Were you a good kid or a bad kid?

[NJmaverick]

would your parents agree with you?

[peekaloo]

1. a good kid who figured out how to get away with being bad while

remaining to be good. }(

[seabeyond]

2. perfect. me too. i was good, but did things and parents didnt catch

i was considered the good girl. but i did things. cut class. drank some. did a few other minor. but i was respectfull to parents and adults. got good grades. good in a sport.

i thought i was good until talking to people on the net who were really good and found out i wasnt so good.

[peekaloo]

3. that just makes us

MORE FUN to be around. :fistbump:

[seabeyond]

6. lol

i tell my kids, whatever it is about me, i just never get in trouble. i can break rules and i dont suffer repercussions. as a matter of fact, about 18 i started self punishment to teach me a lesson cause no one would do it. late returning a movie, i couldnt rent another for 3 months, lol.

i tell kids, others dont get away with things the same way, so dont use me as a reason to not do right. better think about repercussions. so hard being a parent, lol

[gbate]

31. The art of sneakyness.

[seabeyond]

36. my oldest brother to lazz to hide things. another brother wanted attention, good or bad

so he told on himself. i didnt want to get in trouble

[peekaloo]

40. and a shout out to minions!

:evilgrin:

[madinmaryland]

4. I was the PERFECT child!

:evilgrin:

[NJmaverick]

8. Perfectly what?

:dilemma:

[SacredCow]

5. Mostly good... For the most part... Kind of good....

.... or not. Opinions vary.

:evilgrin:

[BuelahWitch]

7. My stepfather's sister-in-law

used to say I was an angel and her 4 kids were monsters.
What does that tell you? ;) O8)

[NJmaverick]

9. You stepfather's sister-in-law didn't know you very well?

:P :hi:

[Bertha Venation]

10. Okay, this is gonna sound really sour, but I'm not bitter . . .

If I wasn't good, my mother would beat the shit out of me. If she were alive, she would protest that story, but she would say I'd been a good kid.

My dad wouldn't have a clue, seeing as he didn't raise me and rarely saw me. If he were alive, he'd say "I don't know" and have severe guilt for a week because he didn't know.

:bounce:

[NJmaverick]

12. do you and your dad have a relationship now?

[Bertha Venation]

15. No, he died last year.

And most deaths are tragic, but I'll tell you why his was.

We were estranged all my life, but even more so after I came out to him. When I met Mrs. V. and moved to the east coast, he did not go to my going-away party. He never addressed Christmas cards to the both of us, only to me.

The last Christmas of his life, in 2007, he addressed his card to both of us. I couldn't believe it. I was stunned for hours. Actually, I'm still stunned.

He died on the following January 10 when his small plane crashed. This was before I'd called to talk to him, to thank him for the card and to tell him what it meant to me.

It is a cliché to say "oh, I so regret that I never made that last call . . . " or some such. Cliché or not, it is true of me. But it is good that he made it to that place before he died.

[NJmaverick]

21. That's very sad, I am sorry

:hug:

[MineralMan]

11. I was very good at being a kid.

Adults just didn't understand.

[NJmaverick]

13. and if you had a kid like you were?

[MineralMan]

14. I'd try to do what my parents did with me.

Let it be what it is. My parents laughed a lot.

[Inchworm]

16. Very bad and yes, they would agree

:blush:

[Bertha Venation]

18. Did you get a lot of this?

:spank:

If so, I'm sorry. :(

[Inchworm]

19. I did

In hindsight.. I mebbe deserved a few of them. It is generally frowned upon in the state of Ohio to set a vacant lot on fire during a dry spell... in the middle of a neighborhood.

Hi you! :*

:hi:

[Bertha Venation]

20. LOL

You little rascal.

:* :loveya:

[dropkickpa]

17. I was me

ADD and smart and always on the go. My brothers and I were always into things, but we weren't "bad" kids. We never hurt anyone, we weren't mean or cruel to anyone and didn't damage other people's property (my parents always joked we were tolerance limit teseters of our own property, though), we were just wild. Did we talk back? Yeah, but we rarely shut up so it was hard to tell. My parents would pretty much agree. We were all giant pains in the ass, but not bad.

Dropkid is apparently exactly like I was as a child. What goes around comes around, I guess. I don't mind it so much, even though I grumble. I just wish my tupperware (generic dollarstore stuff) would last more than a year since it all ends up as bug homes of some sort.

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

22. I pulled some stunts in my day

and looking back on it now as an adult, I can't believe some of the stuff we did. A lot of it my parent's never found out about but they would probably agree that I was not a very good kid. I'm completely reformed now. I swear!

