Is there one day that stands out in your life more so than any other?

[Tuesday Afternoon]

If so what is the day and why is it so different from all the other days before or since?

[bicentennial_baby]

1. There are 2:

The day my Mother was diagnosed with ALS.

The day I broke up with my Ex.

Both completely heartbreaking events. I lost a big piece of my heart and soul on both of those days.

On the upside, my Mom is still alive, and my Ex and I are the best of friends now, better than ever.

But yeah, those two days shattered my conception of normalcy, in a way. Hard to shake off.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

2. yeah...I can understand why, especially the Mom Day --

:hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

9. The reason that I included the second:

We were best friends for 9 years before we were together, and we were supposed to be together forever. 6 years of living together in a wrong situation, and I couldn't do it anymore. I broke his heart into a million pieces, willingly, and it was the worst moment ever. Kinda worse than my Mom's diagnosis, b/c this was something I could control, and I did it. It took us the past 3 years to get back on track, but I've had a lot of amends to make. I have grown and learned a lot. We're more solid than ever, but it was so painful to get here.

My Mom, I couldn't control that, so it was a different kind of hurt. But being in the room with her and the Dr when he said "ALS"...I'd rewind time to never have to live through that moment again if I could, as well as later that day when I had to tell my little brother and my Dad and then drive home alone, the night before my honeymoon. Horrific.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

11. I knew there was more to the Ex story. I didn't know whether you

would wnat to post more about it in tpublic forum though. Funny, how the details stick out in our mind.

[bicentennial_baby]

16. I'm fine with talking about it, b/c

I've learned so much and we have both traveled so far to get to where we are now, which is such a better place than we were in before. We've never gotten along better, really. We adore each other, and it just took us a long time to get here. It's all good. :)

I remember posting here about it when we broke up. So much of my life is documented here on DU, whether I like it or not. It's ok though. :)

[AlCzervik]

3. 2 for me as well, the day my Mom died and the day my daughter was born.

these events happened 9 years apart and i will never forget either day. The smell in the living room where my Mom's hospital bed , i can still smell it, also that was the day i was pretty much on my own at 17.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

5. a really sad day and a really happy day...

such is life.

[Shine]

4. I have several, so it's hard to narrow it to one.

Day my true love proposed.

Day we got married.

Day I gave birth to our first born son.

Day I gave birth to our beautiful daughter.

:loveya: I've had a lot of great days. :hi:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

7. these are the moments

that make all the minutes worth it. :) :hi:

[Ptah]

6. Sept. 19, 1981

Motorcycle crash.

Inches from amputee.

:scared:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

8. shh...

so glad for those inches :hug:

[Ptah]

17. All hail the inches!

[bertha katzenengel]

43. *gasp*

So glad you got through that, my friend. :pals:

[qwlauren35]

10. It's hard to narrow down.

These first two stand out in my life:
1.) My dad died in my house. That was a very painful and unforgettable day.
2.) I got fired once. That day, and the incidents that preceded it will haunt me for life.

I guess I should put the day I was date raped on the list. It was probably the biggest turning point of my life. Before it happened, I had been a virgin. When it was over, I redefined myself as a slut. Took years to repair the damage.

I still haven't recovered from getting fired - it will probably easily take about 10 more years.


I have photographs of the happiest days, and maybe that's why I don't store them in my memory banks. I don't have to - I can just look at the photo. But the days of intense misery and pain, they stay in my mind, with no need for external images.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. oh dear...

:hug:

the day etched deepest in my brain is a bad day, too.

[Texasgal]

13. The first day I saw someone die

My life very much changed at that point.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. yeah, I think these are "turning point days" for sure.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

15. My dear Tuesday Afternoon...

Well, I've had more than one memorable day...

My wedding day, more than 43 years ago, was certainly memorable. I remember thinking that I would never again have to go away from him...There was so much joy in that!

The births of my daughters are up there too, of course.

The day I miscarried my first pregnancy still remains with me. And the day I was asked for my resignation also remains with me, but much less so now.

There are others but these are the main ones...

:hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

18. asked for your resignation....You ???

:wtf: :wow: :shrug: :wow: :wtf:



and also: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. Thanks, sweetie...

Yes, me...

I was not a good employee for one of my jobs...

It was a huge learning experience.

I no longer beat myself up over it...

[RFKHumphreyObama]

19. The main day I can think of

The day my mother passed away, too young and so full of life and from an illness she defied the statistical odds to get

[lizziegrace]

63. ...

:hug:

[flvegan]

20. Battery farm raid (open rescue)*

Several hours of crawling through shit, waiting for some redneck with a shotgun (or the police) to show up and take your head off while rescuing egg-laying hens left to die.

That night defined me and the aftermath made me who I am today. I grin like an idiot every time I think of it.

*Specific dates, etc intentionally omitted.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

34. Adrenalin Rush!!

:D

[bertha katzenengel]

44. intriguing

would love to know more . . .

