What do you this is an acceptable amount of bereavement leave from a job?

[Godhumor]

Part of my work right now is compiling some HR information from a number of companies state wide. For hopefully obvious reasons I can't divulge actual company information, but I am shocked by what I see as extremely minimal time off for a death in the family. So yeah, figured I'd see either what people's places of work offer them or what you believe is an acceptable amount of time-off for grieving and funeral purposes.

[The empressof all]

1. At places I've worked the standard is three days for immediate family

I've always believed it's far too short...But that's our work centered culture for ya....

[Godhumor]

2. It's odd

I worked in a foreign country where it was graduated leave based on who died--a spouse or child gave a pretty decent amount of time off and it worked backwards to things like grandparents, great-grandparents and friends.

[LostinVA]

9. That's what mine does

[AggieGal]

3. 3 Death in Family Days/per year

Family is your direct relatives (including steps, halves, in-law), but not Aunts, Uncles and Cousins.

I have been the attendee and not the primary funeral arranger person. So 3 days was fine. I have been with my employer for 12 years and used this benefit 2 times. The other deaths I was already off or it was not for covered person.

My job is also pretty flexible. The last time I needed this I was able to trade with another person for two additional days - that gave me a total of 5 days.

[Chan790]

4. We don't get berevement leave

but I agree 3 days sounds about right. More for a spouse but no more than a week, two at the very most.

[Connonym]

5. Are you talking leave with pay or unpaid leave?

I've had 1 job that gave 3 days off with pay and another that gave 3 days (either w/o pay or from your vacation time). Three is probably sufficient for someone planning a funeral or traveling to a funeral. As for the grieving part... that can last for years. I do think that it would be kind to offer longer leave w/o pay for someone who loses a partner or a child -- perhaps even as much as FMLA would allow for an illness.

[Withywindle]

6. I would think MORE than should be allowed for an illness.

I've been very sick, and I've experienced grief, and the latter is FAR more debilitating.

[dropkickpa]

7. 5 days here

paid leave of five working days in the event of a miscarriage or stillborn birth, or the death of a spouse, registered domestic partner, child, stepchild, son-in-law, daughter-in-law, parent, stepparent, brother, sister, grandparent, grandchild, mother-in-law, father-in-law, or parent of registered domestic partner. one day of paid leave to attend the funeral of an aunt, uncle, niece, nephew, cousin, brother-in-law or sister-in-law, or sister or brother of a registered domestic partner.

Seems better here than most places.

[TZ]

10. Its five for immediate family for me

and 2-3 for extended family or out of town friends. Seems like a pretty decent policy here as well.

[LeftyFingerPop]

8. 3 days is the norm here. n/t

[AllyCat]

11. Three days for immediate family (father, mother, sibling, child)

One day for extended family.

However, if things are really bad, most managers will allow more time off. I'm a nurse so having a distracted, bereft nurse is sort of dangerous.

[bigwillq]

12. My work is three days.

But they will give more when needed.

[lukasahero]

13. 5 days minimum and immediate family includes same-sex partners eom

[tigereye]

14. 3 days, I think...

unless you are a parent and lost a spouse or child, or something, maybe then you need family leave...

[FloridaJudy]

15. Three days paid leave for immediate family

Parents/sibs/children of you or spouse - no recognition of domestic partnerships. Unpaid family leave at employers' discretion.

Yeah, it sucks, but this is Florida.

[MorningGlow]

16. Three days, but supplemented by unofficial accommodations

When my dad died, I got three days off, but when I went back to work, my boss said not to worry about trying to do any real work for a while. That was the one kind thing he did in the three years I worked for him. Plus, if I needed to take time off to help my mom with any fallout after the funeral, I was able to take the time off, but it came out of my personal time.

[eyesroll]

17. My old company--on paper--offered something ridiculous like two days for a spouse or child,

one day for a parent, sibling, grandparent, and "manager's discretion" for anyone else (with no provision for death of a romantic or domestic partner)--but in reality, people got the time they needed (which of course varied by individual), especially if they had to travel or had to plan the funeral. This was true for domestic partners as well.