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Wed Dec-16-09 01:17 AM
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my father died this morning |
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i need to vent :( i'm sorry....
we didn't always have the best relationship (although i would have wanted one), but it's still painful. he was 80 and had cancer (metastatic lung probably - he refused to be tested to find out), COPD and emphysema and was ready to go, but i didn't expect it to end the way it did. apparently, he stepped out of bed and fell HARD. when mom found him, he was all skinned up and had a bloody hand from hitting the wall, as well as a knot on his eyebrow. hospice came for awhile and he seemed stable, but just 5 minutes after they left, dad just quietly passed. mom left the room for a minute and then he was gone. he did not want to be resuscitated and wasn't. RIP dad...:cry:
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Wed Dec-16-09 01:23 AM
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Wed Dec-16-09 01:26 AM
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My dad died 10 years ago from similar circumstances.
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Wed Dec-16-09 01:31 AM
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3. I'm sorry to hear that |
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Wed Dec-16-09 01:34 AM
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4. I'm so sorry to hear this...don't know what else to say ... |
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except that you have my deepest sympathies, even though I'm just another stranger out here...
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Wed Dec-16-09 01:42 AM
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5. Sorry for your loss shanti. |
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It'll be three years this March since my dad passed. He was 87. Never easy under any circumstances.
Safe passage to your dad. Peace to you and your mom. :hug:
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Wed Dec-16-09 02:10 AM
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It sounds as though he went peacefully. Best wishes to you and your mom and all your family.
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Wed Dec-16-09 02:13 AM
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7. I am sorry for your loss |
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He probably died the way he wanted to: with not much fuss.
I hope that you have enough happy memories of him to concentrate on them and to cherish them. And I hope that you can be there for your mom who is probably too traumatized now to even realize her loss.
:hug:
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Wed Dec-16-09 02:14 AM
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8. I'm sorry for your loss |
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Wed Dec-16-09 02:17 AM
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9. So very sorry, sweetie. |
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Wed Dec-16-09 03:31 AM
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i'm flying to arizona on thursday to be with mom for a few days. the fact that it's during the holidays makes it worse, because mom loves christmas.
:grouphug:
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Wed Dec-16-09 03:36 AM
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12. My deepest sympathies. |
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I've never experienced your loss and can't even imagine what you're going through. :(
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Wed Dec-16-09 06:38 AM
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13. Wishing you and your family peace, prayers |
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:28 AM
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Wish I was there to give you a big hug...
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:33 AM
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:43 AM
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17. My relationship with my dad is pretty bad, but it was one of those things beyond my control. |
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Edited on Wed Dec-16-09 09:43 AM by old mark
He is now 92, lives thousands of miles away by his choice. We talk on the phone maybe 4 times a year for a few minutes.
I am sorry for your loss, hope you are doing alright.
mark
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:48 AM
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:51 AM
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19. my condolences. may he rest in peace |
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:11 AM
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20. Shanti, I'm very sorry |
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of course it's painful.
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:43 AM
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23. I'm very sorry, shanti. |
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:48 AM
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24. Safe passage to your father. |
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May he be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours, shanti.
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:50 AM
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:52 AM
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No matter what relationship you had with him, it's still hard
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Wed Dec-16-09 11:57 AM
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I hope all goes as well as it can from this point forward.
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:07 PM
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28. Very sorry for your loss. |
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Wed Dec-16-09 09:31 PM
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29. Condolences to you and your family |
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:13 AM
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30. I am very sorry. Hug. |
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:22 AM
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It is so hard to lose a parent. My dad is gone and I miss him so.
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Thu Dec-17-09 01:29 PM
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32. Peace to you and your family. |
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take care of yourself and your mom.
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Thu Dec-17-09 01:35 PM
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33. I am so sorry for your loss. |
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Thu Dec-17-09 01:38 PM
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I know you're in a lot of pain right now. We're with you... :grouphug:
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:02 PM
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35. I'm sorry for your loss |
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:02 PM
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36. I am so sorry. *hugs* |
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:05 PM
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38. I'm so very sorry, shanti. |
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Thu Dec-17-09 03:20 PM
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39. I 'm sorry for your loss. |
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Thu Dec-17-09 06:07 PM
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41. So sorry to hear this news |
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my condolences to you and your family.
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Thu Dec-17-09 07:34 PM
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and healing vibes for peace in your heart and mind. :hug:
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Thu Dec-17-09 08:32 PM
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44. I am so sorry for your loss. |
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Fri Dec-18-09 12:52 AM
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:hug:
My dad had passed too a little while back but I didn't feel like posting it at the time. Like you, didn't have the best relationship with him as he was a right winger.
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Fri Dec-18-09 12:58 AM
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46. Oh, dear Shanti, I am so, so sorry. |
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Just try not to burden yourself too much.
We're here for you.
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Fri Dec-18-09 02:03 AM
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47. Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences. |
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Just remember that time actually does heal all wounds. Even when it seems like the pain will remain forever.
:hug:
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Fri Dec-18-09 03:56 AM
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50. So sorry for your loss. |
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Wishing you and your family comfort. :hug:
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Fri Dec-18-09 08:26 AM
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51. Please accept the condolences of the BlueIris family. nt |
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Fri Dec-18-09 08:32 AM
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52. my prayers go to you and your family |
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Fri Dec-18-09 08:50 AM
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53. My deepest and sincerest thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies to you and your family |
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