Height and Dating

[Merusault]

I would like to know what the ladies here think of dating shorter men? I'm about 5'8" and I'm interested in a woman who's about 5'10", maybe 5'9." I'm just curious what females think about this. I'm not nearly as insecure about my height as I used to be, but I'm thinking of it again because this woman is tall.

[gmoney]

1. She may be sensitive, too.

My sister is 5'10" and always was self-conscious about her height when dating. So, maybe just bring it up so you can set it aside... remind her that you're both the same height laying down. :)

[Merusault]

3. Ah....

good point.

[Bunny]

2. I'm 5'6", so most guys are NOTshorter than me.

But it wouldn't bother me in the least to date someone who was about the same height as me.

[bigwillq]

4. I'm a 5''3' guy

But I'm gay. I like men from about 5-3 up to 6-1 or 6-2 after that we just look odd together.

[SoCalDem]

5. We had a good friend who was 5'6", married to a woman 5'11"

His common retort was.. "Well when Chris is lying down, she's the same height as I am "

or when people would say "How tall IS she"? he would say, "Tall enough"

[Kamika]

6. it seriously doesn't mean anything

it might mean something if its like a female basketball player and a dwarf..

Or a really short girl with an even shorter guy..

For example I'm 5.1 so a shorter guy then me would be kinda unsettling..


but in general it really doesn't matter.

5.8 guy and a 5.10 girl is nothing lol

[SOteric]

7. All women are different and our responses will be different too.

There are some of us for whom height matters very little, and others for whom it will always be an issue.

[Merusault]

9. Yeah......

I think you're right. It's really not even worth worrying about.

[Ysabel]

8. never mattered...

to me...

i'm shorter than everybody...

[rockymountaindem]

10. I'm a 5'6''/5'7'' guy

and I'm really worried about dating and everything. I would never consider dating a girl who's taller than me. Furthermore, I think it would be really nice to date a girl who would be able to tuck her head under my chin, which means (unfortunately) that the ideal hight for my future wife would be like 5'0'' or less. I'd settle for anyone my height or shorter, but unfortunately there are so many girls who are taller than me. sigh.

[neverborn]

11. I'm a 6'0" guy..

and I'd date a girl taller than me ;)

[southerngirlwriter]

12. Here's my honest answer.

I am 5'8", and I would not date a man who was shorter than me. Why? Well, what attracts me to a man is in part the feeling that he can/will protect me if the need arises. I wouldn't feel that way with a man who was shorter than I am.

However, I have several friends who are married to women taller than they are, and their wives are very happy and very attracted to them. So, it probably just depends.

Go for it. The worst she can do is say no.

Good luck!! :hi:

[rockymountaindem]

13. That's why I'm so worried.

How am I supposed to make a girl feel safe being as short as I am? I'm trying to bulk up though. Within a year I've lost 30 pounds and doubled my biceps and pecs. I'm workin' on it...

[southerngirlwriter]

14. It's not rational, I'll admit that.

I have a second or third cousin who is 5'4", and he could easily kick any two guy's asses. He's in terrific shape and very muscular. He has no problem getting girls.

I guess it's just a personal thing, a prejudice. It's how I really feel, though. :shrug:

If you like the Western look, cowboy boots can easily make you look three inches taller, if it's important to you. :shrug:

[SoCalDem]

15. A few inches in height is no biggie..

If someone likes you, they are not going to pass up a great guy, because his femurs are shorter than some.. That's all we're talking about..

How many times a day does a guy have to jump in and "protect" women anyway??

Don't mention the height..she has eyes:).. If she is interested, you'll know it :)

[camero]

19. Don't worry about that

You would be surprised as to what you can do when you are seriously pissed off. I had to protect a few women in various situations and I'm only 5'7" 119 lbs.

I couldn't believe I had actually done what I did.

[nini]

24. Oh Mother of God.. don't worry about that!

This man keeping us safe crap :eyes:

A tall strong woman can take care of herself or help you out.

:-)

[NorthernSpy]

32. right on!

I guess I just don't get up in the morning expecting hand-to-hand combat during the course of the day. Choose men for companionship, not for bodyguard duty, I say.

