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NanceGreggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 10:35 PM
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The Cat Always Knows
We lost a dear friend yesterday. She was only forty-seven, young and vibrant. Found dead by her eight-year-old son.

Probably a heart attack, or perhaps an aneurysm, said the coroner. It will be days before the cause-of-death verdict is finalized.

No matter. The details won’t fill the void left by her absence. The cut-and-dry explanation won’t bring her back.

She’s gone.

The two dogs who allow us to share their home know something’s amiss. They see the tears that ensue when the phone is answered. They have noted – with some chagrin – that schedules normally adhered to, with respect to feeding times and backyard romps, have been altered with what seems no reasonable explanation.

They curl up a little closer on the couch, and offer their chew-toys for a pick-up game of toss-and-fetch a little more often than usual – somehow aware that cheering-up is needed, that distraction from reality would be welcome, even if our participation is reluctantly, rather than enthusiastically, forthcoming.

There is another creature who lurks within our walls. Sakura, the Cat-from-Hell. Found motherless as a three-week-old kitten, she arrived with her siblings at my daughter’s college animal clinic – the place where my lovely and caring child was studying to be a lovely and caring vet assistant. And she is.

And so, what eventually turned out to be the only surviving kitten of the abandoned litter found her way into my child’s heart – and, with much nay-saying aforethought, into my home.

Sakura and I were sworn enemies from the start. We kept our distance, one from the other. Our rare one-on-one encounters consisted of me yelling “Pssssst! Get LOST!” as she swatted the weight-chains on my beloved antique clock – or grabbing her by the scruff of the neck as she pounced on the birdcage, determined to scare our parakeets to death (undoubtedly hopeful of an all-you-can-eat buffet, post budgie demise).

I have always had cats, you understand – warm and friendly creatures, content to just be – undesirous of shredding every piece of mail immediately upon delivery, uninterested in destroying the woodwork that true artisans had crafted for my 1923-constructed house, unwanting of undoing what years of careful decorating had finally accomplished.

But Sakura was determined to be something else entirely. Something between the Spawn of Satan and the Devil Incarnate – only meaner, more blatantly evil – all delivered with an attitude that made you know she meant it.

Last night, I sat in front of the computer – waiting for a message from my dear (allegedly departed) friend: “LOL! I don’t know how this rumour got started, but I am SO NOT DEAD!”

Sakura came into my office – a place she knows full well she is not welcome. She jumped into my lap, curled herself up, and purred away – brushing her face against mine, warm and cuddly as only cats can be – and settled-in to sit vigil through the night, as I – no, we – waited for a message that never came.

Dogs sense – but cats know.

Cheyenne, my dearly departed friend, was always a “cat person”. She always said they know when you’re hurting, and will do whatever they can to soothe your spirit when you need it most.

She was right.

Got the message, Chey – via Sakura.

Would have preferred a phone call saying, “Fooled ya!”

But I’ll take what I can get.

Farewell, my Lovely. We’ll meet again on the other side.

And yes, I’ll bring the damned cat.
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Swede Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 10:42 PM
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1. 47 is way to young to check out.
Sorry for your loss Nance.
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NanceGreggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:10 PM
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3. Thank you so much, Swede ...
It's said that when you make someone laugh, you add time to their lifespan. If that's true, having known Cheyenne means I may live for centuries.
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 10:44 PM
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2. My dear Nance...
Ah, sweetie...

I am so sorry about the death of your dear friend too soon, way too soon...

It really doesn't matter, does it? No matter how old our friends are...it's always too soon.

And that Cat!

I never had one like that, I must say. You sure it isn't some sort of, you know....karma?;)

Good for her, helping you in that awful moment...

Yup, you will have her with you when you cross over...

Safe passage to your dear friend Cheyenne...

Hugs for you....and Sakura.:hug: :hug:


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NanceGreggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:12 PM
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4. Okay, I'll hug her this ONCE, CalPag ...
... only because I am duty-bound to pass that hug along from you.
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AwakeAtLast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:15 PM
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5. What a special way to share your sorrow
Cats are wonderful for telling all your grief to.

