Why does this stupid professor want to hold onto me so badly?

[Writer]

He hands me one of the largest betrayals of my adult life by shoving aside my hard work so he can work closely - and likely sleep with - a vapid Master's student, then he petitions the Assoc. Dean to keep me as his RA in the spring although we neither talked nor agreed on doing so. (He became quite upset when he discovered that I wasn't staying with him.) Now, with only about 2 real work weeks left in the semester, he hands me a writing project, I'm assuming, based on the work he's doing with the vapid Master's student... thinking that he's handing me something I'd like to do. He's been kissing my ass for the last month, paying me excessive compliments in class (yes, he teaches me, too, and will next semester.)

WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS MAN'S PROBLEM??? :banghead:

[swag]

1. Two words:

boobs

[Writer]

2. Well my boobs have been spoken for. n/t

[swag]

8. Prof may harbor delusions.

[Writer]

12. Well then he has Delusions of Boob-eur.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

3. How about

ego, control, manipulation? Can you pull back on the emotional investment and just do the work? What I mean is, can you put up wioth this if it allows you to accomplish your goals and not compromise yourself?
:shrug:
ps- While writing this 'born under a bad sign' is playing. Hope your luck isn't all bad...........

[Writer]

5. I have done every stupid bit of work he's assigned me this semester - no complaints.

That would mean (and I should note I'm a doctoral student) serving as his glorified secretary in helping him put together a symposium. I learned earlier this fall that his using me in this capacity is quite wrong... that the university is paying me to research and write, not to make phone calls.

Whatever he asks me to do, I'll do, within reason.

[GOPisEvil]

4. You dare spurn Mr. Ego?

He will not be ignored.

[Writer]

6. Maybe I should give him a blonde, curly wig and a butcher's knife for Christmas. n/t

[Chan790]

7. Perhaps it's time for a meeting with the provost?

There is clearly an issue of academic integrity here, especially if the prof's taking meetings to subvert your desire to not work with him and you suspect he's sleeping with a student whom, at a minimum, he has an inappropriately-close relationship to.

I had a friend in college who was in the other student's shoes, she wasn't sleeping with the professor but he had taken an uncomfortable fondness for her. She acted like everything was awesome about that publicly, because she felt powerless to non-comply when he had the power to seriously mess-up her academics and future. You might be doing her a favor.

[Writer]

9. This young woman is pretty mindless.

At the very least, she's extremely naive. I wrote her a week or more ago and asked her a question about some work she was doing, and she mentioned that she was meeting with my professor during the weekend. I asked her why she was meeting with him separately and she never wrote back. After meeting with her and talking to her earlier in the semester, I get the impression that she really likes the fact that she "works with him."

Yes there are serious ethical issues here, but I am in a small, very political department at my university. I have done everything I can to get away from him - and I will in the spring - but a part of me is very tempted to slip something to one of the other professors I have a good relationship with.

[RadiationTherapy]

10. "...and keep your enemies closer..."

He is not dumb; he knows what he has done to you. He is trying to keep you "close" so he can keep an eye on you. Don't fall for that shit.

[Writer]

11. I had that thought.

It makes me want to tell someone even more... although I really need to think through the implications of that.

[RadiationTherapy]

13. I understand. I am a "keep my head down and feed the family" kind of guy.

Implications and all. good luck.