic.

Much love to you MB. :hug:

[blueraven95]

10. I have no advice...

just :hug:

[applegrove]

12. Best wishes MB.

[KitchenWitch]

13. Although I did not respond, I read your other thread.

GAAAH

Your husband is being a total douchebag.

My best thoughts for a positive outcome for you and little MB. I hope the STBE does not keep you in limbo for too long.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. My dear malta blue...

Thanks for the update...

We are definitely here for you!

You just holler whenever you need vibes, hugs, support of any kind, OK?

:hug: