What's the one regret you live with?

[NJmaverick]

[Tobin S.]

1. I have a lot of regrets

But the biggest one is not finishing college. It couldn't be helped because I fell ill, but I still wish I could go back and make it right.

[NJmaverick]

6. No chance to do that now?

[Tobin S.]

36. Not right now

I've got a house payment and the associated bills and only my income. I could make it happen in the future if I sold my place and went heavily into debt, I guess.

[Treo]

21. The one that haunts me

I gave away a dog to what I thought was a good home and found out later that I gave it to someone who got dogs to use a s fighting trainers.
Our house rule now is that when we get an animal it has a home for the rest of its natural life

[evlbstrd]

2. Losing the love of my life.

[NJmaverick]

5. What were the circumstances? If you don't mind me asking

[evlbstrd]

8. Distance. Time. Money.

But, ultimately, no trust.

[sagetea]

3. Moving to Idaho

From my beloved Seattle!

[NJmaverick]

4. Why did you move?

[sagetea]

9. We wanted to buy a house

but the prices in Washington were to much, so we bought here in Idaho.
I had visioned a place that would be conducive to tribal living. We have solar and land and our own water, which is great, alas the politics and the people are not conducive to me!

[mnhtnbb]

16. One of the few friends I have opposing health care reform live in Idaho.

I didn't know her politics when I worked with her. When they retired to Idaho, I though, uh-oh. Turns
out I was right.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

7. wellll................

do tell!

[NJmaverick]

10. I regret going to college for engineering

It was a miserable 4 years and turned out to be a poor choice of careers and colleges. I am not a number cruncher or someone who sit all day at a terminal (or a drawing board when I was going to school) designing stuff. While I am not the most sociable person, I like working with people. On top of that a small engineering college was the equivalent of going to an all boys school (at the time I went less than 10% of engineering students were women). I really wish I had gone to school for business or gone on to become an MD.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

11. not all engineers sit behind desks...or do they? aren't there field

engineers?

[NJmaverick]

12. That's how I became the manger for plant operations for a hospital

still I ended up using but a tiny fraction of what I had painfully learned in those 4 years.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. but, you are happy with your job...yes?

I know what you mean about education, I changed majors 5 times :blush:

[NJmaverick]

13. What about your regret?

[Tuesday Afternoon]

15. ahhh...

my life trail is littered with regrets. Far too many crossroads on this journey.

[Moondog]

17. My friend,

if you only have one regret, I truly envy you.

I have led, by most standards, a remarkably full life to this point. Which means I hit a lot of forks in the road, and with each fork came a difficult decision.

But I try to follow the injunction of that great American philosopher Satchel Paige who once said "don't look back, something may be gaining on you." I try not to look back. For that way lies madness.

[sagetea]

22. A-ho, MoonDog!

I have been down many dark alleys, myself.
my world now is very...small, I guess. I seem to weigh the consequences of my actions to the "safe" side, something I would never have done even 5 yrs. ago.

Getting older is such a drag!

Sage

[grasswire]

31. oh, that quote...

Thanks so much for that. Priceless.

[DeepBlueC]

18. why haven't you answered your own question?

When you ask personal questions, I thought it was customary to share. :shrug:

[NJmaverick]

19. I did

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=9018588&mesg_id=9018647

[Deja Q]

20. Seeing a chiropractor... and the doctor who shrugged off the symptoms as mere "anxiety".

I should have sued the goddamn quacks out of existence.

[femmocrat]

23. Trying to grow up too fast.

I got married too young and had my first child when I was still very immature. I wish I had had more time to be on my own first before assuming so many adult responsibilities.

It all worked out well, but I missed my twenties.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

24. My dear NJmaverick...

I was a virgin, both physically and mentally, when I married at the tender age of 21.

How I wish I hadn't been...

Being that naive and that inexperienced has colored my entire life.

[rrneck]

25. Working hard

instead of smart.

[LostInAnomie]

26. Being a gentleman on far too many occasions.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

27. My dear LostInAnomie...

Any man who behaves as a gentleman is doing a very good thing...

I would have appreciated you so much...

:hug:

[1Hippiechick]

28. It's a regret over which I had no control - I wish there had been child psychologists

made available to me back in 1951 when my parents were killed in a car accident - just 1 month before my 4th birthday. Years of heartache, acting out that I didn't understand, and lots of poor choices while growing up, followed by years of therapy. I have to wonder how different my life would have been if I had received the counseling that was so desperately needed by this terrified, 4 y.o. little girl who still has to be quieted and reassured once in a while.

edited for misspelling

[RFKHumphreyObama]

29. I don't have one regret I live with

The number of regrets I live with each day are long enough to fill a whole set of encyclopaedias and they all haunt me equally

[onestepforward]

30. Trying to help people who didn't want to help themselves.

I lost a lot of time with this one. I don't regret initially trying, but I should have stopped when it was clear that I was not making a difference.

[betharina]

32. losing my family.

[grasswire]

35. oh betharina

:hug:

[grasswire]

33. marrying a narcissist

That's the main one. I was young; I didn't know better. One week after marriage, this *charming* person turned into an an emotional batterer. Classic pathological narcissist.

Other regrets, too, of course.

[pink-o]

34. I regret that I ever smoked (cigarettes) altho I've haven't touched one

since I was 26. I'm 54 now and I run 10k's, so I don't think I've done any lasting damage.

But even more than that: I had a friend whom I met in 5th grade, a friend no one else wanted to know. She had a heart condition, which could easily be corrected now, but in 1966 she was barely able to walk or run. Kids, who can be so cruel, bullied her and called her names, but I stuck by her.

Until middle school, that is.

Then I decided that I wanted to be with a more popular crowd, and my friend was in the way of that ambition. So I told her she couldn't be my friend anymore. Even though I knew she had no other friends. Even though she was raised Jehovah's Witness, and it was unlikely she'd meet anyone else at a party or have the support system I provided. Ultimately, I was worse than any of those bullies, because I knew her circumstances and yet I dropped her anyway.

Once we were older, I could have gone to her and humbly apologized, leaving it to her whether she flamed me or accepted my remorse. But unfortunately, she died from her condition, and I never had a chance to make it up to her.

So she is at peace, and beyond caring how I feel. I OTOH, have to live with my actions for the rest of my life.

[KamaAina]

37. I met her just weeks after she had fallen for someone else

I'm not even that old. This will eat away at me for the next 30 or 40 years, unless someone comes along who could make me forget about her, which isn't bloody likely, me not being rich or famous or anything.

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[Arugula Latte]

38. Well there was that time I shot a man in Reno just to watch him die.

So now I'm stuck in Folsom prison and time keeps draggin' on. :(