Is it immature to not want a monogamous relationship at a certain point in your life?

[lightningandsnow]

There are a handful of people I'm kind of semi-involved with right now, and while I like them all a lot, I can't see myself being totally monogamous and committed to any of them. Granted, most of them don't expect that from me, but I think if things go further with one of them, she may expect total commitment. And, really, I can't do that right now.

Still, I can't help but feel like I'm being juvenile for not wanting an actual boyfriend/girlfriend right now, unless it's an open relationship.

Sigh. Maybe I'm just not cut out to be monogamous.

[stray cat]

1. I think its your call as long as you are honest with everyone that you are sleeping around

[Wapsie B]

2. I wouldn't say immature. You're not at the right place in your life to appreciate it.

That total commitment while forsaking all others is a huge step in life. Many people think they're ready but then look at the divorce rate. Once you find that one person where a 100% exclusive monogamous relationship is possible you will know. You will be stopped dead in your tracks with desire. I found that out this weekend.

[LynzM]

3. Nope.

Hell, I'm a married adult who doesn't have a monogamous relationship. They're not right for everybody. If you don't want one now, don't have one! :)

[pitohui]

4. maybe it's a question of maturity or maybe it's just the way you are

people don't really change their orientations and what "charges" them sexually

it might have nothing to do w. your level of maturity, you might be a perfectly "mature" person who is not meant to be monogamous, we are higher level primates which means that the odds that you're meant to be monogamous are fairly slim

[Gormy Cuss]

5. No.

It's only immature to pretend that you're in a monogamous relationship or to pretend that's what you want. Maturity requires honesty with your partners on this even if that means that the relational will end.

[TommyO]

6. It's not immature, it's realistic.

You know yourself, and you know what you want at this point in your life, don't beat yourself up for that honesty.

[LeftyMom]

7. Honesty and understanding of one's self are hardly immature.

[iris27]

8. Just because society lauds monogamy, that doesn't make it any more or less

mature than non-monogamy. I think of it the same way that some people think any adults who don't have children are really still "just teenagers"...sorry, having children and not having children are both perfectly reasonable, adult choices.

Being honest with yourself and your partners is much more mature than all those "family values" RW cheaters like Sanford/Gingrich/Guiliani etc.

[tigereye]

9. you are a student, right?

good time to experiment and enjoy, as long as you are safe about it...

I wouldn't say it's immature at all.