fizzgig
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:34 PM
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i hate feeling so helpless when people i love are in pain |
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two of my best friends suffer from chronic pain and i just spend 3 1/2 hours in the er with one of them. it just breaks my heart that i can't do anything for their pain or the physical, emotional and financial stress it puts on them.
i do everything i can for them and am as available as possible for them but, even though i know i can't make them better, i always feel like i'm not doing enough for them :(
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:41 PM
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1. You have to trust that what you are able |
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Edited on Sun Jul-12-09 01:42 PM by hippywife
to do for them eases their burden greatly, sweetie. Imagine how much more awful it would be to be in that much pain and not have anyone there for you. :hug:
But I do know that I'd rather take on the pain myself than watch someone I love endure it.
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:52 PM
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and can lose sight of the fact that just being there can mean the world to someone. thank you for the perspective check :hug:
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:58 PM
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I want everyone to be happy and have everything they need. Just got to stop at times and remember that is not within our power. :hug:
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:52 PM
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2. Too bad you can't include marijuana in the arsenal of pain reduction options |
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The leniency in the marijuana law in California may affect expansion of its use elsewhere eventually, but meanwhile people suffer. http://www.latimes.com/features/printedition/health/la-he-marijuanapro18-2008aug18,0,3980553.storyI'm sure your caring alleviates some of the mental anguish, even if you can't help them with their physical pain. :hug:
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:55 PM
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4. we have mm here in colorado |
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and i'm starting to talk with one of them about that as a treatment option, but i think part of both their frustration is that they feel let down by our health care system.
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Sun Jul-12-09 01:58 PM
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6. support is all we can offer to |
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Edited on Sun Jul-12-09 02:00 PM by JitterbugPerfume
people in pain . My daughter is an addict . It breaks my heart every day but I know that neither I , nor her beautiful children can help her . All we (or you) can do is love the ones we love.
Medical Marijuana is a blessing, and so are you.
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Sun Jul-12-09 08:01 PM
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7. I've been going through the same thing for the past 3 months. Emotional, not physical, though. |
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Edited on Sun Jul-12-09 08:02 PM by Odin2005
Being there for a friend who is a victim of rape. It hurts not being able to reach into her head and yank out all the PTSD-causing painful memories. :cry:
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Sun Jul-12-09 08:11 PM
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8. I can tell you that just understanding what they're going through |
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and being there for them despite the inconveniences and negativity of the situation means a whole lot.
It's very hard to find people who are willing to stick around people who are visibly in pain. Pain freaks people out. You're a damned good friend.
:hug:
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