Okay, so why DO men look at cleavage anyway?

[Deja Q]

Seriously.

I see them.

I don't want to see them.

I know women get upset when men look.

Which is why I don't want to see them.

It's not deliberate or anything.

And I probably wouldn't know what to go do with them anyway, but then I don't know how to do lots of things...

Grr!

I know some men are deliberate letches. And some aren't. Please lump me in with the latter...

[JVS]

1. Because it's there

[HopeHoops]

9. You beat me to it.

:evilgrin:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear Deja Q...

Most men (hetero men, anyway) look because it makes them feel good...

It's like looking at anything that makes you happy. You do it so you'll feel happy...

Cleavage is sexy.

That's what it boils down to...

:hi:

[leeroysphitz]

21. Will you marry me?

:P

[CaliforniaPeggy]

22. My dear leeroysphitz!

Why, of course, darling!

There's just one little snag...



I've already got a husband, and funny thing, he's rather fond of me......


:P

[proteus_lives]

42. +1

Nothing picks up your day like a glance at a well-formed bust. It recharges the engines.

When it comes to sneaking a peek, the average joe on the street turns into an elite ninja. ;-)

[gmoney]

3. )(

or sometimes \/

or even / \

[JVS]

5. yeah!

:D

[TZ]

4. Ummm- I don't get upset if a man looks

At my cleavage. Especially if i am wearing a low cut top. It's to be expected. I don't necessarily think that guys who look are "letches" either. Although I might be uncomfortable with someone staring at my boobs the whole time I'm around them. But a glance or two..pretty harmless in my opinion.

[gmoney]

6. Isn't that the point of the low-cut top?

I enjoy when women wear sexy clothing, but am baffled when they get offended if someone actually takes a moment to appreciate it.

[TZ]

7. I couldn't agree more

I also get puzzled when someone where's an outfit that says " look at me" and gets mad when you do..just don't overdo it by doing the fixed stare thing. That's creepy

[Bucky]

53. The problem isn't the "taking a moment to appreciate". The problem is drooling in their cleavage.

I can tell you from experience it's a real non-starter of a pick up technique.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

8. In order to ensure

propagation of the species, I think most men (I know I am) are designed to notice to ANY kind of sexual stimulus. Acting on it is an entirely different matter but I see cleavage and I have to stop and clear my mind for a moment. Or maybe I am a lech! :) :shrug:

[Demoiselle]

19. I've read that human bosoms developed their rounded character when

humans started to mate while-er looking into each other's eyes instead of both looking in the same direction, if you get my drift.
The roundness was meant to remind the menfolk of bottoms.
Honest. I read that in that lovely book called "The Descent of Woman." It's got lots of great theories.
So admiring cleavage is just a natural thing to do. Within reason. As is displaying it. Within reason.

[crim son]

45. Like there's any danger of no propogation, even w/out cleavage.

:eyes:

[Taverner]

10. It's the best way you can enjoy 2 breasts in the time period allotted for "not staring" nt

[debbierlus]

11. It is when can't extract their eyes off them that it becomes a problem

Every woman has had the experience of being around a man or men who just can't seem to avert their glances away from them (and I am not talking about low cut tops or super tight shirts, just normal clothing).

And, women get upset because women KNOW what men are thinking when they are looking at them. And, frankly, women may not like the fact that you are thinking about them that way.

[appamado amata padam]

14. I think post #11 has hit on the real issue -

men being men, we just can't help the occasional furtive glance and/or appreciative smile.

But men who just rudely stare don't have much respect for women.

[Odin2005]

32. I'll admit to being guilty of doing that.

I know I shouldn't do it, but it's like a frakking train wreck, and I'll sometimes do it without being totally conscious of doing it! :banghead:

[omega minimo]

37. Especially if they are pretending to have a conversation and the woman is

"Up here, hello. Up here."

[rcrush]

12. You have to train yourself to just glance and then store than information for later

I am just glancing at your boobies now but later when I am alone I am staring at them intensely!

[pitohui]

13. seriously? really seriously?

because that's the way mother nature programmed straight men

if you don't know the answer to this question, you're either not a straight male or you're taking some drug that neuters you (mostly likely an SSRI)

i don't mind guys looking

i mind guys grabbing and i mind guys deciding that if i have cleavage i don't have a brain

looking, an expression of appreciation, is fine

there IS a difference between being a letch and having eyes in your head

am i a freak because i check out a cute guy's ass? even if he's wearing plumber's pants and shows some nice butt cleavage?

[armyowalgreens]

15. Major boobage...

[county worker]

16. I think like this. A woman invites some men to look and does the opposite to others.

It is like letting someone into your space. Some people you let in others you do not. A man wants to be invited in and so looks hoping for the invite to look. If the woman does not invite him in she doesn't want the attention. A man should respect that.

[Deep13]

17. Evolution.

Hetero men are programmed to notice proportion and that includes an attraction to life-sustaining tah-tahs. Evolution is really inefficient and apparently it was easier to make us what to notice all the time than it was to make us notice only when it is socially appropriate. I try not to be obvious, but it is hard to fight 200,000 years of evolution.

[Juche]

18. Women tend to wear those outfits in the hopes that people look

I don't think that makes you a letch. Staring at it when you are having a conversation with someone is different though.


On another note, nobody is allowed to look at my Porsche. The one I saved for years to buy, that I wax every weekend, and that I like to drive around in public venues (the more people the better). Nobody is allowed to look at it. Letches.

[Yavin4]

20. If You Show Cleavage, Don't You Want Men To Look?

Otherwise, why show cleavage? I don't have balls cleavage because I don't want people to look at them.

[elocs]

23. I used to work in a food warehouse and the woman at the desk where we'd pick up our orders

was young, well-endowed, and wore low cut tops in order to tempt the guys to look. I would just smile and look her in the eye because I knew her game. When some of the big-wigs were coming to look the place over our boss told her to wear something less revealing.

Yes, cleavage: women know what they are doing.

From Seinfeld: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HvGqPencrJQ

[pokerfan]

62. Ah, Denise Richards...

who later portrays a nuclear physicist in a James Bond movie thus dispelling the claim that there's an inverse correlation between bra size and IQ.

[UTUSN]

24. Envious?!1 n/t

[kwassa]

25. If women want men to see their cleavage, they display their cleavage.

If not, they wear clothes that cover them up.

Simple, really.

[omega minimo]

36. Men stare at breasts when they're covered up.

[pokerfan]

26. Ahta!

(Bebe's house, night. The house is dark, so she's asleep. The camera zooms in on her, and her breasts start to blink under her gown)

RIGHT BREAST
The boys are at war. All is going as planned.

LEFT BREAST
Yes. Soon all the boys will be brought to their knees.

RIGHT BREAST
We grow larger every day.

LEFT BREAST
And stronger.

RIGHT BREAST
Soon the entire tow-

LEFT BREAST
Sh! Sh! She's awake!

RIGHT BREAST
Ah, quiet.

(Season 6 - Episode 610 - Bebe's Boobs Destroy Society)

[Rising Phoenix]

27. cleavage is beautiful

like smiles
like lips
like hips
like humps
like lumps
like a sway
and a say
like hope
and help

look at it, enjoy it. why else would something so beautiful be put in front of our eyes?

[NJmaverick]

47. cleavage is like the sun, you can look at it, but it is dangerous to stare

[Jeff In Milwaukee]

54. Please send one new keyboard to the following address.....

I'm going to remember that one.

:rofl:

[Centrisms Voice]

28. They want to feel it.

I'm not ashamed to admit that, when I see an attractive woman, sooner or later I wonder - silently, most of the time - what it would be like to have sex with her. Seeing cleavage reminds me of caressing a woman's chest with my hands and later my face, as I and many other men do when we're being physically intimate. There's not much more to it than that. (shrug)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

29. Welcome to DU!

I think your remarks are right on!

:hi:

[rurallib]

30. Memories of a wonderful childhood.

[Capn Sunshine]

31. +1

lol

[BlooInBloo]

33. "It's not deliberate or anything." - I've never known a girl who was showing her bewbies...

and didn't know it.

[edbermac]

34. That's where they usually keep their beer.

:beer: :beer:

[omega minimo]

35. They can't see their balls

:bounce: :bounce:

[petronius]

38. Because it's beautiful and it fills us with a sense of happiness and

peace, like gazing at the ocean or a bucolic green meadow. Also, when I see it, I can ----- ----- ------- --- -----, ------- -- ---- -- -------- ----, ---- ------- -- ---- -- ----- --- -------- ---- --- ----- ----- - --- --- ---- --!! Especially that last part...

:)

[Skittles]

39. mommy issues

[vadawg]

40. because their butts are covered,

:shrug: we are men after all

[Mudoria]

41. Like most men I like boobs...

If you're proud enough to show the cleavage than I'm willing to take an appreciative glance at them.

[Maine-ah]

43. I honestly don't mind.

unless they sit and stare at them the whole time....that's kind of rude. Besides, I am probably checking out their ass any way.

[unpossibles]

44. I have to admit, I'm not even really into boobs that much BUT....

... I still find myself looking sometimes. I try to be discrete at least.

[crim son]

46. As a woman who has never had anything even approaching real cleavage,

I HATE it! But that's just cuz I'm jealous. :P

[guitar man]

48. when I see clevage

There's generally never anything in the area that is better to look at :P

[Iggo]

49. It'd be rude not to.

It (the cleavage) is on display for a reason, right? If that reason is not to be looked at, then what IS the reason?

[Schema Thing]

50. we're trying desperately to peer into a woman's heart

[Cant trust em]

59. LOL! nt

[cwydro]

51. As a gay woman...

I quite enjoy cleavage myself.:evilgrin:

[Bucky]

52. Biological imperative. Breasts mimic the inflamed nether parts of she-apes in estrus

It's why upright humans have boobies and caboose-presenting primates do not.

Just don't ask me about elephants.

[omega minimo]

61. Even more basic. It's because

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=9046948&mesg_id=9050249

[La Lioness Priyanka]

55. this might have something to do with the fact that they are straight, and you are not.

[Taitertots]

56. I don't want people looking at my balls so I keep them in my pants

People who don't want their breasts looked at should keep them in their shirts.

[guitar man]

57. and....

For a thread with Cleavage in the title there's way to many words and not enough pics :evilgrin:

[Cant trust em]

58. Subquestion: How much time is too long of a look?

My sense is that a quick glance is not that big of a deal, but if it's a prolonged gawk, then we've probably crossed a line.

[ismnotwasm]

60. There's a difference between looking

And leering. Not all men look at women body part by body part anyway.

I find some men (and women) are delightful flirts, able to interact in a fun way with someone they find attractive without being a creepy asshole. It's not that difficult to do.