I feel angry today.

[malta blue]

:banghead::banghead:

I feel like I am harboring such resentment to the STBE. It is stressing me out because I feel like I will never get closure on this whole deal.

I never get to tell him what a manipulative, chicken-shit bully he is.

:(

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear malta blue...

Of course you're angry!

He screwed you over!

But this is all very fresh...

And you will get closure...I'm not sure just when, but you will...

Hugs for you and your beautiful daughter... :hug: :loveya: :hug:

[malta blue]

4. thanks for the hugs Peggy....

they really do help :loveya:

[Crazy Dave]

2. Tell him your new boyfriend wants to kick his ass

And not to get too rude or offend you...tell him your new BF has a bigger penis too :rofl:

[malta blue]

5. If only I had a new boyfriend....

My brothers want to kick his ass, does that count?

Oh, and not to be rude, but I am SURE there are men out there with larger penis'... :rofl: so no offense taken.

[Crazy Dave]

9. That's a sure way to hurt a guy's feelings

To us it's the equivalent of the "c" word for women. Top secret and not to be told to the opposite sex so I'm sure the "man code" enforcers are out looking for me right now :scared:

[redqueen]

3. I'm sorry to hear that...

my STBE is a manipulative, passive-aggressive man-child... but I've already told him over and over, and he just doesn't believe me.

At this point I'm just indifferent to him. Unless he's playing his head games, then I sometimes still get angry.

[malta blue]

6. I am hoping to get to the indifferent stage.

Right now, I feel like I am on defense. I know that his sister is talking smack about me, but I have no interest in arguing with her - as far as I am concerned, she is a bottom-feeding parasite. I also know, deep down, that she is the one who put him up to this, which means he is more of a pussy than ANYONE would ever imagine.

[Sequoia]

10. His sister put him up to it?

Is she living in his shangra-la called Napa? He really sounds like a Grade A momma's boy. Feel mad, vent and rage. So much better than to keep it bottled up where it could turn on you and harm your health. I bet if some one, even a woman were to beat his butt he'd fall on the ground crying, "Mommie, mommie, the mean girl is hurting me!"

[malta blue]

11. sister lives in oklahoma....

transplanted there by her abusive husband where they live with the husband's grandmother. Neither one works...and no, they are not actively seeking employment. She sleeps all day while he takes care of the baby. They prefer to send desperate emails asking for things rather than try to do something with their lives :eyes: but yet I am the fuck-up :nuke:

What a fucked up life.

[Sequoia]

14. Oh lord, what a mess.

You are so totally not F'd up. Sounds like someone is very jealous to me. You know how some people just can't stand the success of others and want you to be miserable too, so they try to bring you down so they can stomp on your heart. Next time she calls just hum a few bars from the musical "Oklahoma", that'll really drive her up the wall. Poor little baby though. Hang in there, don't let the holiday's get you down. If we could we DU gals would meet you for a drink after work and give you some good vibes.

[malta blue]

15. They are seriously effed-up folks, that is for sure.

I just hate the fact that I can't defend myself against their pathological lies.

I am trying hard not to let the holidays take over my emotions - looking forward to my mom's arrival tomorrow. I have a full table for Thanksgiving, and am looking forward to being the hostess again. He was very much in charge in the kitchen when he was here. Once again, I have the opportunity to cook so that is a good thing.

[Sequoia]

18. Enjoy yourself.

One year at Thanksgiving my sister came to Santa Monica to visit and my baby girl crawled into the roaster pan after she got out of the bath and just sat there. The next day she took the turkey baster and stuck it out the mail box slot thinking the mail lady would pick it up. I found the baster on the ground a few days after the holiday. That was my funniest Thanksgiving.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

7. Don't stop talking about it

DU is a great place to vent. Just keep doing it. Don't hold anything in.

Eventually, it's sort of like a purge, and then you'll realize you don't need to keep talking about him and what he's done, and you'll then have your life back.

Like all these things, it's a process, and there is no shortcut for it. You just have to go through it.

But, honestly, keep talking. It's your salvation.

And, good luck. :toast:

[malta blue]

12. thanks for the perspective

:hi:

I know there are so many who are worse off than I am, so I tend to try and keep it in.

[lost-in-nj]

8. god I have been where you are

and YES it will get better....

I wrote in a notebook, all my feelings. good, bad, hurt, even the rage sometimes all it said on the page was I HATE YOU and that took up the whole page....
it sounds stupid and simple but it was a great release

I cried when I did it to. I also wrote him letters I never sent.....
I have learned he is not going to listen to anything you say... not worth wasting my breath...

If you do this make sure the notebook is hidden from little MB and from him. Its yours and yours alone....



:hug:


another thing you could do is take something he left behind, something he liked, maybe a pair of sunglasses or his favorite glass or coffee cup wrap it in one of his old shirts take it outside with a hammer and pound the shit out of it... pretending its him :*

It does and will get better I still have very bad days but the good ones are outnumbering them. Come here and write and vent and cry.....
It helped me so much the only thing that bothered me was the amount of DUers going through the same thing.. but we can help each other..


:pals:


lost

[malta blue]

13. thanks lost

:hug::hug:

I had a huge bonfire where I burned a great many things that he had bought for me that I never liked to begin with. I even burned my wedding dress. It felt good. I may have to seek out other things to burn in my firepit.

I hate burdening my fellow loungers with my angst sometimes. :(

[Parche]

16. i feel your pain

i have been that way for 2weeks

[malta blue]

17. ...

:hug:

[petronius]

19. Just scratch the message into the hood of his car (don't sign it, though)

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