Is this a girlfriend's boyfriend hitting on you??????????

[Maraya1969]

My girlfriend is on vacation and her boyfriend can't drive. So in advance she knew and he asked if I could take him to one of his doctor appointments.

So I took him and he bought me lunch as a thank you.

Then he called me and asked if I would take him to get blood work done on a day that his girlfriend was going to be back in town so I wriggled out of that one......already feeling uncomfortable around him.

So just now he calls, (after I avoided a few other calls) and says he has a big favor to ask"

"Have dinner with me"

I made some excuse and got off the phone but I am really upset and do not want to talk to him.

I mean WTF? If any other man had asked that it would be a date.


I think I am just going to avoid him in case it was possibly an innocent friendly gesture from a person who is lonely and missing their lover. The truth is I feel so creepy now and I don't ever want to see his face again.

[Kali]

1. sounds like it

[raccoon]

2. I second that. nt

[LeftyFingerPop]

3. Yes, he is hitting on you, and he is not doing a good job at it either, n/t

[hippywife]

4. It didn't until

the dinner invitation which makes the rest of it also look that way in retrospect.

I think you're wise to back away from him. :hi:

[mikeytherat]

5. Yes

"Let's grab some dinner tonight." = probably innocent
"Have dinner with me." = I would like to be alone with you

mikey_the_rat

[I Have A Dream]

23. Yes. nt

[BurtWorm]

6. I have to agree with you.

:wtf:

Listen to your gut on this one. I mean listen to whatever part of you is getting the message this guy is sending loudly and clearly to you. He's hitting on you. What an idiot!

[NewJeffCT]

7. I would say "yes"

but, I was not there and don't know all the body language & what went with it.

[Renew Deal]

8. Tell your friend and you won't.

She'll either dump him or you. :shrug:

[Maraya1969]

11. I am not going to tell her. I don't think any good could come from it.

[Renew Deal]

16. What if she goes on to marry this guy?

:shrug:

What if you feel guilty later and tell her? Will she be upset you withheld it from her?

[Strong Atheist]

9. Recommended,

dammit! x(

[Heidi]

10. If I were you, and he calls again about dinner, I would suggest that his girlfriend be included.

After all, she is your only real connection to him. I'm betting he would get the message.

And you have no reason to feel creepy. You're not the one violating an relationship understanding in this situation. :hi:

[SeattleGirl]

12. I was in a situation like that once. Tried to back away and just

let it die down, but then the guy goes and tells his wife that he's attracted to me. Result: she was mad at ME, even though I absolutely did not encourage him. He's the one who went after me.

My husband took my side, and said he had had a feeling that the other guy was being a bit inappropriate (this was in his presence).

I don't envy you this situation, and I hope it all settles down soon.

[chrisa]

13. Not necessarily.

I wouldn't assume the worst of intentions all of the time. He could just want to be friends.

[newcriminal]

14. Is it possible he asked you to go to dinner, so he could ask you the big favor?

Maybe he needed someone to take him for a Dr. appointment far away and he thought dinner might soften you up. Is it possible you could have misunderstood?

[SacredCow]

15. Not enough info to really say....

It's possible that he just wants to be friendly, or maybe ask your advice about something concerning his girlfriend (your friend). (Such as, "Do you think she would like this as a present?"- That kind of thing).

Or, maybe he does have an eye on you.

It's a "proceed with caution" kind of situation.

[MrsBrady]

17. listen to the creep warnings going off in his head...

and why in the hell can't he take a cab, anyway?

[Maraya1969]

18. Good point. Especially for the 8am blood draw when he knows that

I sleep late. He can even call a free medical service that will take him to his appointments. I think he puts too much pressure on his girlfriend in the first place by making her drive him all over God's green earth. That is what those services free driving services are for.

[gmoney]

19. yeah, if he can't figure out how to navigate to something like that...

why does he think he's such a catch anyway?

[MrsBrady]

22. is your friend the caretaker type?

does she always pick the same type of guy?


seems to me maybe she's getting tired of his antics, and he's looking for someone else to take care of him.

[Maraya1969]

24. My friend is the caretaker type and I think he and some others take advantage

of it. I've hinted about this to her. But people do what they do. She must get something out of it or she would not have been with him for the past 10 years.

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

20. My first thought is Yes, he's hitting on you

Probably a dumb and irrelevant question, but why doesn't he drive? Health issues?

After thinking about your question, Yes, he's hitting on you.

Just tell him you'd be happy to go to dinner with him and his girlfriend.
:hi:

[Maraya1969]

25. He has a lot of health issues but the one that keeps him from driving is he is legally blind.

[Iggo]

21. Fuckin A right, he is.

Dudes got some stones. Mad respect.

But yeah, tell him to knock it off or you're rattin' him out.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

26. The guy's a creep -

and if your friend has been with him for ten years, believe me, you are not the first one he's pulled this on.

Call him out, tell him never to try it again, and then avoid being alone with him.

There's a part of me that wants to say you should tell your friend, but she knows. Ten years? She knows.

Avoid......................................