I got dumped today.

[lightningandsnow]

We would have been together for 6 months on Monday.

I don't think I've ever loved someone that much. But, he told be today that it just wasn't working. We care about each other very much and plan to stay very good friends, but I'd been having major personal/emotional issues lately, and that, coupled with the age difference (4 and a half years), just put too much of a strain on things. He also felt like it wasn't really healthy for me, because, in his words, "Every time I fucked up, or did something stupid, you blamed yourself."

Although we're staying friends, I will miss him a lot.

A few nights ago I bawled my eyes out while listening to this song, because it describes the last 6 months of my life perfectly.

And I'd give up forever to touch you,
Cause I know that you feel me somehow.
You're the closest heaven that I'll ever be,
And I don't want to go home right now.

And all I can taste is this moment,
And all I can breathe is your life,
And sooner or later it's over,
I just don't want to miss you tonight.

And I don't want the world to see me,
Cause I don't think that they'd understand.
When everything's made to be broken,
I just want you to know who I am.

And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming,
Or the moment of the truth in your lies.
When everything feels like the movies,
Yeah you bleed just to know you're alive.

And I don't want the world to see me,
'Cause I don't think that they'd understand.
When everything's made to be broken,
I just want you to know who I am.

And I don't want the world to see me,
Cause I don't think that they'd understand.
When everything's made to be broken,
I just want you to know who I am.

And I don't want the world to see me,
Cause I don't think that they'd understand.
When everything's made to be broken,
I just want you to know who I am.
I just want you to know who I am.
I just want you to know who I am.
I just want you to know who I am.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsK90GWBVLY

[undeterred]

1. I'm sorry.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear AspieGrrl...

That is a very tough place to be...

I have a pretty good idea how much you're hurting right now...

But somehow I think you will get through this, and be stronger in the long run, even if it doesn't feel like it now...

Being really good friends with a former lover is not easy to do, but if you can do it, it will be a very good thing.

Hang in there, sweetie, OK?

I've got your back...

:hug: :hug:

[hellbound-liberal]

3. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, AspieGrrl

That is never an easy thing to bear, Lord knows it has happened to me more than once. I can only hope that you take some comfort in this poem by Ralph Waldo Emerson which got me through some very trying times. (Especially the last two lines)

Give All To Love

Give all to love;
Obey thy heart;
Friends, kindred, days,
Estate, good fame,
Plans, credit, and the muse;
Nothing refuse.

'Tis a brave master,
Let it have scope,
Follow it utterly,
Hope beyond hope;
High and more high,
It dives into noon,
With wing unspent,
Untold intent;
But 'tis a god,
Knows its own path,
And the outlets of the sky.
'Tis not for the mean,
It requireth courage stout,
Souls above doubt,
Valor unbending;
Such 'twill reward,
They shall return
More than they were,
And ever ascending.

Leave all for love;—
Yet, hear me, yet,
One word more thy heart behoved,
One pulse more of firm endeavor,
Keep thee to-day,
To-morrow, for ever,
Free as an Arab
Of thy beloved.
Cling with life to the maid;
But when the surprise,
Vague shadow of surmise,
Flits across her bosom young
Of a joy apart from thee,
Free be she, fancy-free,
Do not thou detain a hem,
Nor the palest rose she flung
From her summer diadem.

Though thou loved her as thyself,
As a self of purer clay,
Tho' her parting dims the day,
Stealing grace from all alive,
Heartily know,
When half-gods go,
The gods arrive.

[lightningandsnow]

15. That was beautiful.

Thank you. :hug:

[gblady]

4. I'm so sorry....

breakups are so painful...

[FloridaJudy]

5. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.

Some people's sense of timing just sucks.

[billyskank]

6. I'm sorry...

:(

:hug:

[BlueIris]

7. I was dumped on Thanksgiving once. It suuuuuucked.

I hope you can get over the pain and move on okay.

[lightningandsnow]

8. Ha, I live in Canada, so it's not Thanksgiving here.

Still, I think I have a Thanksgiving curse of sorts. Had terrible family drama go down on Canadian Thanksgiving, had a breakup on U.S. Thanksgiving. It fucking sucks.

Thank you, though. :hug:

[regnaD kciN]

9. Very sorry to hear this...

:hug:

[applegrove]

10. So sorry AspieGirl. They say you have to be with 10 people before you really know

who the right person is for you. Keep that in mind. You are handling it really well. Take care of you.

[DarkTirade]

11. I can't think of a whole lot to say that wouldn't be trite and overdone

but I can at least spare an icon or two. :hug:

[elleng]

12. Aspie, 'very good friends' is very good.

You're still 'together,' can grow thru things, and make the most of it.

[GreenPartyVoter]

13. Aw :^( Even if it's for the best, I know that it still hurts *hugs*

[harmonicon]

14. I'm so sorry

*hugs*

It sucks, I know. I don't know what to say apart from that. The age difference is a big thing. My girlfriend who broke up with me is 5 years younger than I am.... I shouldn't be so surprised. When I was her age, I was deathly afraid of being with someone forever too.

[Danger Mouse]

16. A pain I've felt many times.

:hug:

[JoePhilly]

17. I'm sure this hurts ... his selection of days to announce it sucks.

The idea of remaining friends sounds nice ... but don't let that prevent you from moving on.

A decent guy does not drop this bomb on Thanksgiving.

Keep working on a strong understanding of who you are and what you want.

He appears to be telling you that he's not good for you. You need to know what's good for you.

Good luck ... and keep your head up.

[lightningandsnow]

18. It's not Thanksgiving in Canada.

(Where I live)

So really, it wasn't that dickish of him.

But thank you. :hug:

[JoePhilly]

27. Dumb of me to assume everybody out here is in the US ...

:dunce:

Best wishes anyway. Hope things work out.

[ScreamingMeemie]

19. Loss hurts. And I hurt so much for you.

Here on this night where I almost cannot stand my own hurt anymore.

Be well. :hug:

[lightningandsnow]

20. ...

:hug:

You be well too.

[RetroLounge]

21. So sorry...

and that song :cry: and that movie :cry:

:hug:

RL

[lost-in-nj]

22. ahh sweety

:hug:

I'm sorry

we are here for you....



lost

[sohndrsmith]

23. I'm so sorry! It is so painful, I know...

I send healing thoughts and hugs to you.

[HopeFor2006]

24. I am so sorry.

You are with friends. :hug:

[lightningandsnow]

25. Thanks, you guys.

:grouphug:

I'll be fine in time, even though it's hard now.

My ex wants to have bubble tea and discuss "things" (?) with me tomorrow. I have to admit, the "OK LET'S BE BFFS NOW" thing is a little jarring, because it's kind of like "Dude. You just ripped my heart in half. Give it time, please." I think it might be a guy thing - I have a friend who had an ex-boyfriend who did the exact same thing.

:grouphug:

[RagAss]

26. Give up attachment and gain the world.

[billyskank]

28. Much easier to say than to do.

Renunciation is exceedingly difficult. Much easier to give something up when you have another thing better to replace it with.

[Shardik]

29. This too shall pass.

You are a bright and shining little star in a universe filled with beauty and like will attract like.

Don't wish for anything, accept as many say, desire is the cause of all pain.

Accept and go on, another time of interpersonal love will find you soon, I am sure.