Any loungers have any ideas/experience re: dating sites?

[The Straight Story]

Not sure where to start, I don't want to hit up bars or eharmony (though I would other sites) and about the only time I 'get out' is for ghost hunting :)

Hoping to meet someone, just not sure where to go.

If you have any experience in this - please share.

Been a year since I became single and am hoping to at least find someone I can share life/time with.

[RoadRage]

1. I met my husband online..

I did a local site.. ala "denversingles.com" - It was $10 a month, but at least all of the guys on it were local which was nice.

A few words of advice: Definitely put up a picture.. 85% of women won't even look at your profile with no picture. Make the picture be a nice shot of you "cleaned up" but not neccessarily formal, and in a casual setting if possible. If you have a friend who can help take a few pics of you, that's always good.

Be funny and creative if possible in describing yourself - don't do 1 word answers, but you don't have to type a novel every time either.

Go for 1 - 2 dates a week and be casual.. even coffee or a drink at a bar vs. a full meal is good, so if you don't hit it off you don't have to sit there for a long uncomfortable (and possibly expensive) meal, but if you do - you can continue on to another location.

Don't take it personally if a girl or two doesn't call you or email you back after the first date.. just move on to the next one. It always happens.

Be HONEST about who you are. The biggest turnoff is if you read a guys profile and he says one thing, but you find out later he was lying (or "false advertising"). Be true to who you are.. if you get serious with someone they're going to figure it out eventually anyway.

Hope that helps! My husband & I have been married for 5 years, and we have 2 kids together.. I love him more then anything!!

[flvegan]

2. Some say that DU isn't too bad in that department.

Just sayin'.

[The Straight Story]

4. Maybe I will get lucky in that way, if folks can get past my posts

:rofl:

[flvegan]

7. But if you post in the same way you are IRL

then you want someone that will appreciate it.

For example, someone that was interested in the douchebag that is flvegan posting on DU would be really disappointed if they found out I was a nice guy in person.

See?

:rofl:

[madinmaryland]

13. Dude! You had to go and tell everyone about us!

:blush:

[LeftyMom]

14. Lucky for me, you're the same douchebag in person, only prettier.

:rofl:

[SarahB]

3. OK Cupid

Especially if not a relationship traditionalist type.

[The Straight Story]

5. Checking it out now

Thank you. How about dinner later? ;)

[LynzM]

8. I second SarahB's rec...

:thumbsup:

:hi: SB!

[SarahB]

23. Hey dude!

See you soon! :hi:

[SarahB]

22. Thanks.

My dance card is pretty overflowing right now, but good luck in your search!

[KG]

6. i've met lots of women through dating sites. just relax and try to have fun with the process.

and don't expect to meet the person of your dreams in 10 days. it just don't work like that.


www.plentyoffish.com - totally free.

[Lindsey]

9. I know several folks who have met through match.com. n/t

[cwydro]

10. Stick with DU...

It's worked for quite a few of us. ;)

[Tuesday Afternoon]

12. uhm ....

oh really! do tell...Surely, I am worthy of a PM update. Happy for you and whoever it is :hug: :hi:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

11. meh ...

seems like the guys I met were looking for the same thing as the guys in the bars. Since you are a guy, maybe it will be beneficial for you. Good luck.

[Moondog]

24. Yeah,

we men are such pigs that way ....

[yurbud]

15. I met my wife on Democraticmatch.com after years on the other sites

match.com, Yahoo personals, Nerve, and a couple of others I forget.

eHarmony was by far the worst--it cost twice as much as the others and the results sucked.

One thing to be wary of is a couple of sites got caught sending out fake daters to keep people from dropping the service. They go out with you once so you won't give up.

I met a girl from Yahoo personals that I dated for two years.

It beats the hell out of bars.

[quakerboy]

16. Craigslist worked for me

One ad, with a lot of honesty couched in some sarcasm and a word problem netted me one wife, life is amazing.

[sakabatou]

17. I wouldn't know...

I met my fiance through an online game :P

[Chan790]

21. So did my youngest brother...

was playing WoW and made an online friend. Discovered later that she went to the other college in the same very-small city he attends college in. The rest is at times adorable and really strange. He's already been told that we like her better than him so he'd better not screw it up. Actually she's good for him...he went from being a D student to enrolling in law school next fall and joining the Navy as a J.A.G. (I'm not sure what the Navy is thinking but they agreed to it.)

[sakabatou]

26. Unlike your brother, my girl is on the other side of the US

[Orsino]

18. My wife found me on match.com fourteen years ago.

Apparently such sites have gotten a lot more sophisticated, so our experience may no longer be very relevant. They're also much more densely populated, so the sheer volume of humanity that one must filter has certainly increased.

I can only advise: be honest.

[blueamy66]

19. Off topic....but I met my great guy in a bar...

Actually, I picked him up. Of course he has to tell everyone that story.

But, hey, whatever works. :-)

[velvet]

20. my advice

In your profile don't just say you have a great sense of humour, everyone says that. Not everyone demonstrates it.

Be patient and enjoy the ride, as other posters have advised. As a pal of mine put it: "First, I had to drink a lot of coffee with strangers."

Some people will ignore you when you initiate contact with them. It happens a lot. Just ignore it.

Long ago I read a list of the Top Ten Internet Lies. One stays in my memory: "I've never felt this way about someone I've never met before." It's so easy to build an imaginary persona around extended online communication and phone conversations, and to feel attracted to someone you've never met. Verify. Meet in person as soon as is mutually agreeable.

[EOTE]

25. Adult Friend Finder.

I'm not trying to be crude or anything, but if you're looking for someone who's sexually compatible, that might be the way to go. And it's not just a site for people looking for hookups. A lot of people there are looking for long term relationships.