hatredisnotavalue
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Wed Nov-26-08 09:43 PM
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So after 22 years, I got a letter from my Little Sister yesterday |
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Back in the mid -80's, I was a Big Sister to a really nice little girl. She came from a horrible family full of crime and neglect and abuse. I took her bowling and out for ice cream every Saturday for close to a year. After a while, we drifted apart. Well yesterday I got a letter from her. She's in jail and her oldest is a year younger than my youngest. She was married to an abuser and then wound up in jail...her legacy from her family. She didn't ask me for anything like a job or money, she just told me that she remembered me and wanted to thank me for being her Big Sister.
I want to do something for her, but I don't want to enable, if you know what I mean. Any suggestions? I want to write her back and give her some type of support.
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Wed Nov-26-08 09:46 PM
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1. eesh, yeah that could be touchy |
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I have heard good things about this org - you might look into it http://www.wpaonline.org/
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Wed Nov-26-08 09:52 PM
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3. Thanks, I will check it out |
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Her letter didn't indicate that she needed money or help. I was thinking of calling my friends at the local domestic violence shelter and asking them if they needed a volunteer. Perhaps they would have the agencies she would need to contact to turn her life around? And maybe I would take her out for lunch, and give her a list of people to contact to help her?
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Wed Nov-26-08 09:50 PM
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2. It could be a good thing for both of you, but be real careful with your heart on this one. |
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Wed Nov-26-08 09:58 PM
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It's a terrible thing to say, but she could be trying to manipulate me into me giving her money or helping her to the point of no return. I just want to make sure she has some support from people who know how to deal with women getting out of prison and what support is available to them.
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Wed Nov-26-08 10:23 PM
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She may be genuinely seeking advice and help from the few who were kind to her in her life...or she may very well be feeling you out for a con.
Be careful of your heart, but don't guard it too closely either.
It's really impossible to tell at this point.
She could be genuine.
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