What is a suitable grieving period of a 3 year relationship before dating again?

[SacredCow]

And yes, I do mean a date that might end in some activities sans-clothing. Not a relationship-hunting date, but one where both parties know the situation and, well, it is what it is...

So.... Complete this sentence, and feel free to elaborate on your choice:

"The suitable grieving period would be measured in _________ ."

On Edit- I'm kind of expecting a bell-curve on this.

[meegbear]

1. Be a man, Girl!

Get out there!

[SacredCow]

4. I figured you'd pipe up!

(and there are things in the works!!!) :evilgrin:

[meegbear]

11. If you can't get something on 411 ...

I'd be shocked.

[SacredCow]

15. It seems I'm only attractive to people who either:

A. Have lots and lots and lots of baggage,

B. Have needs for relationships and co-dependency right from the word go,

or C. Just don't turn my crank for whatever reason.

But I've found a few possumbilities! :woohoo:

[meegbear]

25. Just change your profile to 5 words ...

LOOKING FOR PIG SEX ONLY

[SacredCow]

26. LOLOLOLOLOL

My friends who frequent said site would KNOW I was in crisis and stage an intervention!

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Beer Snob-50]

2. you should greive the rest of your procreating life

playing old barry manilow songs and cry that it reminds you of them, calling their home and when they answer hang up, and leave boiled rabbit carcasses on thier front stoop!

[SacredCow]

5. Loving the boiled rabbit idea....

where does one go to purchase a rabbit?

[Beer Snob-50]

9. well if you were in my neck of the woods,

most porteguese meat markets would have it. or you could just go out and hunt your own wabbit.

[SacredCow]

10. I've got other things to hunt right now.....

"be vewwy vewwy qwiet- I'm hunting webound wecweation!!!"

:rofl:

[LeftyMom]

3. When you're ready. Only you know when that is.

I do think it's healthier in a way that you don't have relationship expectations right away.

Though the last time I had a breakup, I made a point of not dating and was going to take some time for myself, and somebody wonderful kind of fell into my lap, and I have never regretted that. So take some time for yourself, but don't be so inflexible about it that you can't switch gears if something promising comes along.

[SacredCow]

8. Not sure if I will have relationship expectations EVER again...

It will be a loooooonnnnnnnnng time, at least.

[LynzM]

14. Ditto to all of that :)

Thanks for typing it all up so I don't feel the need to... :rofl: :D

[Rambis]

6. 3 Pints

Fire in!



In pour taste sorry:evilgrin:

[SacredCow]

7. Already done that part....

but it was:

[Rambis]

13. Nice

got the priority thing sorted good job- good luck to you!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. 0 secs, and i aint no man

[SacredCow]

16. Wow......

<SacredCow bows humbly to Lioness, in recognition of her awe-inspiring healing abilities>

:yourock:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

17. just be careful to not get hurt, but if you want to get laid, do it

you're not 'supposed' to mourn by someone else's standard

:hug:

[SacredCow]

18. This is true...

I'm reminded of a friend who lost his wife after a long illness. A lot of people gave him crap for dating within a few weeks of her passing, but he and his late wife had actually talked about it. She was a pillar of strength even in the face of death, and told my friend that he'd best get back on the horse within a month or so of her passing, or she'd haunt him viciously! She told me privately that she knew he was the type to need someone, but also feel guilty about it, so it was best that he hear the "It's OK to move on" line from her.

I'll always love and respect her for that act of unconditional love she gave to her husband.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

23. thats true love right there. i doubt i could be so generous

:cry:

[MissMillie]

19. I'll let you know when I get there

it's been 8 years for me.


But I'm not really grieving. I just don't trust anyone anymore.

[SacredCow]

21. I'm right there with you.....

I'm going to draw up a relationship with SacredCow questionnaire, I think... Head off potential assholes and spineless wimps before they get anywhere near my circle of trust.

[Mutley]

20. When you're ready.

It could be minutes or years. Only you will know when it's time.

Now, I think a date like the one you describe is excellent for helping to get over a failed relationship.

[SacredCow]

22. I think it's going to be in the weeks range for me... n/t

[DarkTirade]

24. The grieving period lasts until you feel you're ready to get back on the wagon.

Or until you meet someone REALLY HOT. :P