[TrogL]

22. the day my wife died in a car wreck

[RFKHumphreyObama]

24. I'm so sorry

:hug: :hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

37. ~~~

:hug:

[LynzM]

49. I'm so sorry, TrogL...

:hug:

[TrogL]

58. Further explanation

Before:

I'd been drinking too much, lost my teaching career, other jobs, pretty much given up. She was still working teaching but part-time. I suggest that maybe she drive somewhere before work to pick up a job application.

That day:

I woke up late with the numious feeling (think The Force) "something's wrong". A few minutes later, the phone rang - it's the school wondering where she is. I get dressed, ready to go drive her route looking for her. Just as I'm about to go out the door the phone rings again. It's the RCMP telling me to get to the hospital - NOW.

Sorry, I can't post the rest.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

67. oh.dear.god. ---

mucho :hug: for you.

[Iggo]

23. Yes, but...

...the mods frown on sex threads.

[ConcernedCanuk]

25. Me too

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'nuff said . . :evilgrin:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

36. ...orly?!

:wow:

[ConcernedCanuk]

60. ...orly?! - - oh.hell.yeah. not sure whatcha mean there - take a peek here

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remember her?

[Tuesday Afternoon]

35. silly...

:spank: :D

[SarahB]

26. The day I met my husband.

I don't think I've ever had a more "perfect day". We have a lot of stress in our lives at times and we're both very complicated people, but we have a connection that we've never had before. I never want to love anyone else. There's just no comparison.

Likewise, I have another "opposite" type of miserable days in my previous life, but the negative stuff is over now. I'm not the same person I used to be back then.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

38. That is a happy memory. Thanks for sharing it.

:)

[crim son]

27. Of course.

Most recently, the day I finally understood my marriage was over, but also the day each of my three children was born. Funny; I'm not in the mood to reminisce.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

33. totally understand. There are times for looking back and there are

times to look forward. Focus! :)

[hobbit709]

28. Two days

Oct. 2, 1973-when I held a piece of paper in my hand that said I was free of the military

April 1, 1996-the day I got married.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

41. good days for you !!

:D

Congratulations on both of them :toast:

[vi5]

29. The sadness of the day my son was born...

...We went to the hospital thinking nothing was wrong and my son would be born and home within 2 days, happy and healthy as my daughter had been 5 years prior.

But then when he was born and the doctors took him to another room and they told us there were about a half-dozen things wrong with him that not only would require major operations and procedures and medical intervention but that these things could also indicate some larger syndrome or disease......being hit in the face with something that in an unexpected second can and would completely change our life and throw every plan we ever had into chaos...then coming out and having to explain the situation (which my wife and I barely understood ourselves) to our 5 year old daughter standing there looking confused in her "I'm the Big Sister" t-shirt and hat......fuck I can't even think about that day without a wellspring of sadness, tears, anger, pain...it's all still so vivid.

It's 2 years later and although things aren't perfect, they're much better than what we were confronted with that day. I've been through hell and back with my son but we've also seen enough cases of people who are going through hell and will never get the "and back" part.

So yeah....that's the day. I know everyone feels like the day a child is born is an important and memorable one in their lives....and this was but not for the reasons it should have been.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

I am so sorry. May I ask,

How is your son today?

and your daughter?

:grouphug: <----for your family

[vi5]

45. He is better, and he will be even better....

It's been 2 years and he still has some of the issues that we're working through (trach tube, feeding tube, etc.). But he's about 80% a completely normal 2 year old, and the other 20% will come in time which still sets us apart from the many families we've met and encountered along the way who aren't so lucky and whose children have issues that will never go away and will not be repairable with an operation or a procedure. And who haven't been as lucky as we have with insurance.

So 2 years later we're not QUITE as far along as we had hoped along the way, but compared with everything that was laid bare on the table that first day before doctors knew anything we are SO much further along than we had hoped.

And my daughter is no worse for the wear either. If anything along the way we've had to reign ourselves and our friends and family in from treating her TOO specially in attempts to compensate for how involved my wife and I had to be with my son. We didn't want her to get to the point of equating her brother being sick with her getting oodles of special treatment and attention.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

48. good to hear...

all my best wishes for you and your family. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

30. several: the day i met lisa. the day my brother ran away from home.

the day my brother was diagnosed w.a terminal illness.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

31. 2 sad and one happy...

:hug:

Tell Lisa (Rockit) Hello :hi:

[redqueen]

32. 2 days

my daughters' 0th birthdays. :P

[Tuesday Afternoon]

39. uhm...

yeah. That would be the day :D

[bertha katzenengel]

40. The day my mother died. I was eleven.

Sitting in 6th grade, coloring a ditto of a Christmas candle. The phone rang (I even remember that) and the teacher said, "Kim, you need to go to the office." When I got there I saw my stepfather standing in the doorway to the parking lot. When he saw me he just turned around and walked out. He didn't wait for me to catch up, and as I walked to the car I thought, "maybe mom's dead." Then, when I got into the car, I thought, "no, she's probably just in the hospital* again."

