LuckyTheDog
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Fri Feb-27-09 10:21 AM
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Is this a form of revenge? |
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I recently "friended" a person I used to go to high school with. She sent me a request because we had some friends in common and I accepted it for the same reason.
Now, that woman has sent me messages apologizing for some mean things she and a friend of hers apparently did to me in middle school and high school. But here is the thing: I have no recollection of the things she did and, in fact, I barely remember her at all. I have even less recollection of the friend she mentions as her co-conspirator.
I was the "injured party," yet, I live my life completely unscathed by the events she mentioned. Yet, this woman feels bad 30 years later for whatever it was she did.
I made sure she knew that I did not remember the things she is seeking forgiveness for-- and that none of it matters to me in the least. I hope it made her feel better.
It also occurs to me that this is a form of revenge. Here is a former middle-school bully who has been haunted, to some degree, by her actions for decades. She apparently injured herself much more than she injured me. If that was not the case, I certainly would have remembered her better. There is a lesson here.
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MorningGlow
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Fri Feb-27-09 10:25 AM
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1. That's a really great observation, Lucky |
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I believe you're right, and that's got to be a comfort to all those who were bullied in school (I can put myself on that list, in fact).
Karma, baby--it takes care of assholes so we don't have to. :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
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Fri Feb-27-09 10:27 AM
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2. A few years ago I ran into a former bully |
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at a store I was working at. Frankly even though she did make my life miserable at the time, I hadn't thought of her in ages..yet when she ran into me she couldn't apologize enough to me about how she treated me. I think your observation is spot on in many cases.
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Fri Feb-27-09 10:28 AM
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3. Sounds like she matured and regretted things done as a child. |
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Good for her. Some stay mean forever.
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redqueen
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Fri Feb-27-09 11:00 AM
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4. No, that's just an example of someone who eventually developed empathy / |
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a conscience.
Many never do.
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Rabrrrrrr
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Fri Feb-27-09 11:05 AM
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5. Revenge would be if you beheaded her and burned her house down. |
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Her apologizing to you is simply apologizing and repenting.
Sounds like she has indeed been haunted by former bullying asshole ways. That speaks well of her.
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Fri Feb-27-09 12:55 PM
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6. I would agree, there is a lesson to be learned |
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