Parent-how do you deal with your kid throwing a fit?

[underpants]

our little girl is just beside herself in the midst of a horrific fit

Mom was brave and took her up to the bath-the situation did NOT improve.

[KitchenWitch]

1. Depends upon where the child is.

At home, I assured that there was no way she could hurt herself and I kind of let her burn herself out.

Out and about, we would drop what we were doing and go to the car.

[underpants]

7. Yeah that is what we are going to do once she is dried off

this is really frustrating.

I went up to lend support and my wife informed me that she "has this"

[3.14158675309]

2. Spare the waterboard, spoil the child

is what I always say.

[underpants]

4. This is why I don't give her baths

it is not a pretty sight. My wife asks "Are you waterboarding her!?!?"

and I say, "Hey honey she's gotta learn sometime. Welcome to Dick Cheney's America"

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

3. thrown liquor bottles

preferrably empty.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

5. Throw them into a cage for time out

Spray them with water.

Pretend to fight with LostinVA, so they run away and hide.


































Thank God, I have dogs.

[rug]

6. What's the fit about?

Depending on the subject I may join them.

[underpants]

8. No idea

the last two night she has come home and just been horrible

tonight is the worst yet.

everything is NO NO NO and foot stomping

Where on earth did she get THAT from??? :shrug:

[trof]

9. Age?

[underpants]

14. 3 1/2

[Chorophyll]

10. How old is she?

Young children grow and learn so quickly that sometimes they just get burned out, and they act out to let you know about it.

Once in a while my son would indulge in a week or two of really bad behavior. They seemed to coincide with his growth spurts.

If your daughter's in day care or school, something might be bugging her there.

Edited for overuse of the word "sometimes." :)

[underpants]

15. 3 1/2

thanks

[Shell Beau]

26. I can't believe she is already that age. I remember when

y'all were still expecting her arrival!

I guess this is what I have to look forward to. :hug:

[tigereye]

35. terrible threes! We had the threes rather than the twos...

:hug:


I think they finally realize that their emotions and wants can collide consciously! :rofl:




I probably would give hugs and cuddles (if possible) until they are done with the tantrum... or try to distract em with something. Maybe she's coming down with something or she's picking up some behaviors from another kid.

[rug]

13. Will she let one of you just hold her and rock her until she calms down?

[underpants]

16. No

hitting and kicking

this is very rare. She is never like this.

Maybe too much sugar (like at school - we eat organic here at the house). ?

[lunatica]

11. When my kid was young and threw temper tantrums

Which children will do on occasion because they're tired, not feeling well or very frustrated and don't have any other outlet, I would take him to his room and tell him that he could vent there all he wanted to. That it was totally up to him how long he stayed there. I told him that he could come out when he was finished.

My thought was that it isn't good to stifle a child, especially when there is so much rage and emotion, so I didn't criticize him for pitching a fit and at the same time I made his bedroom the safe place he could express his emotions. It really worked. He would throw his tantrum and when it was spent he would come out and without a word we would resume our normal activity.

[Mojambo]

12. Five across the eyes!

No, not really. But I love that saying.

[hobbit709]

17. That kind of acting out is a sign of something bad

happening at the day care.

[underpants]

18. She was fine at daycare

content as all get-out

by the time we got into the car it started and it got worse and worse. She has burned out now

[Chorophyll]

20. See what happens today.

It's not necessarily a sign of something bad. She could have been tired. Or she could have been having a great time at day care until you showed up to take her home! Tantrums happen, especially at that age. People talk about the "terrible twos," but in my house three was worse. ;)

[DemBones DemBones]

23. I agree. Kids that age can be perfectly happy at

day care or nursery school but the minute they get in the car they start to grouse because they're tired. Grousing can escalate to tantrums pretty easily.

[ogneopasno]

32. Not necessarily. Transitions are hard at 3 1/2. Maybe they started something new, and it's wearing

her out -- even mental work, like they've suddenly started with the alphabet, can be exhausting at that age. The kids work hard at being on good behavior at day care, and when the parents come and pick them up, they feel like they can let their real feelings out. Screaming for 10 minutes in exhaustion is not necessarily a sign of something bad.

[SoxFan]

19. Tase her, bro

[blueraven95]

21. my parents' trick

when we threw a fit was to pick us up, throw us in the bathtub (fully dressed) and turn the shower on. The first time or two, the novelty was so great, it shocked us out of crying and we could calm down.

[seabeyond]

22. comfort... get those need taken care of, hunger, sleep, quiet.....

little as in little right... 1-4

carress, heart to heart, forehead to forehead, stroke, pet....

[SoCalDem]

24. What I did..

I would sit down on the floor next to them, and just LOOK at them.. pretty soon, they would stop screaming, and look back at me..and then I would say "Are you done?"..they rarely started back in:)

[Tektonik]

25. Does she get adequate sleep?

Is she tired in the afternoon?

My niece always threw temper tantrums around 5 or 6 because she was tired. My sister knew she snored, so they had her take a sleep study, and the doctors decided to remove her tonsils. Now she's not perfect, but she feels much much better and becomes less adversarial after coming home from school.

[PVnRT]

27. Chloroform

Knocks the little tykes right out.

[Parche]

28. make her run

:woohoo: :hi:

[RebelOne]

29. Here are some tips from the RaptureReady.com crowd moms.

www.rr-bb.com/showthread.php?t=81751

[mnhtnbb]

30. If she has stopped napping in the afternoon at daycare, she could be

extremely tired by the time she gets home.

It does sound as though something has changed or happened in the last couple of days.
Is there a new child at daycare? Has she been witnessing tantrums from another child
at daycare? Is there a new caregiver at daycare? Have there been any undressing activities
going on at daycare? Has anything in her routine changed? Has she lost a favored toy, a blankie, or something to which she's attached?

Hope you find out what's going on. If you can't figure out that anything's changed, then I think
the suggestion about isolating her in her room until she's able to calm herself
is a good idea. Just be prepared to have to put her back in her room, repeatedly, if she keeps trying to come out before she's settled down.

Good luck.

[ogneopasno]

31. I sent my kids to their rooms and said they could have their fit there, and come out when they were

ready to talk. At that age, you really do just have to ride it out.

[hedgehog]

33. I only remember one kid throwing fits, and we were very lucky.

The first time she did it, she gave herself a migraine! That was the end of that!


When the kids were older and would start fussing at each other out of boredom, we'd tell them "6 laps around the house!" The number of laps was adjusted according to age. I tell you, running laps, especially through a foot of snow, takes care of bored kids mighty quick.

Did I mention five out of six kids joined the track team in high school?

[Iggo]

34. Laugh. Point. Ridicule.

Throw my own fit, just to show her what it looks like.

Then make a promise and keep it.

[Zomby Woof]

36. Spend 20 minutes in GDP

By comparison, your child will appear quiet and serene. :D

[Fleshdancer]

37. I did to my daughter what my parents did with me:

I would quietly pick her up, place her on her bed, then tell her that when she's ready to calm down, she can come out of her room. It snapped me out of it after a few times and it snapped my daughter out of it quickly too.

Unless they're hurt, 3 yr old fits are usually about attention.