I lie to my mom a lot.

[lightningandsnow]

Well, not neccesarily lie. Just extend the truth. Or omit details. Like, I'm going to a burlesque workshop tonight. It's about the art form, it's not a striptease class. And it's for youth, ages 15-25. But, I'd rather not get into an argument about how inappropriate it might be, so I just told her I'm going to a theatre workshop.

Yes, I'm aware of the fact that it makes me a horrible child. But everything seems to freak her out. It's weird - she complains that I don't tell her enough, but when I do tell her things, she either gets personally offended, or disapproves of everything I do.

Edited to fix really dumb spelling error. I'm smarter than that, I swear!

[DarkTirade]

1. Congratulations. You're officially... a teenager.

:P

[SammyWinstonJack]

18. ...

:evilgrin:

[MissMillie]

2. Yeah,

my son lies to me a lot too.

I suppose it is pretty normal.

There is a pretty bad consequence you need to keep in mind. If she finds out that you aren't truthful w/ her, she's likely to distrust EVERYTHING you say and do.

[lightningandsnow]

3. Yeah, I know.

It sucks.

Again, I don't usually flat-out lie. Just skip the incriminating details. And only when I have to, really. I mean, it's bad, but it saves me quite a bit of grief.

[BarenakedLady]

4. I omit details to my mother all the time.

And I'm thirtymumblitygrumble. I just don't want to worry her with things. She's happy thinking that everything is wonderful so why ruin the illusion for her? :shrug:

It's coming back to me with my own kids already.

[LeftyMom]

5. This is normal.

Part of being a teenager is becoming your own person and making your own decisions independently of your parents. Ideally a parent would understand and support that, but it's pretty common that they don't and dishonesty follows.

Just make sure you don't compromise your safety in asserting your privacy.

[Iggo]

6. Well, I'm 46...

...and I still skip a lot of the details when talking to my mom. It's normal. They don't need to know everything.

[LeftyMom]

7. I do too. I wish I could get my mom to return the favor.

Boundary issues. x(

[Iggo]

8. Ha! Burn!

Moms used to go all TMI on me, but that was like 15 years ago. She's over it.

[Forkboy]

9. That's horrible.

I was just explaining to my own mother how I never lie to her. I remember it clearly. It was right after I told her I had been promoted to Rear Admiral in the Navy.

[hamsterjill]

10. Is that YOU Bristol?

Sorry....couldn't resist!

[Ava]

11. my mom'd kill me.. and i'm about to turn 18 in a month

that being said, i'm pretty surprised that you can sign up for a burlesque workshop without parental consent when you're underage. :shrug:


my mom and i have a great relationship, and i don't lie to her. then again i don't really have anything to lie about. i don't go out and get wasted or high, and i'm a pretty responsible person.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

13. canadian age of consent is different i think

[Ava]

14. age of consent and age of being a legal adult are two different things

"In many countries, including Brazil, Croatia, India, the United Kingdom, Australia, Canada and New Zealand, a minor is presently defined as a person under the age of 18."

[DarkTirade]

20. There's a bit of a difference between a retro-style burlesque and actual stripping, though.

... ironic that I just responded to another post of yours and I mentioned strippers in that one too. :P

[Ava]

21. like many men, you seem to like the topic of strippers

:P

and still.. i'm surprised the workshop doesn't require parental consent for minors

[DarkTirade]

22. Actually I've never been to a strip club.

Yet. :P

[Ava]

24. i believe the preferred term is "gentleman's club"

:rofl:

[DarkTirade]

27. I don't think you'll find many gentlemen inside.

:P

[Ava]

30. and you won't find many "exotic dancers" either

:P

[lightningandsnow]

28. It wasn't about, like, stripping.

More about just performance and character development.

You're lucky to have a good relationship with your mom. I consider myself a pretty good kid (Don't drink, do drugs, or anything like that), but I definitely have my flaws. I wish I could get along with my mom better, I really do.

And you are very mature and responsible. I wish I could be more like you!

:hug:

[Ava]

29. she'd still kill me

;)

i'm lucky to have a great mom and stepdad and have a great relationship with both of them.. most of my friends aren't close with their parents. and don't worry, we all have our flaws. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. your mother doesnt need to know about your private life

and as you grow more older she needs to know about it even less

ie: when she calls me and i am in toys in babeland, do you think i tell her where i am? no

[moriah]

15. I lie to my grandmother a lot.

I tell Granny I'm going to a nature preserve to volunteer and enjoy the woods for a week.

I tell my Mother that I'm going to a nudist gay hippie commune on work scholarship, to enjoy the "natural scenery" (she laughs), good food, unlimited marijuana, and listening to the drum circle while staring up at the absolutely beautiful stars and breathing the fresh air.

I miss that place, and I can't go like I normally do this fall because work is having issues.

[GCP]

16. Art form?

In what universe? :shrug:

[From The Ashes]

23. Burlesque is an art form...

...from the late 19th century.
http://www.answers.com/topic/burlesque-in-america

[Fire Walk With Me]

17. I of course don't know the entire story but you've posted enough

that I wonder if she's not too deep in your business and should cut you some slack, but is the type that cannot. I hope that you're okay and do better and better.

[Mutley]

19. Well, lying is wrong

but every teenager lies to his/her parents.

[ismnotwasm]

25. My kids used to think I was psychic

Because I'd lie first about what I knew and I'm a very good guesser. Besides, they were always telling on each other. Plus I can smell alcohol and pot hours old.

My son used to tell his friends "My mom can SMELL acid dude" (true story) which put me in the local Mom hall of fame for a time.

There were 4 of them (youngest just turned 22)and I still haven't recovered. Think of it as protecting your Mom, and stay safe no matter what, stay safe. You might want to tell her stuff later.

[LibertyLover]

26. I omitted details to my mom all the time - especially when I started

worshipping the Old Gods with a Wiccan coven. It was a MENSA special interest group so I could validly tell her I was going to a Mensa meeting, I just neglected to explain what we did. I omit details to my husband as well. He doesn't need to know everything that I do. Sorry, I don't think you are a horrible child at all. Just trying to preserve some privacy and personal freedom.

[reddresses]

31. So does everyone.

I just did today.

My mom was pressuring me about my views on abortion. She's dead pro-life.

I'm.... incredibly opposite.

So instead of yelling and screaming "for god's sake, are you even a lady" i just kinda... said "meh" and put on some headphones.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

32. so women who are opposed to abortions aren't ladies?

nice.

[BreweryYardRat]

33. Yeah, I learned to do that the hard way.

"But everything seems to freak her out. It's weird - she complains that I don't tell her enough, but when I do tell her things, she either gets personally offended, or disapproves of everything I do."

This sounds exactly like my mother, so I suggest you follow this advice: Lie your butt off while you're young -- the less honest you are now, the more fun you'll have, and the less likely you are to turn into a screwed-up monster like me.

[regularguy]

34. You sound A-OK.

I've done and continue to do the same thing with my parents (I'm 45 and a parent myself). Feeling some regret just means you have a conscience.

[WannaBeGrumpy]

35. We've all done that...

whether we choose to admit or not

it's totally normal
I omit some truths to my mom all the time and she knows it...
I mean jeez I'm admitting it on a message board that she's always on.