I remember all the details of that day, and from the next day until a few days after her funeral, bits and pieces remain. My grandmother's presence (always, my grandmother's presence, like a salve). Casseroles from Judy and other women in the church. Sitting apart from the regular people, in a small room perpendicular to the casket, curtained by a gauzy veil through which we watched the funeral. Some adult handing me a tiny book-shaped vase with the serenity prayer on it. Etc.

Although the next few years were their own special hell, it is undeniable that my life is better because my mother died when I was eleven.


* mental

[Tuesday Afternoon]

42. it is amazing the details one remembers ...

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

46. I'll go with my stock answer

The days my kids were born.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

47. ahh...

yeah. :)


Long time, no see :hi:

[MrCoffee]

50. Mine's not a happy day

but on the plus side, my father never fractured my skull again.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

65. yeah...

I know about the "my father" thing....:hug:

[easttexaslefty]

51. 9/11/07

[Tuesday Afternoon]

66. 9/11 --

is a date that will live in infamy for a lot of us :hug:

[bigwillq]

52. The day I came out

and the days and weeks that followed. It was the beginning of my "new" life.
Granted, I am not "out" to everyone but still.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

68. the courage it takes....

one of these days, I hope it is different :hug:

[HEyHEY]

53. The day I was squeezed out of a vagina was pretty different

[Tuesday Afternoon]

69. breathing air...opening the eyes...yeah

major day for sure :rofl:

[Red State Rebel]

54. The Day I Had Weight Loss Surgery!

My life has been profoundly different ever since in a most wonderful way!!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

70. that is great!! I am so happy that things are going well for you!

:yourock:

[LanternWaste]

55. Jan 15, 2003

Jan 15, 2003. The day I put my best friend to sleep.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

71. those kind of days are always hard.

Old age, I hope. :hug:

[Inchworm]

56. Today

hehe, I have a bad memory thank goodness.

There are several days that really stick out in my past. B.I.G. days and small ones are all what gets us to today. Therefore hence and hitherto tomorrow will be there... :)

:hi:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

72. good to see you, dude!!

:pals: :hi:

[Auggie]

57. The day I left Ohio for California

I had just turned 22. As I drove west through Cleveland -- no shit -- a rainbow formed over the city skyline. Totally blew me away. I took it as a omen of good luck and adventure. Four and a half days later I was in San Francisco.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

73. May I ask, how long ago was it that you made the trip?

Have you been there ever since?

[Auggie]

83. 1979. I've been back a few times, most recently 2004.

I don't want to dump on Ohio. But I look at the things I've seen and done and learned and the people I've met in the Bay Area and can't imagine having the same experiences and opportunities where I grew up. Moving here also helped tear down every stereotype I might have had and made me a smarter, more compassionate person.

[Taverner]

59. Not really - most of my life can be summed up by gradually changing clouds

If that makes any sense...

[Danger Mouse]

61. I don't want to go there. I really just don't want to go there.

:(

[Tuesday Afternoon]

75. ok...

sorry. :hug:

[MsTryska]

62. november 1st, 2002

A friend took me to a club for my birthday that changed my perceptions of myself and my entire worldview actually.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

76. well, that must have been SOME kind of club...

:hi:

[MsTryska]

80. oh it definitely was.....

it made a positive impact on me.

that was the day I became a Diva. And i haven't looked back since.

[femmocrat]

64. 3: Wedding and birthdays of two children.

Nothing else like those 3 days!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

77. Happy Memories to treasure and cherish...

:)

[Generic Brad]

74. The first time my wife brushed my hand with the back of her hand

It was made to look accidental, but I could tell she was trying to let me know she found me attractive. I literally felt an electrical chill run up and down my spine. I was hooked from that moment on.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

78. chemistry...you two have it !!

:toast:

[sniffa]

79. My best friend's funeral/day he died sticks out for me

Really fucked me up, and still does to some extent.

[bluesbassman]

81. The day a car battery exploded in my face.

I ran into the house and got under the shower head to flush my eyes, but the acid had already damaged my left eye. I was pretty sure at that point that I had lost sight in my left eye. Fortunately though, the eye heals itself amazingly well, and I had a 100% recovery.

It was a very humbling experience to realize how fast an accident can happen and face something as life changing as the loss of sight.

[Bullwinkle925]

82. gosh . . . .

there are several . . . .

the day i got married
the day my daughter came into this world
the day my stepfather died
the day my mother died
the day my sister died
the day my husband died
the day i dodged a tornado
the day Kennedy was assassinated


i guess 2 happy days out of 8 rememberances isn't bad, is it?