I am truly sorry you lost your friend. Hugs to you and her daughter.

:hug: :hug: :hug:
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:17 PM
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6. Sorry NanceG
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havocmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:51 PM
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7. lovely homage to a friend, a cat, and life's wonderous mystery
Thanks, and take care.

Oh, and give the cat time. She may turn into a most reliable friend yet.
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JeffR Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-23-09 11:56 PM
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8. If the phone rings, I'll grab it even if I sprain something.
And you can talk to her first. Promise.:hug:

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DesertFlower Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 12:31 AM
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9. i cried when i got your e-mail
telling me that cheyenne was gone. now after reading about sakura i'm crying again.

love you little sister.
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Flaxbee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 01:16 AM
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10. I'm so sorry about Cheyenne

I haven't lost a good, close friend yet, and I imagine the pain is huge. I can't imagine what her poor son much have gone through, finding his mother. I hope he has a lot of very good support.

I'm glad Sakura was there to pass along your friend's message. I sit here with six felines within about 5 feet of me - they're wonderful friends, both giving and demanding at the same time. I hope Sakura continues to provide you with some comfort. There's not much better for lifting an aching spirit than a purring cat giving you the kitty head-butt kiss.
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dgibby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 12:53 PM
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11. Oh, Nance,
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your friend, but glad your kitteh is there to comfort you. I'll be keeping you and your family in my heart today.

Peace and comfort.

d
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 01:03 PM
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12. That is more than a metaphor.
http://doghealth1.com/2007/08/dogs-detect-cancer-in-humans/

Condolences on your loss. It must be horrible for her son.
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hippywife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 01:13 PM
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13. Dear Nance...
Edited on Fri Dec-25-09 01:13 PM by hippywife
The loss of a close friend or sibling seem to bring the worse kind of hurt. Even though there is a terrible sorrow when we lose our elders, there is always the thought floating around that it is to be expected. No one expects the loss of a contemporary, therefore it is much more shocking, making us feel so much more fragile in this life, confirming for us that not one of us is promised even one more day. Reminding us that it is best to love our friends so deeply and dearly each day so that it is obvious to them, as tomorrow there may not be another opportunity.

I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this horrible loss at this time, or any time for that matter. And I wish you peace in exchange for your sorrow in the days ahead.

Thank you, Sakura, for soothing the pain for our friends who need just that quiet acceptance to ease the tension of the heart strained by loss.

Namaste.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 04:37 PM
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14. Safe Passage, Too Young ~


I have always loved cats, and there were times when it was just me and my kitties scuttling from life to life looking for our feral home. But my husband is on a cusp.

Some time back now; we were at one of several High Holiday Season Parties with friends - the kind that come right round this time - not so 4th of July'eee, but round this time warm-inside-cold-outside with snacking-friends sipping smoking and joking: hubby in their recliner kicking back when we heard a scratch at the door. Along with the High Tea Moment of The Host and his admonition

"It's Smokey, ah shit!! Hey, everybody! It's Smokey! Smokey's really old. He isn't feeling well, he's going blind and he has some bad teeth. He's mean. He's tired. And he doesn't get along with *anyone*. So don't piss him off, k?"

K, already sheesh

But the sound of 'the hook' into the screen-door screen was a tremendous motivator for The Host it would seem, cause up he shot spritely over opening *the big door* with a studied snap standing back doorman-esque as the block of cold then frigid air began to move, filling the living-room very quickly. A truly {so who's training whom?} moment in time when Smokey opened the screen-door for himself and sauntered in: The Vintage Black Cat Alley Warrior, and yeah...

He did look mean and pissy too on top of unkempt twists and spikes of wet, half frozen black fur pointing to every point on the compass; rangy, roamy Black Tom with a snip out of one ear, healed wounds, a recent scratch across one eye, broad shoulders working/locomoting past the well earned demeanors, "Wha'dah you look'n at? Fuck Off!"

