Good Date: Bad Date???

[tinkerbell41]

So an old classmate contacted me via facebook, we were friends for years spent time with each others families etc.. GOOD TIMES. I asked him over for dinner, we talked for 6 hrs tonight. He tells me after 6 hrs. he really has to go he has an hour drive home and has to work tomorrow it's about 9:45pm. So... he makes sure he has my number says he'll have me over soon, we hug and he leaves. I was really looking forward to this, I put my life on hold for about 11 yrs. to raise my daughter after a divorce. I don't know what to make of it, I'm not really savvy about dating after being gone from the field for so long, but i thought if he was interested he would've stayed longer.
Nothing interesting happened, I like to establish a bond, friendship first before i start flirting
etc... Please some advice or input

[Kali]

1. 6 hours is good...

I would think. Being responsible about work is good too. You need more info so play it by ear. But to me, a 6 hour conversation is a nice (re)start.

[hippywife]

2. Six hours for a first date

even though you knew each other before is more than plenty, especially with an hour's drive ahead of him. Asking anymore than that at this point is unreasonable.

[tinkerbell41]

4. Thanks, and to kali also.

You know us women, always over thinking things. I was kind of happy, but since I'm so freaking rusty I thought maybe it FAILED. I don't know what I was expecting, he was on time, brought wine. Maybe I thought he would propose tonight. HA HA

[Strong Atheist]

3. Recommended,

dammit! x(

[Tangerine LaBamba]

5. Sounds like a terrific evening -

six hours of conversation! That's wonderful, and with an hour's drive home, he wasn't going to get there until around 11. With work the next day, that's a haul.

I suspect he had a great time, and I hope you're not going to get crazy about this. How could not "know what to make of it"? Did you want to sleep with him? Or have him make a pass at you?

You were friends, not boyfriend and girlfriend, right? So a pass would have been inappropriate and overstepping. Sounds like a very nice man.

Has he been married, too?

I think a whole lot happened tonight, and you should be very pleased with yourself. Now, you can start interviewing other men, and begin venturing out. Don't put all your eggs in your old friend's basket - he's just a beginning.

And it sounds like you did just wonderfully.......................

[tinkerbell41]

6. Thanks

yeah i guess it sounds kind of dumb. He is a nice guy, and NO I didn't want any of those things to happen. I didn't think I would be so nutty about this. I am a pretty independent woman, with a healthy dose of self confidence, this stuff always throws me . I mean I've been happily alone for 11 yrs why be desperate now, right???

[Tangerine LaBamba]

9. Naw, you're perfectly normal -

it's anxiety-producing, any new situation, and you've been out of the game for eleven years, so of course you're going to be wondering about all kinds of dynamics.

And, because that's how we women are, we're always going to think we maybe didn't do it just right. Or somehow screwed something up.

STOP IT! JUST STOP IT RIGHT NOW!

I'm teasing you, but I'm also honest when I say that to you. You have no reason to be anything but the very fine woman you seem to be, and I think it was a brilliant move to invite an old friend, even a long-lost old friend, as a way of warming up, getting your toes wet. You were in a win-win situation, so don't start second-guessing yourself - you did GREAT! And that's the end of it.

On to the next big challenge. I wonder what it will be, but, for heaven's sake, you should be very, very confident and proud of yourself, and if someone - this could happen - doesn't give you anything less than spectacular feedback or the correct return invitation or whatever it is we always want in order to feel assured, just let it roll off your back. It's their problem, not yours.

And then on to the next big challenge.

Keep one big thing in mind - for you now, this dating thing is one thing, and one thing only - and that is FUN. You're not husband-shopping (not yet), and you sure as hell don't need a man to justify your existence. You've proven yourself - raising a kid successfully on your own is a huge victory - so now, the men have to measure UP to you, and don't you ever forget that, not for a minute.

OK?

Take a bow, you fabulous babe, you ........................

[tinkerbell41]

10. Awwwwwww!!!!!!

Now I can get some sleep. THIS is why women are so great. They always know the right thing to say!!! Hooray!! Thank You

[Tobin S.]

7. That sounds like a great first date, Tinkerbell

I had a first date yesterday, too. It lasted about an hour and I thought we hit it off pretty good. So I think with 6 hours you guys are ready to get hitched and buy that little house with the white picket fence. :) He sounds like a good guy, just don't try to go too fast. Take the time to really get to know each other.

[tinkerbell41]

8. Ha Ha!!

I'm already flipping thru Bride's Magazine. He is a good guy, probably why we were just "friends" all those years ago. Congrats on your date. I hope it works out.

[BlueJazz]

11. From a Man's point of View >> If he spent 6 hours with you, he's probably...

..interested in you but doesn't want to rush things for fear of seeming like an anxious suitor that is desperate for love.
People can seem hard to read at times and might not even know their own feeling about someone or something.

Something tell mes me that he's lucky to have a chance with you! :)

[NJmaverick]

12. I would think call or no call will be the tell