I took a risk and it turned out OK...

[MineralMan]

Yesterday, I got an email out of the blue from my first serious girlfriend in high school, from back in 1961-63. Saying hi, and that sort of thing. Normally, I worry about such things, since it was so long ago, and you never know what's going on. We'd been quite an item, and we were both pretty young. Things had been hot and heavy, and I had always felt sorta guilty about it, since I was a couple of years older than she was.

Worse, we had broken up after two years. In a lonely period while stationed overseas, I had written to her, trying to reestablish something. Turned out she was engaged. She said she'd wait until I got back, though. Naturally, that didn't happen and she got married to the guy.

But heck, I thought, and wrote a short email back. Hi, how are you these days? So...she wrote back and said that she felt really guilty for leaving me in the lurch without even telling me about it way back then. I told her I had felt guilty about us having gone too far with stuff back then, and that what she did was never any big deal and that I had just been really lonely. She wrote back and said that she'd been an active, willing participant in all that heavy breathing...

Turns out we're both married to people we love deeply, and she had just wanted to clear the air. I didn't mind clearing the air, either. We probably won't keep in touch, since the issues each of us had about those days almost 50 years ago were settled and laughed about.

Very interesting little exchange...funny...

My wife laughed when I told her about the email. She knew all about that old relationship anyhow, and wondered why I had worried about it in the first place.

Sometimes, things work out OK...

[Strong Atheist]

1. What a nice story! Glad it all worked! nt.

[MineralMan]

2. Thanks.

All that worry for nothing. Well, it wasn't that big a deal, but it popped up every now and then.

I guess we geezers think about the old days from time to time. It's interesting.

[Strong Atheist]

4. Yeah, I do that all the time. nt.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear MineralMan...

I am really glad for you...

Now, it really is over. There won't be any "what if's" and so on...

And I really applaud your telling your wife. Whenever you can share something that important, you're in a healthy place!

Congrats!

:hug:

[MineralMan]

5. What's funny is to still be worrying about stuff that happened

so long ago. My wife had heard the story of that relationship years earlier when we were sharing old stories about each other. Even then the story was like 30 years old, so it was no big deal. I hadn't told her, though, that it had bothered me a little all those years. She thinks I'm an old silly for that, and that's just fine.

That old stuff from those impressionable days just has a way of hanging on in your mind, I guess. Aren't our minds amazing?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. Our minds are amazing!

And I'm not a bit surprised that this still kicked around in yours all these years...

After all, she was your first real girlfriend. That has a major impact...

:hi:

[MineralMan]

7. Thanks! And I'm really glad about your good news today!

Getting older has its iffy moments, too, doesn't it? Beats the hell out of the alternative, though...