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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:05 AM Original message |
Why is it unacceptable to cry at work in our society? |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:08 AM Response to Original message |
1. Because it's the emotional equivalent of shitting your pants! |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:08 AM Response to Original message |
2. one is feminine and the other is masculine |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:15 PM Response to Reply #2 |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:13 AM Response to Original message |
3. My guess is because it's considered feminine and therefore, weak. |
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Jokerman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:47 AM Response to Original message |
4. You just had to ask that today. |
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blueraven95 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 09:47 AM Response to Reply #4 |
64. ... |
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Fire Walk With Me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:51 AM Response to Original message |
5. Men know that if they ever appear to be weak or vulnerable, |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 08:54 AM Response to Reply #5 |
61. No one replied to your post, which is probably a good idea, but let me be the first to say... |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:32 AM Response to Original message |
6. So many bullshit gender specific answers. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:39 AM Response to Reply #6 |
8. IME it is if you're high enough up. |
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RobinA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:47 AM Response to Reply #6 |
10. The Biggest |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:17 PM Response to Reply #6 |
14. "The idea that blowing your top at the workplace is absurd" |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:22 PM Response to Reply #14 |
15. I am not saying it doesn't happen, I am saying it is disruptive to any business |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:38 PM Response to Reply #15 |
16. Where do you work? |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:48 PM Response to Reply #16 |
18. I have worked at Merrill Lynch, ATT, Blue Cross Blue shield, landscaping |
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crispini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 01:14 PM Response to Reply #18 |
21. It may be a cultural / geographic thing. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 01:35 PM Response to Reply #18 |
22. That's interesting... I've worked for both large and small companies... |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 08:09 PM Response to Reply #22 |
41. Wow. I have no advice. That sucks. I will just have to stick with my experiences |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 08:42 AM Response to Reply #16 |
59. Not at my place! |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 10:05 AM Response to Reply #59 |
65. You work at a hospital? |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 10:23 AM Response to Reply #65 |
66. Nope, in cancer research |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 10:27 AM Response to Reply #66 |
67. I'm not sure it's so comparable... |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 10:42 AM Response to Reply #67 |
68. You seem to be having difficulties in understanding |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 10:57 AM Response to Reply #68 |
69. Not at all... |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:38 PM Response to Reply #14 |
37. You very well might. Lots of people develop PTSD from work. Google "work trauma." nt |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:22 PM Response to Reply #6 |
24. because its true? you're not the only one in the world who has had a job. |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 07:21 PM Response to Reply #24 |
40. the disdain for crying is a characteristic of our society that is changing rapidly. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:20 PM Response to Reply #40 |
42. maybe you are lucky that you are a boy/man and can afford to ignore sexism |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 10:31 PM Response to Reply #42 |
43. C'mon. BOY/man? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 09:00 AM Response to Reply #43 |
44. well i use boy to identify men, but i thought maybe you used man to self identify |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 09:06 PM Response to Reply #44 |
57. I am in a communications theory class right now, so I understand what happened. |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:48 PM Response to Reply #6 |
54. Laughter, too? |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 09:05 PM Response to Reply #54 |
56. Too much laughter is definitely distracting. |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 08:33 AM Response to Reply #56 |
58. So if it's "too much laughter"... |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 08:52 AM Response to Reply #58 |
60. Jesus complicated Christ. |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 09:22 AM Response to Reply #60 |
62. I imagine... |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 09:42 AM Response to Reply #62 |
63. Yeah. Sorry. Hadn't had my coffee yet. |
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MrCoffee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:39 AM Response to Original message |
7. They ain't paying you to cry. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:41 AM Response to Reply #7 |
9. No, nor are people paid to harass other employees. But it happens. nt |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:18 PM Response to Reply #7 |
23. Exactly, MrCoffee. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:22 PM Response to Reply #7 |
25. unless you work as a blues performer. |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:28 PM Response to Reply #7 |
27. What about quality control staff at the Kleenex factory, Nancy? |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:38 PM Response to Reply #7 |
36. Crying is bad for company morale too! |
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Haole Girl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 11:54 AM Response to Original message |
11. It's not just our society, unfortunately |
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Richardo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:00 PM Response to Original message |
12. It upsets my patients too much |
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LeftinOH (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:46 PM Response to Original message |
17. Its unprofessional, as are angry outbursts, (very) coarse language- |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:55 PM Response to Original message |
19. Might short out the keyboard |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 12:56 PM Response to Original message |
20. Well, I believe the root of it is sexist, but personally, |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:50 PM Response to Reply #20 |
55. Yes, as hard as it is to control the impulse to throw my puter out the 10th story window |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:27 PM Response to Original message |
26. Nothing wrong with it. I've made lots of people cr...uh, I mean |
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OmahaBlueDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:31 PM Response to Original message |
28. Are you crying? |
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MrCoffee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:35 PM Response to Reply #28 |
31. :thumbsup: |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:33 PM Response to Original message |
29. Because it affects other's abilities to do their job |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:33 PM Response to Reply #29 |
30. nor can you if someone is yelling. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:36 PM Response to Reply #30 |
32. Or playing their music too loud, or farting, smoking, or speaking in tongues |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:40 PM Response to Reply #32 |
38. Anyone who thinks they're going to stop my speaking in tongues and farting at work has a world of... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 09:27 AM Response to Reply #29 |
46. "bawling" |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:15 PM Response to Reply #46 |
47. No "bawling" implies loud crying |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:21 PM Response to Reply #47 |
48. Maybe to you. IMO it's pejorative. (nt) |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:23 PM Response to Reply #48 |
49. Don't you think that's a little thin skinned of you? |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:27 PM Response to Reply #49 |
51. I truly do not. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 03:43 PM Response to Original message |
33. Because it's inappropriate in any public setting outside of great trauma or emergency. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:42 PM Response to Reply #33 |
39. Unless you are a professional mourner |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:24 PM Response to Original message |
34. in my field, I have seen people cry to keep their jobs, it usually |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-23-08 04:35 PM Response to Original message |
35. it was actually pretty commonplace at my old job |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 09:16 AM Response to Original message |
45. Because it's an unconstructive approach to a problem |
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Lucian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:27 PM Response to Original message |
50. Why is it unacceptable to cry at all? |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:36 PM Response to Reply #50 |
53. It's not the crying, its the crying in the workplace |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Sep-25-08 11:56 AM Response to Reply #50 |
70. Good question. |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Sep-24-08 12:28 PM Response to Original message |
52. . |
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