Passive-Aggressive vs Outright Hostile

[MrScorpio]

[Iggo]

1. ...or as it's called at our house, "Active-Aggressive." (n/t)

[Skittles]

2. I WILL KICK YOUR ASS

[Quantess]

Thank you for posting this!

I am currently having to deal with the crazy-makings of a passive-agressive sister. I know that she has made passive aggressive insults her whole life, and so, when there is a doubt as to whether she really meant it or not, I just figure she meant it as an insult.

Crazy making, I tell you!

[undeterred]

9. We may have the same sister.

:hi:

[denbot]

3. I'll kill you all!!! Auurrgh!!!

:mad: :grr: :mad:

[haele]

4. At least with outright hostile, you know where you stand -

And you know what to expect and what to avoid. You even might be able to negotiate truces and compromises if the hostile person has half a brain and isn't on a power trip.
But -
You can't ever trust Passive Aggressive people; because they need their power trips, they'll move their goalposts without letting you know to keep control - they tend to appear to enjoy not only being miserable (poor little old victimized me), but manipulating situations and appearances to make everyone else even more miserable than they are.

Bah. They're both assholes. One's in your face while the other is behind you looking for the best spot to stab and twist.

Haele

[MrScorpio]

6. Bingo!

[auntAgonist]

11. well said and right on n/t

[Kali]

5. outright hostile is my choice

although I can see the "pleasures" of passive aggressive from watching it at a distance

[graywarrior]

7. Passive-aggressives need to be beaten with an eat shit and die.

[BreweryYardRat]

8. Outright hostility.

I can deal with that a lot better.

[struggle4progress]

10. Is this just mouthy "outright hostile" or "outright hostile" with booze and firearms?

[baldguy]

12. I've alraedy told you, asshole.

Why can't you PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!

[NNadir]

13. Why is there no choice for witty and snide?

Beats 'em both you know...

[OffWithTheirHeads]

14. Oh trust me. As a child who learned to be passive aggressive as a means to survival

I can talk you into almost anything and make you think it was your idea. Direct aggression just pisses people off. Those of us who had to learn this behavior to survive are much more subtle.

[susanr516]

16. You're right

The true art of passive aggression is getting your way without anyone realizing what's going on. (I'm also a survivor.)

[OffWithTheirHeads]

17. I know. That's why most people would prefer us to just be aggressive

They can identify it and respond to it. Passive aggression is subtle. You almost have to be there to identify it and recognize it. Those of us who live with it know the difference.

[SeattleGirl]

15. Outright hostile

At least that way, I know what I'd be fighting against.

Passive-aggressive people drive me nuts.

[volstork]

18. Outright hostile

Fewer ulcers all around