What's the right way for a straight guy to reject a gay guy?

[WillyBrandt]

Suppose a straight guy gets hit on, either overtly or subtly, by a gay guy.

What's the proper way to rebuff the overture? The right message is "I'm straight, buddy" but without being rude about it. "No" could mean "I'm straight" or "You're not my kind" and thus has a bad ambiguity, potentially being interpreted as a personal rebuff.

Anyway. Any advice on this?

Purely theoretical question.

On Edit: No, it's not insulting (or flattering). It's more like "Whoa, what's the right way to say no, get across that the no is a rejection because I'm straight, and be polite about the whole thing."

[NightTrain]

1. Try this....

"No." :evilgrin:

[Dookus]

2. give in... take a walk on the wild side...

hehheh

Actually, the same way you'd reject a woman who hit on you that you weren't interested in. Say thanks, but you're not interested. And be flattered.

[ComerPerro]

20. Reject a woman who hits on you...

How does one do that?

LOL

[Dookus]

21. well...

imagine it's Ann Coulter or Jeanne Kirkpatrick

[ComerPerro]

23. unclean........

great. Now I need to go take fifty showers

[mhr]

3. Just Say No! Pretty Simple.

eom

[Exultant Democracy]

4. tell him he doesn't make enough money for you

then wait for him to buy you some nice stuff and then tell him you are engaged.

[kalian]

5. Just say "no thanks"....no need to get defensive, nor aggressive.

And also...its not a "challenge" to your "manliness".

[dsc]

6. No, I am straight sounds good.

but a simple no also works. I have been rejected by both straight guys and gay guys the world didn't end.

[Lisaben2619]

7. How about "You seem very nice, but I'm straight."?

...and please remember that if someone thinks you're gay, it's a mistake, not an insult :-)

[HydroAddict]

8. I've been hit on numerous times by gay folk...

Prolly because I've got some gay friends that I hang out with, and others who know them just assume I gay. But, I'm not.

Best advice to ward off advances (and this comes from a gay friend): "I'm a ladies man, sorry".

Works everytime for me.

Lastly, I regard it as compliment win approached, just proves how attractive I really am. Unlike the typical homophobe, who gets offended.

[tridim]

9. I've been hit on several times..

I always say, "I'm flattered, but I'm not gay. Sorry." Works every time.

[VOX]

10. "Thanks, I'm very flattered--but I'm straight."

If it's a stranger, leave it at that. If you know the guy (a friend, a co-worker, etc.), ask him to have a cup of coffee after you've made it clear that sex ain't gonna happen.

Just be honest, smile and look the person in the eye -- that's always appreciated.

[Misinformed01]

11. No, Thank You

I have always considered it to be a compliment to get "hit on." Yeah, some guys are stupid when they do it, but unless they are rippin drunk, it just means they think you are attractive enough to want to do stuff with.

If they aren't rude, I am not either.

btw, I am a female.

[turnhardleft]

12. Better question

Does one remain straight if they give in to a quickie offer by a same sex member.

[Fight_n_back]

13. Tell him he isn't cute enough

and then insult his clothes...

[slinkerwink]

14. just insinuate that you're dating a girl

[Zan_of_Texas]

17. How about

"Hey, a nice guy like you, I'm surprised some fella hasn't marched you down the aisle already!"

Okay, probably not. Well, women should be the experts on fending off unwanted advances. Lesbians get hit on by straight men too. Sometimes you can get away with a simple,

"Oh, well, sorry, I'm not available."

[SOteric]

15. The standard for all purposes: I'm very flattered,

but I'm not interested, thank you.

[PartyPooper]

16. My partner and I have both been cruised by some famous "celebs".

First, my partner was "cruised" by an ex-governor of a western state. I was there, and it happened.

And, I was "cruised" by a tennis star and also by a big TV star / icon from the 1960's.

Anyway, I guess you should just behave according to your mindset and emotions. If you're not interested...just say so. It works every time!

:-)

[Pale Blue Dot]

18. I've been hit on by more gay man than women

That was years ago. Now nobody hits on me (not even my wife! :-() I usually tried to either joke it off, or pretend that I was so naive that I didn't even know it was happening.

[oxymoron]

19. I'd suggest

"Get back to me after a few more Vodka Tonics."



A simple "no, thank you" will suffice.

[Armand]

22. I got hit on my a gay guy once...

I said to him "Sorry, I'm not gay," and he said "Hey, that's cool. Sorry man."

That was the end of that.

[foreigncorrespondent]

24. How about...

..."I'm flattered really, but I am actually straight." A walk off?

[Spirochete]

25. Just say

"sorry, but you're not quite built right, if you know what I mean. No offense". That can even get a chuckle out of them.