The motionless living-room, including hubby; a shared, stunned silence that Smokey played like a dirge on a recently scratched fiddle when hubby made a little giddy-up click; like calling a pony cross a paddock. A further, most frigid silence froze the pole to every tongue as what happened next could only seen,

Smokey stopped. Looked round hubby's feet. Saw him there and stood up on his creaky old haunches hoisting himself onto the foot rest fully extended. So heavy is the old, battled, warrior gato; cause as he came up with the grouchy-old, world-weary trill of a kitteh: Smokey began to collapse the recliner setting hubby up a bit straighter by maybe 3 inches before pausing and working up a balance point then padding his way right up hubby's crotch cross his belly button and onto his chest where Smokey laid down with black paws round hubby's neck and kissed him on the lips. They head butted each other for a while, hubby smiled and winked, Smokey blinked slowly his eyes; turning slowly to away padding his way back the way he came, hopped down with a pained trill and kept sauntering cross the living-room and into the back of the house, interacting with no one else. And, as it turns out, no one had ever seen Smokey do anything like that before.

Which made 1-2hrs of conversation about our extrapolated holistic interactions and relationships in life in the world after which we kissed everyone, hugged the rest and drove home. That's when I asked hubby if he thought what they had said about Smokey being mean was true, and he said yeah - it's true.

So now I had to ask if that was true why did Smokey do what he did? Sure, we were Ho Ho High Holiday Ho Seasons Greetings Tipsy but this, and it still cracks me up: is what he said, and I do have to paraphrase some, but:

'Sweetheart, it will go much easier for the world when the world finally understands that cats are really just extremely complex Illuminati robots. As for proof of this; remove all your clothes in the most private, personally secure room available and stand there. Just stand there. Naked. From the tip of your fontanel, to the souls of your feet. Soon, when the little hairs on your body start to stand up...look around, look above, look behind you, look between your legs. There will be a cat somewhere about already having appraised they now look with measured dismissive-ness and eons old disinterest upon our naked, hapless endeavors'

Which I just love, cause we met at a longitudinal gov-based research facility with strict verbatim, proprietary data chains and 'no employee fraternization' policies whatsoever (certainly not smiled upon) as we'd meet and fancy ourselves slipping as Good Illuminati Agents would do into the frigid alcoves just off the ice rutted streets of a free Stalingrad with it's gentler snowflakes falling down then I thought,

"Hahahahahaha! Dude, I love you. But I'm *already sleeping* with Tim in the nude"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIGPaeJXQOU&feature=PlayList&p=4F90B2E53C39F7D1&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=3
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 04:52 PM
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15. Nance, I am so sorry for your loss.
What a wonderful think for Sakura to do, though.

They really DO know.

:hug:

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texanwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 04:57 PM
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16. So sorry to hear about you friend.
I lost two dear friends last year, still miss them.

Keep the memories alive, the good times y'all had.

Yes, cats do know things.

I still want to call them on the phone or email them, and catch myself.

It will get easier.

:hug: :hug: :hug:
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blueraven95 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 06:41 PM
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17. I'm so sorry
:hug:
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 07:05 PM
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18. Beautiful.
:cry:

I have a cat. He knows everything.
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Dystopian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-25-09 11:02 PM
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19. My heartfelt condolences....
Nance...beautifully written. I'm so very sorry for your loss....
My heart aches for her son who found her. Forever etched in his memory...so very tragic.

Thank you for sharing Sakura...she really does know.
Cheyenne brought the two of you together in your time of sorrow and need.

Your gift...
While I would rage against the world in my grief...You have the gift to release in the written word...
A candle now burns beside me for your beloved Cheyenne...

Her light will burn brightly in your soul forever...
She will always be with you....
Sending love to Sakura...she needs you like she never wanted you to know...

peace and love to you, Nance...



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