[NJmaverick]

23. What sort of stunts?

:dilemma:

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

41. Oh you know, the usual

serial shoplifting, prank calls, smoking, stealing my mom's cars, stealing stop signs (I'm soooo ashamed of that one)doing some other things and whatnot. I was a perfect angel by 16 though.

[NJmaverick]

42. lol, of course.... what was left to do after that

:spank:

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

45. I know

If I had a kid like me...I'd be in jail. :headbang:

[Wapsie B]

24. Abnormally good.

Oh I back-talked on occasion but when you're ruled by intimidation you quickly learn the easiest way is to retreat within yourself.
There is a bitterness about it all I'll most likely take a lifetime to overcome, if then. I make no bones about that. And a combination of admiration and resentment towards those who were the good/bad kids. Do I expect some kind of "On Golden Pond" moment down the line? Would I want one? Not a chance. To forgive at that point would mean condoning what had happened and no amount of psycho-babble has proved otherwise to me.

[NJmaverick]

25. You know in Yoga

they teach us that forgiveness is most beneficial to the one doing the forgiving.

[Wapsie B]

32. I know.

I'm trying to forgive myself more than anything else.

[raccoon]

33. I feel your pain. My mother was a control freak and I was scared to open my mouth.

I believe that usually spanking is more about the parent being pissed off than about what the kid did.

I came to have a better relationship with my mother in her later years.

Crappy relationship with my father, who's been dead for years.

[Wapsie B]

37. I hear ya.

Every time I hear the words, "Well all kids do that when they're that age," I roll my eyes and know that they most certainly do not. I didn't dare.

[seabeyond]

43. i appreciate your story

your perspective and honesty in telling how you feel, per others. i find it very helpful in seeing the world thru others eyes.

i am sorry for what you went thru. i am glad though, that i was able to hear it.

[edbermac]

26. Good kid, bad parents.

x(

[The2ndWheel]

27. You'd really have to try hard not to be somewhere in between

We're only squishy humans. We're not machines yet.

[proteus_lives]

28. Depends on what day it was.

;-)

[Iggo]

29. I was a bad kid, and my parents would NOT agree.

I was undercover, you see.

[Blue Diadem]

30. I tried so very hard to be good.

It was never good enough.

When you live in a violent household you live a different life. My Mom was just as bad as my Dad but in a different way. She didn't hit as much, she was a hair puller and yeller and would turn us over to Dad to get our punishment, even for minor infractions, or something she dreamed up or something so stupid as arguing with a sibling. Punishment was always severe. I can remember being punished for things that never happened, things they thought I might do.

Dad at least changed after his stroke and I had 10 good years with him. I honestly think my Mom hated me.

[backtoblue]

34. I was no angel, at least not after becoming a teen.

I was a very, very good child, but as a teenager I had my share of trouble-making.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

35. I was a mixed up kid -- I don't know if they would agree or not and

frankly at this stage in life, I don't give a rat's ass what they think. They never had a clue about anything but their selves.

[johnnie]

38. I was a fucking angel

...still am

[femmocrat]

39. I was a good child, but a rotten teenager.

It was like Jekyll and Hyde. I feel guilty for what I put my parents through.

[Kali]

44. normal kid

one parent high functioning alcoholic I think they would say I was pretty good/normal but a dissapointment in terms of education/"profession" from one.

I did a few "bad" things, got caught for some not others, experienced a bit of the poodle effect when I got out on my own, survived.

[NJmaverick]

48. What is the poodle effect?

[Kali]

50. you know how there are street-smart mutts out there?

Well, the poodle effect is like when overprotected FooFoo makes it out the door/gate and goes berserk with unaccustomed freedom, often getting run over in traffic.

Over protected teenagers tend to go berserk when they get loose for their fist year in college.:rofl:

I know I did. :hide:

[GreenPartyVoter]

46. I was a difficult kid. My mother wished I would have one just like me and

I did. x(

[Heidi]

47. That's a long story. I'll defer to DU's limited bandwidth by refraining from further reply. (nt)

[NJmaverick]

49. DU has lots of band width

please share:hi:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

51. When I was good I was very very good

and when I was bad I was horrid.

[Roon]

52. I was a good kid but I dropped out of school when I was 16

immediatly went to Job corps got a trade and GED,and set out on my own. My parents were spared my horrible teen-age years. :-)

[azmouse]

53. Good kid.

Yeah, mom agrees.
And she really agreed I was a good kid after she met my friend's kids. Those kids were horrible. Loved my friend but her kids were out of control.

[dana_b]

54. depends upon your definition of "bad"

I studied and got As and Bs, cleaned my room, had a part time job and came home on time. I also partied... a LOT, told an occasional lie and got away with a lot of stuff htat they never found out about.