Not, I hasten to add, that a short man will necessarily come off the loser should hand-to-hand combat erupt. Quite the contrary. Plenty of people are short and fierce, and plenty more are tall and have no talent for fighting.


Mary

[private_ryan]

33. agree

size matters a lot if the skills are equal. Personally, I'd rather fight a 250 lbs typical american male than a 180 lbs fiesty one. Of course I'll beat them both :)

I think the big guy thing is stuck in the system from the cave days when having a big man meant the difference between life and death. Most guys don't like big girls either so it works both ways.

[private_ryan]

31. dude

4000 years ago they probably thought that. It's still dangerous, but not nearly as dangerous as it was. Get a good job, car and a house and you'll make feel very secure.

[redwitch]

16. Size doesn't matter.

I'm 5'9" hubby is 5'6". The guy I dated before him was 6'8"!

[rockymountaindem]

17. Just out of curiosity,

does anybody know what the average height of women is in the US?

[Merusault]

25. I think it's 5'4"

[DS1]

18. I'm 5'6", my first girlfriend was 5'11" and I say do it.

[populistmom]

20. Ultimately, it doesn't matter

I fully admit that I have a strong attraction to very tall men (6 ft+), but ultimately that alone wouldn't make me be atttracted to them for something more, nor would it eliminate someone who wasn't tall either. There are many other factors than only height.

(Oh, I'm 5'5")

[mac56]

21. Any woman who would reject you due to your height -

is not worth having and not worth your time. Someone that shallow and insecure is a potential heartbreak in the making. If not your height, she'd find some other reason to dump you - beliefs, values, lifestyle, the way you tie your shoes. You are better off without such a woman. I speak from experience.

[flamingyouth]

22. I'm 5'7", my husband is 5'5"

I wore heels at my wedding. I'd say forget about the height issue and if you get along with her and like her, go for it.

[nini]

23. I'm 5'10" and I don't care about how tall a man is...

but he sure better have a sense of humor, intelligence and have that little something that attracts us to each other.

Any woman who has a problem with a man being shorter than her is looking at the wrong things.

[Lady President]

26. Depends on your confidence

I'm a 5'10" woman who often wears heels which makes me about 6'1". I've dated men ranging from 5'8" to 6'8". Truly, everything depends on the comfort level of the two people. The 6'8" man I dated felt that everywhere we went people were staring at "the giants" and I felt self-conscious all the time. On the other hand the 5'8" guy loved tall women, so I always felt special and accepted by him.

What could it hurt to ask her for a date?

[Lisa0825]

27. A good friend who is 5'10'' married a man who is 5'6''

He was very self-assured, and never let the difference bother him. He didn't hassel her about not wearing heels or anything. They are a great couple.

I am 5'7'' and my ex husband is 5'10''. His brothers were both at least a few inches taller than him, and they always teased him about being short. He had a real hangup about it. He hated for me to wear heels. Even if I was still an inch shorter than him (in heels), he said I *looked* too tall, because my hair was poofy on top. Good grief!

I would date a guy the same height, or a little shorter for sure, if I liked him. Much shorter? Not sure... but I'd say very few personal characteristics are a definite no. I'd always act on how I felt about the guy primarily. So, if we clicked, I wouldn't care too much about height, as long as you didn't seen obsessive about it.

[Lauren2882]

28. 1-2 inches isn't much.

I'm 5'5" and I once dated a guy who was about my height exactly, and I was very attracted to him. I don't think that would have changed if he had been 1 or 2 inches shorter. Shorter than that, and I'd be less attracted, but 1 or 2 inches isn't much.

[Philosophy]

29. I'm a 6'1" guy and I have thing for tall women

But the last girl I dated seriously was only like 5'2". The height thing only lasts for a few minutes until I actually talk to them. For me, intelligence in a woman outweighs almost any physical factor.

[private_ryan]

30. I would never, ever date any girl that's taller than me

n/t

[shanti]

34. some women care about a man's height

and some women don't...but it all balances out by the time you reach your 50's.

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

35. I'm 5'2

I usually like a guy to be taller than me, however it wouldn't matter if I really liked the person.