Just can't do it...can't date someone who voted for McCain

[blue cat]

Talked on the phone with someone from dating site plentyoffish.com. I asked him who he voted for and he said McCain. He asked if that was a deal breaker and I told him that it was. We told each other good luck and hung up. Was I being too weird? Why meet if I already know that his voting history will bother the hell out of me.

[Lyric]

1. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

You know your own needs better than anyone else. The point is to find someone who appeals to you on many levels; someone who voted for four more years of Bush isn't appealing to you, so you have nothing to feel weird about. Honestly, if you know that you can't be in a relationship with a Republican, it's better to find out early, before emotions get involved.

:hug:

[blue cat]

2. U r right

I could feel my bp going up when he started talking about why he didn't vote for Obama. Thought he sounded stupid.

[KG]

3. wouldn't be prudent.

[NewJeffCT]

4. If I was single, I might have a one-nighter with a McCain and/or Bush voter

but, I couldn't see a relationship.

[lightningandsnow]

5. I hear ya.

I can't date Republicans/conservatives. Just can't. Well, I can stomach libertarians, but only if they're real libertarians and not just conservative assholes who take on the libertarian label to prove how spe-shul they are. (Hint: if you're anti-choice, you're not a libertarian, and I absolutely will not date someone anti-choice, ever.)

However, the option to date a conservative rarely presents itself to me, as I am what I've heard someone else refer to as "rainbowsexual" - I'm pretty much pansexual, but I'll only be attracted to you if you're queer. (Or trans - not all trans people identify as queer.)

Like, I guess there are the log cabin Republican types, but I've never come across one. I doubt they'd be interested in someone like me anyway.

So yeah. I totally get it.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

6. Don't blame you at all.

I couldn't date a neocon--nearly every one of them, as far as I can tell, is anti-intellectual and generally not intellectually curious, which is a major deal-breaker. Libertarians and such, so long as they're intellectual, I might be able to handle, although any Randian assholes would also be out. So I basically will end up sticking to intellectual progressives. :D

[Tuesday Afternoon]

7. I can't either.

can NOT do it.

[crim son]

8. Nope, it's not weird.

I couldn't do it either: I couldn't respect the person, period.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

9. Absolutely not!

As much as I admire those who seem to be able to date and be involved without bringing up politics, I can't. I could never date a woman who wasn't at least a little bit libeeral in her politics.
:)

[unpossibles]

10. Not at all. Not only do you probably have huge differences of opinion on many important issues

But more importantly, it shows that the person is a really bad decision maker.

[BarenakedLady]

11. I couldn't do it either. (n/t)

[Genevieve]

12. you're not weird.... he's weird.

[AirmensMom]

13. Nope, not weird at all.

I can't even make friends with anyone who voted for Bush or McCain. Too many broken friendships over politics in the past 8 years. And I considered them good, solid relationships. Now I know better than to even try. I can't even imagine being in a romantic relationship with one of them. There's just too much difference in our view of the world and values (they don't own that word) ... not to mention the fact that anyone who voted for Bush or McCain has a serious deficit in the judgment category.

[skygazer]

14. To me, that's too fundamental and important a thing to compromise on

I can compromise on a lot but if someone voted for McCain, it tells me they have an entirely different value system than I do. So why would I want to date them?

I'm too politically engaged to turn it off in my personal relationships. So no, I don't think that's weird at all.

[Dystopian]

15. Voting history speaks volumes about the guy...

You know this was a smart move.....not weird at all.
Good for you...
I would have cringed to hear such a thing....
Good luck on the site, also. I'm doing the same, and am emailing a complete lunatic...artsy, earthy, wordsmythe, the real deal...He's just too cool...
Have to get through a lot of 'what ifs' and 'no ways'....and there's really not plenty of fish, most of them are ones you want to toss back..;-)


peace~

[hfojvt]

16. out of 58 million McCain voters, there must be some who are decent

Consider this. In 1980 I voted for Reagan, by 1988 I was part of the Rainbow Coalition, voting for Jesse Jackson in the Wisconsin primary. Live and learn, and I never expected an SO to agree with me about everything, and going out on a date does not an SO make.

[undeterred]

17. That saves you asking a whole bunch of other questions

and finding out that your values are incompatible.

[billyskank]

18. I think it is weird.

I think it is totally weird that politics matters so much that somebody would refuse to date another simply because of who they voted for. I know I am the only one here.

[AirmensMom]

24. Our country has changed so much

since Bush and his cronies took over ... and not for the better. It's hard to understand how anyone could want more of that. For many, it's not "simply" because of who they voted for, but that their values are clearly different. FWIW, I would feel the same way about religion and would want someone who shares my core beliefs.

:hi:

[Inchworm]

19. Wth?! Wimminz can vote?

:yoiks:







:hide:

[Connonym]

20. I wouldn't be able to either

It's indicative of a whole different way of looking at life. Other incompatibilities would pop up later anyway. I think you did the right thing.

[BlueJazz]

21. You're a smart and Principled Lady

[Chan790]

22. It depends on your definition of date...

hate-f&@king can be hot, especially if you break out the ropes and floggers. I wouldn't eat dinner with a conservative though...waste of a perfectly good meal.

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[harmonicon]

23. makes perfect sense to me

[Jade Fox]

25. I tried to date a conservative for about 10 minutes....

didn't work.

[tigereye]

26. yeah, Carville and Matalin seem to be the only ones who can pull off that kind

of thing. It's one thing to date Reps in high school when you don't know any better, but....


Just kidding. I suppose there are a number of couples with opposite politics, but it wouldn't work in my house.

[Skittles]

27. why are you trying to date a fish?

:o

[dembotoz]

28. normal people perhaps could, but you are a du'er

politics mean something to you.

oh and i meant you not being normal in a nice way....

[Digit]

29. I agree with you

In my profile, I state up front that I am a liberal and they should be, too.

[gristy]

30. Since you post at DU, I assume you are pretty far left of center.

So, no, you are not being weird to not date someone who voted for McCain.

[Lindsey]

31. You absolutely did the right thing. I can't imagine not dating or

being with another progressive. It's so much more than just "politics" as usual. It really encompasses someone's philosophy about life.

[Systematic Chaos]

32. One of the most nightmarish and painful experiences I had in dating was with a fundie chick.

Do yourself a favor and stay away!!!

:puke:

[mwooldri]

33. You don't want to know my wife's politics then...

Sid did vote for Obama. She did vote an almost straight Democratic ticket. She screwed up IMO the Senate vote, but good job plenty of other people canceled out that vote (we're in NC) but she did tell me that she wished she could change her vote because Dole came out with the Godless advert and that was the final straw for her. In 2004 she voted straight Libertarian ticket, on simple premise that Kerry had no chance in NC and that it's better for them to get X amount of the vote so that they at least stay on the ballot for next time.

Mark.

[suninvited]

34. I won't date a republican

and I have yet to meet an available progressive thinker in my area. I just don't date, and havent for three years. Life was a lot more fun in Florida.

[TZ]

35. meh.

Its kind of a family tradition for the liberal women to marry conservative men. While I might prefer to date a liberal, if I like someone, I don't think political views would get in my way, and I think its a sad commentary on how polarized this country is that so many people would do this. Bigotry is bigotry, IMHO.