Oh boy...I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years now. My spouse's neighbor

[KurtNYC]

sees him in the hallway of the building last night and says "I haven't seen your boyfriend around for a few days...there is someone I would like you to meet" (meaning blind date).

This woman knows we have been together for 2 years. I don't try to set her husband up with other women when she isn't around. She is a pushy, nosey and very loud (talking and the big clunky shoes)person.

I'm kind of stewing over this. I have never been one to meddle in other people's relationship so this kind of thing makes no sense to me. My first reaction is: how f-ing dare she try to break up our relationship!

Do I drop this or say something to her?

[PassingFair]

1. Drop it.

Sounds like she's trying to be nice.

Either to you, or to the "someone" she'd
like you to meet.

Be flattered.

[BurtWorm]

5. She's trying to fix up KurtNYC's spouse, not KurtNYC.

He shouldn't be flattered. He should be furious.

[PassingFair]

7. Figured that out after posting.

See #4...

:blush:

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

2. Probably matters more

what your spouses reaction was............. :)
Let it go :party:

[KurtNYC]

8. he thought she was out of line

I do my best to ignore her and her husband but this is really bugging me.

[redqueen]

3. Neither...

just wait till she's out of town for a few days, and mention someone to her husband.

:evilgrin:

[Wetzelbill]

10. Oh you are pure evil

Then again, so am I, so I agree with you. :)

[PassingFair]

4. Oops, misread the OP.

Thought the neighbor was trying to fix YOU up.

Try not to let it upset you, maybe she really
thinks you're out of the picture....

:blush:

[KurtNYC]

9. no worries

[Zuiderelle]

6. I would say something if she makes a habit of doing it.

Like even once more. It's pretty disrespectful any way you look at it. I have a suspicion she wouldn't do the same to one of the partners in a straight marriage.

[Wetzelbill]

11. Probably should let it go

You have every right to be pissed, but it's probably not worth the hassle right now. But if she does it again, yeah, you should definitely say something.

[Gormy Cuss]

12. The next time you see her, be effusive in your greeting.

"Why hello dear! Haven't seen you in ages. Spouse told me that you asked about me. I've been busy and not around as much but having such a wonderful partner really helps us get through these stressful times. Don't you agree?"

[KurtNYC]

13. yes!

that's good.

[OffWithTheirHeads]

14. You must be young. As you get older you come to the realization

that some people are just stupid and not worth wasting your energy on. If only life had an ignore function like DU has.

[Rabrrrrrr]

15. Sounds like your relationship has some issues, to cause you to feel so threatened by this.

To go from a woman offering (merely *offering*) a guy a potential (merely *potential*) blind date and then call it "trying to break us up!" seems quite over-reactive to me, and is what makes me wonder if you feel there are some issues in your relationship that such a *potential* *offering* might actually be accepted by your SO.

Or if not that, it's still extremely over-reactive. So she tried to do something that she thought was being nice? Who cares. Seriously.

[LaydeeBug]

16. Kill her with Kindness, dear...

Say, "Oh Susan, my HUSBAND tells me you haven't seen me for a few days. I just wanted to stop by and say hi, and drop off these muffins for you and your future ex husband. Tooodles". Ok, ok leave the 'future ex-husband" part out of it, and just get the variety muffins from Costco, so you're not baking them yourself. :hi:

[Heidi]

17. I guess I'd say to her, "I haven't seen your husband around, and I _luv_ your clunky shoes.

Why don't we get drunk and screw?"

Once the paramedics have ascertained her absence of pulse, you will know your revenge has been exacted.